How did your child become a poor student step by step?
Text/@ We Class 1
The name "poor students" sounds harsh, so now the education sector advocates changing this name to "students with learning difficulties". Actually, it's just a new name, which is essentially the same. We should comfort and encourage children, but as adults, we should know for ourselves. To put it mildly, so what? Will children's grades improve? Has the work efficiency improved? Did the teacher look up at him? Is he happy at school?
Maybe you will say that grades are not the whole life of students. It is true that children with poor grades can also be kind children and lovely children, but in the current educational environment, children with poor grades are likely to be unhappy at school.
Campus is both simple and snobbish. Learning to bully is to gain more admiration from peers and more attention from teachers. Of course, poor students will also get a lot of attention from teachers, but think about it. When you are impatient with teaching your children, the teacher has to take so many classes and correct so many homework every day, and take time to urge your children to make up and correct their homework. He also has to pay attention to whether he is absent-minded, and take notes over and over again in class. Will the teacher have the patience to run out?
What kind of attention will your child get when the teacher loses patience? It is a concern with resentment, and it is a concern that hates iron and does not produce.
Over the years, as a teacher, I can say from the bottom of my heart that everyone has his own strengths, but there are only a few children who are extremely smart and not very smart. Most of them have similar IQs, and there is little difference in their learning ability at first. In the current teaching system, if you can cultivate good study habits from an early age, you may not be a leader, but you won't learn badly. Most of them can still master knowledge well and get good grades.
Teachers meet children who are average in talent, weak in learning ability, but hard-working, and most of them are affectionate and not too embarrassed (if even such children are embarrassed, it means that teachers' morality is really worrying), while those children who are extremely smart and have poor study habits are not much different in their grades, so this article will not discuss them. What makes teachers angry and give up are basically students with poor learning ability but poor study habits. At the same time, family education can't cooperate effectively. This paper will talk about these students, my observation and thinking, and analyze how they become poor students step by step.
one
Almost all the poor students I have contacted have one thing in common, that is, they don't listen. When you talk to others, you don't have the patience to listen carefully, and you can't capture effective information in other people's languages. Once, I went to an idle classroom to move desks and chairs, and several boys went with me to help. I directed two of the boys to move the chairs of the fourth table in the third row to the window, paying attention to the drawers facing outwards.
How did two boys do it? As soon as they heard that they were going to move the table, they immediately ran over there excitedly and asked me, which one, teacher?
They don't listen to what I just told them.
So I told them the instructions again. They lifted the table and moved it under the window, but they put it in the wrong direction and didn't put the drawer outside.
This is a very small thing, I believe many parents have encountered it. Your instructions to children can't work at once. You need to emphasize to him again or even more than once during his operation. But have you ever wondered why children are like this? Why didn't he listen?
In fact, the cultivation of learning quality is a very long project, which can be traced back to early childhood, until the summer vacation when children graduate from kindergarten and are about to go to primary school. A child with poor hearing has not received such a complete and systematic training in his infancy.
Most parents are not professional educators and have no professional knowledge and training methods for some learning disabilities. This is normal. However, it is not a difficult operation to cultivate children's listening habits so that children can benefit a lot after attending primary school. Just need your patience and long-term persistence.
Please think back, since your child babbled, as a parent, did you put down your work and listen patiently when your child talked to you? Do you look at your child's eyes intently when he talks to you? When the child communicated with you, did you give timely feedback on the information he provided to you?
What I have observed is that many parents do not give their children enough respect psychologically when talking to them. They think that what children say is nothing more than trivial and childish things. They may even listen to their children absently while playing with their mobile phones, and then say a good and perfunctory word casually, and it's over.
This habit of listening to others at will has a very bad influence on young children. As the saying goes, parents are children's first teachers. Your behavior affects your children invisibly. You have no patience with your child's words. How can your child have the patience to listen to you?
When children come to express their ideas to you, the right thing to do is to squat or sit down and meet their eyes. You should look him in the eye and show interest. When the child expresses, you should be patient, don't interrupt at will, and keep giving him feedback, such as? Oh, yes, that's it? , or? I see. Do you think this makes you sad? This language will inspire children to express their self-confidence and gain psychological resonance and comfort. When the child has finished speaking, you can give the child feedback: I heard you finish this matter. What do I think? . Your example is the best edification and education for children.
Similarly, when you talk to your children, you should ask them the same question: Come on, look mom (dad) in the eye? And after you finish, seek effective feedback from your child. Did you understand what mom (dad) said? Please repeat what mom just asked. ? Or implement the key message in your conversation: so, you know, the time of our activity is that we will go with you? In this way, make sure your child understands you.
I used to tell stories to children when they were young. Later, smartphones became more and more popular, and some good radio apps were found. I often use litchi fm, and there is a children's story column called? Color zebra tells stories? I've heard it many times. The stories in it are of high quality and the narrator's language skills are in place, which is very suitable for children's psychology. In kindergarten, she listened for about half an hour before going to bed almost every day. I am very willing to listen to this kind of broadcast story to my children. I think listening to stories for half an hour is very helpful to her.
But as a parent, it is not all right to give your child your mobile phone. After listening to the story, I will listen to two or three questions about the story, one of which is aimed at the content of the story, such as? What did the little monkey take to participate in the activity, or? What kind of skirt is the princess wearing? Do you still remember, to ensure that children grasp the information in the story in time during listening, other questions will be asked at the understanding level, such as? Do you agree with the little monkey in the story? Why? These questions are to test whether the children understand the story.
If we can persist in this kind of story-listening training, we can not only exercise children's listening patience and efficiency, but also exercise their thinking and expression skills, which is very helpful and beneficial to children's reading comprehension after going to primary school, but parents need to spend enough time with them.
two
A few days ago, during the May Day holiday, I arranged an assignment in my class, asking my classmates to take pictures of flowers and plants around me, identify species with some software, and make plant business cards. What I asked for was to use A4 paper of half size. I'm afraid I can't post my homework in the student garden on the back wall of the classroom.
As a result, several assignments handed in were A4-sized. I have to send my homework back again for them to redo.
These students must have listened to my request, but they only heard 50% of the information in their ears. Did they hear that? A4 paper? , but I didn't know it was A4 paper? Half the size? .
I checked the homework of the whole class, and none of the students with excellent grades did anything wrong.
Why is this?
This is the result of good listening.
You can't listen to a simple homework. How much did the child listen to the knowledge professor in the class?
Unfortunately, too many parents don't realize the importance of listening quality in learning. They just nag the children over and over again? You should listen carefully in class and don't wander off. The child just nodded again and again and continued not to listen well, including the parents' nagging.