Rule 1: Find ways to make children interested in learning. There is a kind of parent-teacher meeting that finds out a lot of after-school exercises for children to continue to brush the questions after their children finish the homework assigned by the teacher, which has the momentum of "as long as they can't brush, they will brush to death". Letting children brush their questions like this will only directly erode their interest in learning. It can be said that interest in learning is the endogenous motivation for children to concentrate on their studies. What parents have to do is to make their children interested in learning, so that their academic performance will become more and more excellent. The second type: let children learn to be their own feelings independently. A parent told me that she was distressed to see her child doing so much homework every day, so from one day on, she directly helped her child complete all the homework assigned by the teacher. As a result, when children formed the habit of never doing homework, their academic performance plummeted, and children became the object of teachers' neglect. The teacher of the child gave up the child directly after learning that the parents helped the child with his homework, and the parents finally paid the corresponding price for their doting. Parents spoil their children blindly, and the children can only become the legendary "giant baby" in the end. In family education, children should be allowed to do their own things. Parents should not do everything just because they are poor. Try to make children independent and learn to use their own hands and brains, which will naturally become better and better.
The third type: praise the little progress in the child's growth.
Stupid parents always compare their children with other people's children, while smart parents compare their children's previous performance with their present progress. Compared with other children, children's self-esteem is completely lost; In the vertical comparison with the past, children's self-confidence is more and more sufficient, and various behavior habits are naturally more and more standardized, so that children's development in all aspects enters the realm of "self-motivation without whipping".
Fourth: when praising children, affirm their efforts.
Some parents often boast that their children are smart, great and powerful, giving them an illusion that they may feel that their IQ is really high. When a child finds that he is not so "great", so "smart" and so "powerful" one day, he may give up on himself. Therefore, when the child's performance in a certain aspect makes parents very satisfied, what parents should do is to affirm the child's efforts or diligence when the child progresses, and let the child know that he has achieved certain results because of his special efforts, so that the child will work harder in the next performance.
Fifth: find ways to make yourself a role model for children.
In family education, parents had better shout themselves out. Many times, parents are children's "living teaching materials". Parents should set an example and make their children look like. For example, if parents want their children to concentrate on their studies, they should not play mobile phones crazily when their children are studying. Laughing nonstop, it is difficult for children to be interested in books, but they are particularly interested in your mobile phone. If parents laugh while reading, then children may be particularly interested in the books in your hand. If you don't believe me, you can try them.
Sixth: Respect children's emotional experience in life.
Parents should respect their children's emotional experience, whether they are teenagers or ignorant children. Don't yell at children at every turn, don't nag in front of them, and don't beat and scold them. If you are a parent, you should think about this question: If you are a child, what will your mood be like if your parents scold, nag and yell at you? Respect children and their emotional experiences, children will become more confident, and the road of life will be smoother and smoother in the future.
I hope my answer can help you.