Thanks for inviting me. That's really hard to answer. Educating a child doesn't happen overnight. It can only be coaxed and influenced from all aspects again and again. You can't do it with an educational attitude, especially in the rebellious period of youth. Tell him patiently and list the bad things with negative examples. Over time, he will remember positive things.
Modern children's education is a complex and systematic problem. As parents, we should establish the concept that it takes ten years to grow trees and a hundred years to cultivate people. When people first came to this world, it was a dead letter, and its content gradually increased and diversified. Its content has a positive and enterprising side, but also has a negative impact and brings negative things. This also includes gratitude to others and society-one of the most important factors for human beings!
Children's lack of gratitude should be mainly the result of three aspects. First of all, parents should know that example is better than words. As a child's enlightenment, the first teacher should know the importance, stage and untimely opportunity of education in human growth, and should implement it in all directions and be patient. Love is not only to meet children's material needs, but also to understand that all this is the result of the joint efforts of parents and society. Understand that everything you get is not taken for granted. This is the selfless contribution of parents, and some are the contributions of teachers, classmates and friends. There will be no love for no reason in the world. Getting and giving are mutual, and people and society can be harmonious! Children's parents and teachers are the leaders of education, so we should seize the opportunity to carry out gratitude education. No matter in life or in labor and study, we should enlighten and point out the reasons in time, and understand that if you want something, you have to pay, and if you don't pay, you can't get it. Everybody does! This requires everyone to have a grateful heart and selfless love. Who will help you when you are in trouble, and vice versa!
Finally, the formation of children's virtue, social influence, social responsibility, especially the influence of mainstream consciousness can not be underestimated!
In short, the growth of children and the cultivation of good character are the result of the joint action of family, school and society! This requires three aspects of cooperation and responsibility. Only in this way will the flowers of the motherland bloom and we will be grateful for this beautiful society! I hope to understand the shortcomings. Thank you for inviting me!
In the traditional culture of China, gratitude is indispensable. In this impetuous era, many people just ask for it blindly and take it for granted to get help from others or the resources they need. We have forgotten the word gratitude for a long time, not only selectively.
The closer we are to the source of happiness, the more happiness we get. Everyone understands this truth. People who are always grateful are more closely related to happiness than those who never treat others with gratitude. People who know how to be grateful and have good thoughts often show more friendly feelings and are welcomed by more people. Parents are the first teachers of the children. As parents, we should first know how to be grateful and set an example for our children.
In Sharjah's book The Method of Happiness, the method of learning to be grateful is introduced:
Every night before going to bed, write down five grateful and happy things, big or small. It's better to record it every day, maybe there will be duplicates. The key point is to imagine the experience and feelings when everything happens when recording.
In addition to recording things worthy of gratitude, it is best to have grateful actions. For example, we can invite people who have helped us a lot to our home or invite them to play together. There are many ways to be grateful, but no matter which way, it should be based on deep thinking, not temporary feelings.
In a word, gratitude is an emotional education as well as a moral education. Thanksgiving education should start from an early age and start from small things. Only by learning to be grateful can we know how to cherish; Learn to be grateful before you know how to repay. As long as parents are good at guiding children, let them pay attention to life and feel life, children will be infected. When gratitude becomes a habit, we will cherish the beauty in life more than just take it for granted.
