-"Can we hurt you? We are doing this for your own good! "

-"Why don't you know how to be grateful for sacrificing so much for you!"

I don't know if you have heard these words advertised as "for your own good" in the process of getting along with your parents. Anyway, I did hear a lot when I was a child, including my friends and classmates. In China, they all seemed to have the same parents. So why do families in China carry out repressive education?

(A) Chinese education has a tradition of "not accustomed to weapons".

Suppress the high-pressure state and habits from parents.

Many parents pursue the education of "a dutiful son is born under the stick"

Many parents will carefully teach their children practical jokes at first, but the way of persuasion is not in place and has no effect, so they feel that "the child is disobedient and just eat a meal." It is true that the child took out the stick and stopped crying, but the root cause did not cure the problem. Next time, the child may cry because of the same problem. Parents still use sticks to suppress education, ridicule and throw cold water, thus forming a vicious circle.

Moreover, this "attack on education" will make children feel fear and fear. They are worried about making mistakes not because they realize their mistakes, but because they are afraid of being scolded by their parents, which will easily lead to the formation of timidity, inferiority and self-fear, and affect their own growth and development.

(2) Parents will also be influenced by their family background and continue their authority.

In the CCTV educational documentary Mirror, 14-year-old Ze Qing said: I am a mirror, and my face can show how loyal I am to my parents, and how similar I am to them both in appearance and in heart.

-China, the education of the older generation is very strict. From the school rules and regulations, as well as a family's family rules and regulations, it shows that the education in ancient China was rigid and closed.

Children must obey the rules, make no mistakes and not challenge the authority of their parents. Only children who obey the rules are excellent children. Most of our parents' parents, even generations, educate their children in a "repressive" way. The influence of family background is far-reaching. What parents show their children will be subtly passed on to them, and our parents will naturally bring us the influence from their parents.

Since we can't help it, how can we educate our children? All this requires every parent to reflect and think.

Suzuki, a famous Japanese educator, said: "For children's education, parents should first strive to cultivate their children's abilities in all aspects with love and enthusiasm, and learn to encourage and appreciate their children, instead of forcing them to learn to obey with words and actions of blame and attack, because children who grow up in intimidation and fear can only become timid and hypocritical!"

"Repressive education" has indeed educated many excellent children. For example, Dong Qing, an excellent host, has made great achievements under her father's strict education, but is she really happy? In fact, although children will appreciate their parents' education, they are all more eager for their parents' care and understanding. Therefore, whenever they talk about their father, Dong Qing's eyes are filled with gratitude and regret.

Children with "strike" education may make few mistakes and look sensible and smart, but they are cautious all their lives and are afraid of breaking the rules and making mistakes. Therefore, parents should first respect and understand their children, and combine kindness with kindness and example, which is the most appropriate way of education.

-Parents should learn to let go, don't be too harsh and control, and let their children live in a healthy environment in live high.