In my opinion, there are three most important reasons: 1. The lack of love leads to insufficient emotional nourishment of children, poor parent-child relationship, and children can't get education from their parents. 2. Parents should not lead by example. 3. Parents have conflicting educational concepts, and children are at a loss.

Why have all the above three points become obstacles for children to receive a good education?

First of all, the lack of love has laid the biggest hidden danger for the healthy growth of children.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory holds that people have five levels of needs, from low to high:

The first level: physiological needs; The second level: the need for security; The third level: the need for emotion and belonging; The fourth level: the need for respect; The fifth level: the need for self-realization.

In modern families, parents can easily meet the needs of their children on the first and second floors. After the children meet the physiological needs and safety needs such as eating, drinking and sleeping, the watershed is at the third level-the needs of emotion and belonging, that is, the needs of love.

If a child gets good emotional nourishment and enough love, then he will develop the fourth level of needs, that is, the need for respect. He will respect himself, standardize his behavior to gain the respect of others, and then pursue self-realization.

If parents are busy with work or entertainment and don't give their children enough love emotionally at the early stage of their lives, then the children's hearts will be weak, their self-esteem and self-confidence will be insufficient, and their personality growth will be hindered.

Such children often show lack of initiative, lack of motivation in learning, self-abandonment, poor behavior habits, lack of positive understanding of school or family education, or hostility.

I think everyone is against him, not accepting him, and even rebellious. If children have this psychological state, it is difficult to educate them.

Secondly, parents did not set an example.

Children are a mirror of parents. If the child has a problem, find the reason from the parents' family.

Generally speaking, example is greater than words. As long as parents set an example, children will learn good living habits and principles of being a man.

If parents misbehave or have bad habits, it is easy for children to imitate their parents and get into bad habits.

For example, parents play mahjong and gamble every day, doing nothing and ignoring their children. It is more difficult for children to study hard and form good habits than to ascend to heaven.

Parents are children's first teachers, and good living habits and excellent personality are the cornerstones of children's adult success. Therefore, in order to educate children well, we must first cultivate ourselves!

Thirdly, parents' educational ideas sometimes conflict, and children become sandwich biscuits under different ideas, and they are at a loss.

If parents have different educational ideas, it will do great harm to children!

On the one hand, it is easy to create "two-faced" children, on the other hand, it is not conducive to the cultivation of children's self-control ability. In addition, if parents have different educational concepts, it will reduce their prestige.

Parents disagree on the issue of educating their children, and children will be at a loss, but out of instinct for self-protection, children will choose the side that they think is beneficial to them, and whoever is beneficial to them will listen to them.

For example, my cousin's son is only six or seven years old, but he is good at reading minds and pretending.

Once I came to my house to play, and several brothers and sisters played together. Adults are chatting in the living room. After a while, the little boy burst into tears. I rushed over and he said to me, "My brother and sister bullied me! ..... ",a wink at me.

I can see from his eyes that he is lying, because children usually concentrate on describing sad things, because it is not easy to tell the story clearly.

He said while watching my reaction. After learning what happened, Tim was grabbing toys and pushing his younger brother and sister. Tim is really lying!

However, Tim's parents have different typical educational concepts. My father has strict education in beating and scolding, and usually works outside. His mother dotes on arranged education and takes care of her children at home full time.

When a child encounters a problem, his father scolds him when he is angry, and his mother says it doesn't matter if the child is too young. They often argue and deny each other in front of their children because of their different educational opinions.

Over time, Tim pretended to be poor in front of powerful forces, a bully in front of weak forces, and refused to listen to his mother's education. He just acts like a spoiled child.

Conclusion: The failure of family education is often related to the lack of love education for children, the failure of parents to set an example and the conflict of parents' educational concepts.

If you want to educate your children well, you must give them enough and stable love, set a good example for them, reach a consensus with your partner on parenting and grow up in the practice of parenting!