First, it can only be said that parents' educational level has improved and their requirements have naturally improved. When we were students, many parents couldn't read. It was great to graduate from high school. If whose parents are high school students, it will be even more admirable. What do parents say now? Most of them graduated from junior high school, and few of them were illiterate. Some parents are doctors, much better than teachers. Of course, teachers will not be respected because they can't read.
Second, parents have higher expectations for their children. In the past, children went to school, and those with good grades continued to go to school. Those with poor grades can go to a technical school or take over. Parents think that they are all jobs within the system, as long as they have food. In the past, the enrollment rate was low, after all, only a few students were admitted to the university, most of them failed, and there was no psychological imbalance between parents.
But now the enrollment rate is so high, there are very few children around who don't go to high school or college. Why should their children be ethnic minorities? Therefore, there are high expectations for children and high requirements for teachers. Parents also dare to express, although sometimes the attitude may not be very good, but this is the voice of others, and there is nothing wrong with it.
Third, why do you feel that parents are in charge of more and more things now? It can only be said that parents do not trust teachers, and the status of teachers has not improved or even declined. Therefore, parents can also intervene in school affairs, such as arranging class seats and choosing teachers for their children. , and always go to the headmaster, always go to the education bureau. In the past, parents didn't even care where the education bureau was.
Fourth, as a teacher, we should change our mentality and learn to put ourselves in others' shoes. Some things may not be difficult to understand from the standpoint of parents. Of course, don't forget your innovative spirit. Doing your job well is the most important thing. Don't mind other people's mouths, just do your own thing!
Because parents are generally better educated and their living standards are better than before.
When you say that parents are "self-righteous", you mean that parents think they know everything. Don't your parents accept your educational advice? In the face of such parents, I send you three words "accept him"
Excuse me, are you a teacher? I think you should meet several such parents, and most of them are willing to communicate with you about their children's education. The so-called "interlacing is like a mountain", our teachers' suggestions may not be put in place, but at least they will accept it, because they know that our starting point is good and the suggestions given must be based on the characteristics of children.
After so many years of front-line education, my experience and lessons tell me that if you really meet a "self-righteous" parent, you should still give advice. Our starting point is for the children, not for him, and don't change his children because of the parents' attitude. We are just teachers, not saints. We can't change anyone with our meager strength, just do our best.
There will be one or two parents of this type in each class, and you can't avoid it. It's better to accept boring words. I think such parents can also feel self-righteous as long as they really think about their children.
This is my personal experience. There are such parents in my class this semester. Their children have many problems, such as homework can't be finished, they can't make up, they are late for class (near school), and they all say, "Well, come back and let him make up." Still the same. It's good to finish homework on time three times a week, but they don't do much cleaning and don't get along well with their classmates. If they have problems with others. Parents also come to school again and again to look for it. They always feel that their children are bullying their children. In fact, most of them are looking for something, just not using it. There are many similar situations. Every time I answer his phone, my head gets bigger. ...
After such a long time, few people want to play with their children. Whenever there is a problem, they ask me to find someone else. They often tell me how to educate my children. Even I have my own opinion on how to encourage children. I can't do it without it. ...
I accept his "self-righteousness" one by one, but for his children, I will use the break time to let his children make up their homework, remind his children repeatedly not to be late, and tell them how to integrate well into the circle of classmates ... I never look at him with colored eyes. The result is that even if he has a problem with my educational methods, there is nothing to make trouble about. My starting point is for his children.
So in the face of such parents, they will "accept him" in three words.
Because they are experiencing something they have never experienced before-parenting.
When people go through a process that they have never experienced before, they will find many novel things, and when these things are combined with their own experiences, they will get some insights, which will make them feel a sense of sublimation of life, so they will be complacent and self-righteous.
Not all parents nowadays are self-righteous. Parents always do. They have some experience in raising children, so they think that education is nothing more than that. I have been teaching for more than 30 years and have met many parents, including my students who have grown into parents. It can be said that almost all parents will talk about education in Kan Kan, and they are more confident than me.
We used to take two children from relatives to school. One is a worker's family, and the other three are children. The older one will be unsustainable when he graduates from junior high school. When I failed the junior high school exam in Grade One, I helped with the exam for a year. One is a farmer's family, and parents have been taking care of it for several years. Years later, they will talk about educational experience and how to educate their children.
