First, enthusiastic communication. Interpersonal relationships are interactive. Don't always passively wait for others to take the initiative to care about yourself, but actively communicate with classmates around you. Being open to yourself is contagious. You are open to others, and others will be open to you. When the other person walks out of the dead circle, you will not only have a deeper understanding of the other person, but more importantly, you will also have a new understanding and experience of yourself.
Second, we must understand respect. Everyone has their own temperament and personality characteristics, different growth backgrounds and living habits, so if we can understand and respect each other in the process of interacting with our classmates, our relationship will be easy to be harmonious and reduce unnecessary friction.
Third, be honest with each other. The most important thing in interpersonal communication is sincerity and goodwill, which is also the fundamental principle of being a man. It is difficult for a hypocritical and arrogant person to have friends.
Fourth, tolerance and understanding. As the saying goes: "No one is perfect, and gold is not enough." The students around us (including ourselves) are still in the growth stage, and there are often many inappropriate places to deal with problems. On many issues, students will have different views, which requires us to put ourselves in each other's shoes and understand each other, so as not to lead to hostility. There will inevitably be disputes and misunderstandings when students get along with each other. If the misunderstanding deepens, it is easy to cause a strong reaction. When we were young, we were all very impulsive, and we would take the wrong measures to solve things because of the impulse, so that there would be constant fights. The wrong method can't solve any problems, and it is dangerous to have an incorrect understanding of mistakes. If there is a dispute in your usual relationship, don't hold it in your heart. People who like to be jealous are always very tired. As the saying goes, "Take a step back and broaden the horizon." If everyone can take a small step back, there will be room to buffer misunderstandings, avoid the harm of any party, and sublimate everyone's hearts. Roll with the punches, roll with the punches, we should understand the seriousness of the matter before making a decision. When you encounter communication problems, you should think calmly about how to deal with things.
Fifth, eliminate the sense of dependence. There is also an unhealthy mentality in interpersonal communication, that is, people with a strong sense of dependence always want others to care about themselves like their parents, brothers and sisters, and they have to make their own decisions in everything, which is a sign of lack of independence. Excessive dependence will also develop into a desire for control. They force others to study with themselves, review their lessons together, inform them of their action plans, and even restrict others from interacting with other students. This is a character defect, which should be corrected in time.
In addition, when getting along with classmates, we should also pay attention to some things we shouldn't do, mainly in the following aspects:
Avoid personality inequality. Students are equal in personality, so they should respect each other. Those who are proud or feel inferior may artificially widen the distance with other students. Affect the normal development of classmates' relationship.
Second, avoid small groups. There are always some good friends who study and live in a class group, but they avoid long-term contact with several good classmates and don't get along with others. Especially when there is a contradiction between the interests of small groups and collective interests, class collective interests should be given priority and individual small collective interests should be abandoned.
Three bogey unfair comparison. When students communicate, they will inevitably compare. The key is to compare what is ambition, what is self-confidence and what is vanity. If it is better than ideological progress and learning progress, this is of course good; But if it is better than matter, it is not desirable.
Four avoid gossiping. Students should be cautious in getting along with each other and gossiping behind their backs, which is the most taboo thing among students. The correct way is not to pass it on or say it. When you hear what others say, you should carefully analyze the truth, and don't be credulous and blindly follow.
Five taboos: talking hurts people. A good word warms spring, but a bad word hurts June. We should consciously cultivate the ability to respect others, speak gently, pay attention to the beauty of language, and avoid being self-righteous, insulting and hurting people.
Six taboos are poor imitation. The communication between classmates should help each other in the progress of both sides. If you live with the lame, you will learn to limp. Be good at making friends, learn to choose, and treat others sincerely.