Parents' doubts about educating their children are still 1
First-year student Committee,
What are the negative effects on children?
Nancy: This concept is too strange for us to answer.
Allen: Children of this age are easily influenced by adults. As a parent, I hope I am the one who influences my children-I don't want to give this task to anyone except myself and my husband. At the same time, it is also important to live in a big family with grandparents, cousins, uncles and aunts. I can't imagine a child without that experience.
Jacqui: I think children will feel abandoned by their parents and can't understand. Children at that age will worry that you will never come back when you leave. If you send them to live with others for a long time, it may cause emotional attachment problems.
Lydia: The roles played by parents are very different from those played by teachers. Parents love their children unconditionally and devote themselves wholeheartedly at all times, while teachers need to be more objective. Emotionally, I think, as Jacqui said, boarding first-year students may do some harm to children.
Nancy: Besides, living in a group will bring more pressure to children. I think it depends on why parents send their children to boarding schools. Maybe they have no choice. Maybe they don't have grandparents to help with the children. I want to know why my parents made such a choice, or whether they have other choices.
Lydia: Yes, if it is one thing for this family to have no school, sending their children to boarding school is the only way to get their children educated. Parents are too busy running a business to leave their children around, that's another matter.
Nancy: For example, in the school for children of migrant workers in the suburbs of Beijing, parents seldom see their children, because they work far away from home, and these children may have a better quality of life by boarding at school. So it depends.
As a parent, I don't want to give up the opportunity to shape values for my children. Values are formed in the early stage of children's development, and I don't want others to shape my children's values-even for my adolescent children, I think so.
Parents' doubts about educating their children II.
How can we train children not to lose China culture?
Can you learn western knowledge again?
If what you mean by China culture is something that is traditional and valued by a family, such as traditional lifestyle, traditional celebrations, family life and so on. I think China culture is in complete conflict with western education.
Allen: I agree. New york is a pluralistic society with many nationalities and cultures, but you will find that people can not only keep their own unique culture-food, family, religious beliefs, etc. We must also integrate into the big environment and find a balance.
Lydia: But if by "China culture" you mean that a child must obey and not question his elders, then there may be conflicts-especially if they are learning to think and question independently at school.
I think you should try to expose your children to their own culture and broaden their knowledge. You should remind them who we are and why we do it.
Lydia: Besides, if schools can give children excellent social skills and self-awareness, children will know that they should behave differently on different occasions. For example, when I am at home with my grandmother, I am very obedient; At school, I will think independently and question independently.
Nancy: I think it's the same for children everywhere. Playing with friends on the playground is different from playing at grandparents' home. You must teach these things to children.
Lydia: The change of language rules.
Allen: Yes, I don't think these things are in conflict. One is about moral behavior, and the other is about exploration, curiosity and questioning-not necessarily challenging authority. When adults ask you to do something, you should learn to respect and be curious to explore.
Nancy: That's why rules and boundaries are important. Parents and teachers should teach their children to learn self-discipline, but at the same time, they should also let their children learn to manage their impulsive emotions and behaviors in the process of growth and learning.
Allen: Speaking of this, people often misunderstand the concept of "enlightenment education" and think that it is education without any rules. But in fact, I think enlightenment education needs more discipline and self-control.
Nancy: Because enlightenment education provides more choices. No one tells children what to do, and children must make their own choices.
Jacqui: I find this question difficult to answer.
Lydia: Sometimes parents may be in a dilemma. Not all children can quickly grasp the context and switch modes. I can imagine a scene where parents may need to explain to grandparents that the child's behavior is not disrespectful to grandparents, but related to what he learned at school.
Pre-school education experts carefully took notes when meeting with the leaders of a school in Shanghai.
Parents' doubts about educating their children are still 3
When is the best age for bilingual education?
Nancy: The sooner the better. Learning a second language is very good for a child, and the earlier you start, the better. But it depends on what you do. In Aiwen World School, children begin to receive immersion language teaching at the age of three-this is not simply to teach a language, but to learn the contents of a language. The difference is that for them, learning a language is a natural process. They learn by being exposed to that language in a linguistic environment. Just as you teach your children Chinese, they learn it naturally, not by having a language lesson once a week. If they start early, they will learn more easily, and the later they start, the harder it will be. So immersion teaching can help children master a language easily.
Parents' doubts about educating their children are still 4
How to cultivate children with wide interests?
Jacqui: Let them have a wide exposure to all kinds of things.
Nancy: Let them touch what they like, not what you choose for them. For example, you want them to learn to play the violin, which is different from their own interest in music. Being exposed to music doesn't mean that you have to take music lessons at this age.
Allen: This difference is very important to the development of this era. Take music for example. You should play different kinds of music for them to explore and enjoy, instead of sending them to music classes. Another example is art. You should give them a lot of artistic materials, take them to museums and discuss what you see. It's not like sending them to class at the age of three or four and listening to others talk about what art is. These are two completely different experiences.
Parents' doubts about educating their children are still 5
We often hear about "playing middle school"
How should a child play best?
Allen: I think the most important thing is that you should give your children time to play. Children should also be provided with materials to encourage their creative play, such as paper, scissors, crayons, watercolor pens, building blocks and so on. You should also give them some costume props to play other roles. After that, let them play by themselves. They will show you their ideas and creativity.
Nancy: Doing more exercise helps to develop children's great sports ability.
Allen: Yes, playing outdoors. Go out and let them play catch. It is very important for children to run, climb mountains and keep fit. We found that many children in new york need special treatment because they have not exercised muscles for a long time. As a parent, watching them play will make you feel very happy. I think nothing is more interesting than sitting on the ground and watching the children play and participate.