Education is not only to educate children how to behave and learn, but also to guide the educated to have psychological changes by adopting scientific educational methods according to educational laws. The reality is that anyone, in any way, can make the educated have psychological changes. The difference is that the educated have different psychological feelings and get different educational results.
Because there is no clear judgment standard, it is generally unclear who has a good educational effect and who is not. The simplest thing is whether you can get into a good university and get a good job, and then you will say: whose children are well educated and whose children are not well educated. As for the child's personality, thinking ability, mood, problem-solving ability and other internal factors, no one knows.
The ancients have long said that ignorance is fearless. When people know nothing about a certain field, they think it is not profound. The current attitude towards education and teachers illustrates this point.
Is this question from the child's point of view or from the teacher's point of view?
Different angles reflect different generation gaps and estrangements, and show the different cognition of these two roles to their parents.
Let's start with children.
Parents' "self-righteousness" is mainly reflected in interfering with and changing their children's personality development, hobbies and daily communication, and always thinking about the kind of life they have arranged, thinking that half a life's experience can make their children's future path easier.
From the teacher's point of view.
Parents' "self-righteousness" is mainly reflected in questioning and responsibility for teachers' teaching quality and teaching methods, and always blaming schools and teachers for their children's poor grades.
So, are parents really so "self-righteous" I think: most parents are not self-righteous, and at most they just make some wrong guesses on the basis of not knowing the specific situation. No matter how much, there is nothing wrong.
I think so, too. In the process of interacting with people, if you always speculate on others with your own ideas, you will look down on people from a worse angle-unfair to the speculated people; For ourselves, living in our own world is a kind of narrowness.
If there is more speculation, there will be more misunderstandings and mutual trust cannot be guaranteed. In this case, how can we make the role of parents more serious? Don't say parents, any role will be misunderstood.
Jing M.Guo's ignorance!
It has gone through the process from poverty to food and clothing, to a well-off society, and then to relative prosperity. Just like a veteran who has gone through the 25,000-mile long March, he feels that he has suffered all kinds of hardships and enjoyed all kinds of blessings, showing a condescending attitude, which is actually a typical manifestation of ignorance.
Most parents have been educated for more than 12 years and consider themselves intellectuals. They never consider the quality of education. They will only show off their years of academic qualifications, talk about things with diplomas, and sneer at schools, teachers and policies. It is better to let him be the first person in the national education system. It's a frog in the well.
Network information, everything can be checked, everything can be paid attention to, and there is a clear set of ideas for children's feeding, education and training, but they are all used and eliminated, regarded as treasures, eternal experiments and victims.
Lack of talent, lack of morality, ignorance and lack of education make parents more and more self-righteous, which really harms others and themselves!
Because most parents have experienced higher education above junior college, have their own opinions and opinions, and usually take the initiative to learn a lot about education and parenting, so we communicate with parents now, no matter whether you are a teacher in a public school or a teacher in an extracurricular training institution, you rarely meet ignorant parents. Therefore, the current education industry needs specialization and refinement more and more.
Because many parents now add their own opinions to their children's education, they don't know what their children like or dislike, but they have to like what their parents like. So many children do not develop according to their own talents, but according to their parents' preferences. It is suggested to do a mysterious whole brain development first, so that more children can develop according to their talents.
Because parents have money.
Everything parents say and do is right or wrong, which is normal. Of course, children can judge whether their parents are right or wrong. Sadly, many parents cannot judge. Even if they know they are wrong, they won't admit it, let alone apologize.
I sympathize with the landlord, everyone has self-esteem, which is undoubtedly understandable, but many parents trample on their children's self-esteem in order to safeguard their children's self-esteem, which is the parents' fault. At the same time, it is not easy for parents to give birth to you and raise you. It is right for children to be grateful, and the landlord also mentioned it. ) naturally, there will be a strong desire for control, thinking that children should listen to themselves in everything, but many parents do not. It is normal for parents and children to have unequal status, because parents have big fists and money. However, when this status gap is too large, it is a very bad thing. Children always have a very bad psychological feeling that they are slaves and have no right to speak. Of course, I think children must also realize that they can't blame their parents blindly. Personally, I think this may be the dregs of our China culture.