In real life, many underachievers are autistic, so it is common to accept "preaching". Teachers are most afraid of losing their temper, or saying something very unpleasant, even sarcasm and scolding. These practices are extremely inappropriate. If you want students to accept your point of view, you must convince them that you mean well. You are the person he can trust, so he will open his heart and tell you his confidence. Therefore, teachers must start talking with underachievers in a friendly way. For example, pat him on the shoulder, let him walk with you, or "chat", or help him tidy his clothes to show concern, create a harmonious atmosphere for the conversation and lay a good emotional foundation for communication.
Second, start with praise.
The main purpose of talking to underachievers is to help them grow up quickly. After discovering difficulties, bad behaviors or mistakes, it is urgent to care and persuade education. Generally speaking, conversation should not come straight to the point. You can praise his merits first, and then have a substantive conversation. If the teacher can increase the frequency of conversation, ask questions about life and study this week at the beginning of each week, and give some guiding opinions in advance, so as to nip in the bud, especially for those students who "forget their paws as soon as they land", the effect will be better!
Third, start with "yes"
Underachievers are mostly stubborn and unwilling to argue, and there is always a "no" in their hearts. When a person says "no", all his personal dignity requires sticking to the end, and the whole organization condenses into a state of struggle with endocrine and neuromuscular. When a person says "yes", this phenomenon will not happen, and his body tissues will adopt a forward, accepting, open and unguarded attitude. At this time, it is best to talk to him. When teachers and underachievers talk about problems in study or life, they must consider how to get students to answer "yes, yes" at the beginning. If we can get the underachievers to say "yes" in the first sentence, the dialogue can go on, otherwise it can't go on and we can only wait for the opportunity.
Fourth, grasp the emotional line of understanding and sympathy.
All people are eager for understanding and sympathy. Therefore, when we talk with underachievers, we must express our deep understanding and sympathy for his situation, ideas and current situation. Our teacher has been in contact with students for a long time in the front line of teaching and knows the situation of students very well. For example, a student talked about his family: his father only played mahjong to fight the landlord, and his parents divorced, each with his own place, and no one cared about him. He didn't live with his father until he was in his seventies, and he has always been the object of care in the school, which undoubtedly brought great trauma to the students' hearts. All teachers should always talk to him, understand his life and study, and give him warmth. Every conversation, first ask about the recent situation, praise the progress, praise grandpa as a hard-working and strong-willed person, virtually urge him to forge ahead, and then ask him some noteworthy questions, so that he can feel the warmth of the school and the care of the teachers.
Before criticizing, you might as well talk about the shortcomings in your work.
In view of the phenomenon that underachievers are not serious, careless and have a weak sense of responsibility, we must never ignore it and let it go. Teachers can talk about special cases of their own reading. Because of too much homework, they scribble in order to catch up with the task, admit that they are sometimes careless and list the bad consequences. Teachers should use their personal prestige, their sincere love and expectation for students to influence them subtly, and then let students reflect on themselves, recall whether they have done anything uncomfortable recently, and see if they can remedy it, so that underachievers can't have the phenomenon of "broken pots and broken falls".
6. Put "generous praise" throughout the conversation.
A person's ability will shrink under criticism and bloom under encouragement. Therefore, we should be good at discovering the subtle progress of underachievers, learn to praise generously, and run through the whole conversation process, pulling a "back shore" and pushing an "abyss".
In addition to these methods, teachers can also adopt the method of "indirectly reminding him of his mistakes to save face" when communicating with underachievers and carrying out ideological education. The purpose is clear and the methods are different. We should pay attention to adopting different methods according to different students' personalities, and we can't follow the same pattern.