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Children do not know how to be grateful. How should parents guide? Answer: it's not a question of orientation, but a question of upward flow. This problem is very serious, not that children don't know how to be grateful, but that we don't know how to be grateful to grandparents and respect the elderly in our daily life, which has a bad effect on our words and deeds. Another kind of doting on children makes them think only of themselves and not of others. Now that you recognize the problem, correct it immediately. Start from yourself, starting today. If you get up in the morning, you should say hello when you meet your grandparents. If you need to eat before your grandparents, learn to say hello to the elderly. My grandparents are going to school and it's getting late. I'll eat first, and so on, starting with the politeness of language. Let children, including themselves, know who is the elder and who is the size of the family. How to respect the old and love the young? In everyday life, we should put the elderly first in everything. When eating, let the children, including themselves, wash their hands first, then weigh the meals for the elderly first, and then weigh them one by one. When everyone is seated and the old man has finished eating, everyone will start eating. Starting from these small things, one is to set an example for children, and the other is to let children accept the good habit of respecting the old and loving the young from an early age, which is a very basic quality courtesy for children's body and mind. Even when you enter the society, your manners, your quality and your language will make the leaders attach great importance to your performance. Even in today's society, is it necessary to respect leaders and distinguish between big and small in all kinds of tackling key problems and socializing? The leader sat in the innermost part of the banquet and sat in the upper position. And the leader can't move chopsticks, who dares to move? Therefore, whether in China or abroad, whether in society or family, there are young and old. From now on, we should start from ourselves and often read books on physiological history to our children. It was not easy for your grandparents to pull us when we were young. We suffered a lot. As children, on the one hand, we should know how to be grateful, repay the elderly and be filial to our parents, on the other hand, we should also talk about your colleagues and friends. These things are the same from society to family. Just realize it's not too late to start now. Answer over.
Spoiled children will not be grateful, not now, and not when they grow up. Children who live under the control of their parents are not grateful. Parents respect, understand and tolerate their children, and children will respect, understand and tolerate their parents.
How to cultivate gratitude?
1. Parents set an example and set a good example.
There is no doubt about what kind of person you want your children to be. First, be yourself. Because children don't listen to what you say, but look at what you do.
2. Let the children do something for themselves.
When children are very young, they actually want to help their parents. First of all, they are curious. Second, they want to prove their ability and grow. But what do most parents do in life? "Oh, you can't move it, I'll move it." "You're young, I'll help you when you grow up." "I told you, don't make trouble in the kitchen. Look at you, everywhere. "
The child's desire to do something was completely extinguished by these words, and his confidence was also hit. Really wait until the child grows up, parents find that they won't call.
Therefore, when a child has this desire to help his parents, he should be given this opportunity. Even if he is not skilled, has not mastered the skills and can't do it well, his parents should encourage him to do it. He can guide the children to do it while demonstrating. Let children have fun and a sense of accomplishment in helping their parents, and let him know that adults are not omnipotent and sometimes need help. The next time he asks for help, the child will be very happy because he has had many pleasant experiences.
3. Let the children keep a small animal.
By raising small animals, such as goldfish, turtles and rabbits, children can understand their parents' love and expectations. Children play the role of "parents" in the process of raising, and small animals play the role of "children"
Raising small animals makes children understand that their love is the source of healthy growth of small animals. Just as they grow up healthily and happily in the love of their parents.
It is really a blessing for a family to have a child who can understand their parents' hardships, their difficulties and even their gratitude. But in reality, how many parents have devoted their lives to raising a baiwenhang. What kind of person a child becomes in real life often depends on the shaping of parents. Most of those ungrateful children are caused by their parents' inaction. So, what makes children lose gratitude? This includes parents' doting and excessive tolerance for children. Only with correct guidance can there be correct feedback. If you don't want your child to become a baiwenhang in the future, parents should remember the following points. 1, doting on children does not require excessive love from parents, but love is always moderate. Don't do everything, let alone sacrifice yourself. 2, to learn to let go, willing to let children suffer, only children who have suffered will know that their parents are not easy, but in reality, many parents often do their best to let their children enjoy the best living conditions and never give up their children's suffering. Every child needs to grow up through experience and trial and error. If parents can let go, allow their children to make mistakes in life, correct and guide them to correct, and be willing to let their children suffer, children will understand their parents' difficulties. As parents, they should set a good example for their children. They want their children to know how to be grateful. First, they should be role models for their children and lead by example. Parents should pay enough to give their children room to grow up, let them know the hardships of life and be grateful to their parents for their parenting. It is not easy to see the efforts of others and be considerate of others. May all parents be gentle with their children.
First of all, we should find out the reasons why children are not grateful, which is usually related to parents' educational methods.
To cultivate children's gratitude, parents must first know how to be grateful. Parents are role models for their children. If parents can treat their parents, people around them and even children with gratitude. In this way, children will learn to be grateful from their parents.
Secondly, we can make gratitude ritualized. Spend three to five minutes every day, and every member of the family should thank each other.