Six-year-old children begin to enter the transition period of self-centered growth.
From family to school, he selectively establishes his own circle, contacts teachers whose influence may surpass his parents, and faces a brand-new evaluation model-achievement after "stepping into society".
From this moment on, the standard of judging whether it is "good" or "bad" becomes clear and accurate: most parents will judge and demand their children by "grades".
Therefore, a growth stage with fragile heart, rich feelings, immature mind and special self has become the first turning point in children's life and the most distressing period for many parents.
Today, let's discuss: the key points of 6- 12-year-old children's growth and the methods of cultivating key abilities.
Children aged 6- 12 are in primary school, their bodies are growing and developing, their brain structure is well developed, and their self-awareness and self-esteem are getting stronger and stronger.
1, curiosity and exploration awareness are enhanced.
Children's self-awareness is perfect and they begin to explore selectively. They will be full of curiosity and desire to explore one thing and will soon turn to another.
2, distraction, and difficult to last.
Because of curiosity, I will pay attention to multiple focuses at the same time. This is why many children suddenly think of doing something while eating.
3. Self-management consciousness is weak
Weak will, rich and unstable emotions, poor initiative and persistence, vulnerable to external interference, unable to manage themselves independently.
4. The development of sensory perception is not harmonious.
Many children's senses, hands, eyes and limbs are more or less uncoordinated.
For example, poor sense of direction and love of wrestling are all proprioception disorders; Active and inattentive are vestibular sensory disorders; Don't like being touched, grumpy is a tactile disorder; Dyslexia and radical inversion are visual dysplasia. ...
5. Thinking and memory are in a transitional period.
From thinking in images to abstract thinking, from mechanical memory (unconscious memory) to abstract memory (conscious memory), thinking and memory are in a transitional period of growth, which is more suitable for catchy recitation.
6. Low level of self-evaluation.
Self-awareness is increasing, but the ability of thinking and judgment is not perfect. Children aged 6- 12 are good at evaluating others, and the evaluation criteria are constantly changing; It's easy to see your strengths, but it's hard to realize your weaknesses.
Therefore, I always think that I am right and fickle; Not only is it easy to turn your face, but it is also as fast as lightning.
Generally speaking, the development is immature and in a period of rapid growth. All children's troubles are caused by the contradiction between growth and limitation.
After children enter primary school, parents begin to pay attention to four aspects: healthy development, grades, interests, and habitual personality (now most parents begin to favor comprehensive quality).
Health problems can be found and treated in time; Interest can be cultivated and reported to the training class; No matter how good the grades are, there is a bottom in my heart ... Only habits and personality are the problems that every parent talks about every day and always worries about.
Good habits and good character are a general and abstract concept. Without standards, even if there is a systematic method, it cannot be fully applied to every parent and child.
However, habitual personality is the cornerstone that affects a child's life.
The grades and scores in primary school don't mean anything. Many children don't show their advantages in exams until junior high school or even senior high school, which is also the most useful time.
Therefore, the key to the growth of 6- 12-year-old children lies in the cultivation of excellent personality and good habits.
Here, we implement, do not need too many habitual personalities, just insist, and it will naturally become the main line of personality. Any kind of good personality can perfectly support a child's life.
6- 12 years old needs to cultivate habits: reading and writing, reflecting and summarizing, planning and trying, and spending money on accounting.
6- 12 years old needs to cultivate personality: respect, self-confidence, honesty and cooperation.
Some parents say that independence, hygiene, sharing and politeness ... all need to be cultivated before the age of 6.
Whether it is a habit or a character, it can only be carried out for a period of time 1, and parents must supervise it for at least 3-6 months to develop it.
Must implement the time, project, quantity, result, reward and punishment.
For example, develop children's reading and writing skills:
1, set up a writing fund of 1000 yuan for one month (don't give him extra pocket money, he will get all his expenses from here);
2. Prepare a fairy tale by Andersen, and choose 1- 15 as this month's goal;
3. It is required to read 1 story and 300 words of thoughts every 2 days.
4. Reward 50 yuan every 1; Interrupt 1 penalty 20 yuan; Continuous completion of 15 articles, in addition to the basic expenses, 200 yuan will be awarded extra;
During the operation, once the accounting is completed, it is executed. Don't settle accounts once a week/month, it will lose its meaning.
The benefits of this setting are obvious:
1, which is the only source of children's pocket money;
2. Cultivate children's economic awareness;
3. Cultivate children's consumption planning ability;
4. Children will have the concepts of task and responsibility, punishment and reward;
Children are reading and writing every day. Not only do they have habitual behaviors and exercise their willpower, but their knowledge, thinking and summing-up ability will also grow imperceptibly.
So don't pursue too much, but seriously implement one, which has been successful in children's education. Because personality is related, children will grow, continue and expand independently.
We talked about the key points of growth and then talked about how to solve the existing common problems.
Here is a brief list of six common problems in the growth of primary school students. This paper will not discuss them in depth, but will analyze them independently in other articles in the future.
1, inferiority complex
In the long-term negative and constrained growth environment, I lost myself; Or pay too much attention to your own shortcomings and have no courage to play your own advantages.
2. Dependence psychology
Dependence caused by pampering and authoritative control has not developed a sense of independence.
3. Tired of learning.
The fundamental reason for being tired of learning is that you can't get pleasure and affirmation from learning. The most common thing is to be trained when writing, to be afraid if you don't do well in the exam, and to love if you do well in the exam.
Step 4 make friends
Children's emotions and opinions are in an unstable period, which is said to be faster than "children turning their faces". Most of them are normal contradictions in making friends, so it is enough to give correct values guidance.
5. Poor willpower
The weakness of personality at a specific stage has been shared in detail above. The way to cultivate habits and personality is to exercise willpower and persistence.
6. Sick personality
Everyone has inferiority complex such as envy, jealousy, hatred and comparison, which is closely related to the problem of making friends in point 4. The core method is the correct guidance of values.
In fact, in the process of children's growth, it is not entirely to get rid of "bad habits" first, and then cultivate good habits. There is no fixed order.
On the contrary, we should ignore children's small shortcomings, don't deliberately nag, don't be harsh ... In the process of growing up, because the mind and various abilities are in the development stage, "conventional mistakes in adult consciousness" will inevitably appear.
When a person's advantages shine enough, it naturally limits the room for the growth of shortcomings, and others can't see or ignore those trivial shortcomings.
Therefore, don't care too much about your child's small shortcomings, focus on his glowing place, and find ways to help him persist and expand, and your child will naturally become a big tree in your eyes.
There are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can't teach well.
Learn enlightenment education, be an excellent parent, and accompany children to grow up well.
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