Children who grow up in such an environment are exposed to all kinds of rude behaviors and attitudes. If we want our children to live a happy and stable life, the real happiness we can give them should be to cultivate their innocence, kindness and consideration for others. The way of educating children from childhood will have a great influence on them when they grow up. Jane MeredithAdams, editor of San Francisco Health Journal, wrote: "There is too much hatred and chaos in today's society. Under such circumstances, it is particularly important to teach children to be kind and understand the feelings of others. However, this does not mean giving lectures to children or taking them to soup kitchens. But from our daily life. For example, how to answer children's questions, how to solve conflicts in children's playgrounds, how to let children know how to think of others and try to understand their feelings. "In addition to the family, the school is also a good place to cultivate students' kindness. Every class will have one or two lively and even violent classmates. Because these students are too lively, sometimes they can't attend class quietly, or they are rude to other students. If these students are rejected by their peers or "concerned" by other parents, they may lead to a more negative life. Faced with this situation, a teacher in the school often encourages these active children to do something, such as helping classmates with props and handing out homework. When the teacher praised the generosity and helpfulness of these children, he inadvertently made other children notice the advantages of these active children. The teacher said that one day one of the active students took a two-week leave of absence because of injury. The teacher took the opportunity to ask other children: If other children hate you and make fun of you, would you be very sad if you stopped playing with you today? All the children said, "Yes!" The teacher told the students that he was injured now and could not come to class. We must help him together when he comes back! On the day when the injured child came back to class, other children surrounded him and asked him how he was doing. After class, the children scrambled to help him carry his schoolbag, do his homework and take the stairs. After that, the students in the class know more about harmonious coexistence and consideration for others. This shows that children are naturally good. They can naturally sympathize with some people in a weak position. As parents and teachers, how we guide our children has an absolute influence on them. The following are some methods that jane adams provides for parents to implement in their daily lives. First of all, teach them to learn a gentle attitude. EmilyMihalchik, three-year-old Luca's mother and a doctor at Johnny Appleside Kindergarten in Kimberly (Lawrence, Kansas), said: "The key is the tone of the parents themselves." In fact, many children's attitudes and habits reflect their parents' words and deeds. Therefore, how parents start from themselves has a very critical impact on their children's education. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and don't say indecent words. As we all know, children are always listening and learning. Therefore, how we talk to our brothers and sisters, parents and neighbors in our daily life will have a great influence on them. Parents should also pay attention to keeping the good habit of speaking softly. When parents are violent and impatient with their children, don't forget to say sorry to them. How parents face mistakes and take responsibility after making them will set a good example for their children. Children can naturally learn to admit and face their mistakes. 2. Refuse to accept rude attitude: SusanJensen, director of Children's Snook Kindergarten in Southern California, said: "I once saw a child over one year old spit on his parents, and their parents laughed. It's no use. Charity includes knowing how to respect others, including parents. Parents should tell their children gently and firmly:' you shouldn't do this!' Tell children what is the right way to behave in the same loving but serious way. A research report pointed out that when children learn a new thing, they must listen with their ears, see with their eyes and practice it seven times before they can really remember what they have learned. Because young children have no lasting memory. Therefore, it may take parents longer than expected to repeat the ideas instilled in their children. Second, let children abide by the rules and constantly regulate their behavior. Provide a specific framework: even if children are educated in love, their behavior should be properly restricted. Otherwise, children will become very self-centered. JaniceCohn, author of Raising Compassionate and Brave Children in a Violent World, said: "Let some unacceptable behaviors, such as hitting people, never be acceptable. Even if it was the child's birthday. If something is wrong, it will always be wrong. " Besides, children should also be taught proper manners. Let children form the good habit of saying "thank you". Usually, children can also send cards to friends or relatives, so that they can develop the habit of saying good things. For example: a small thank-you note, a sympathy card, or some blessings. Even if the child is too young to write, a small picture is good. Because etiquette can not only make people live in harmony, but also show charity. Therefore, it is necessary to make good manners a routine in children's daily life as much as possible. Third, guide children to establish friendship with others. When children are playing on the playground, we should continue to pay attention to them and teach them how to become friends with others. 1. Don't abuse: Charity begins with understanding what is acceptable and what is not. When a child gives someone an indecent nickname or says rude things to a friend, give him some small punishments immediately, such as canceling game time or forbidding them to play with their favorite toys for one day. For a young child, their abstract thinking ability is very weak, and they don't quite understand the correct way to be kind to others, but parents should try their best to guide them. 2. Give praise in time: When you see a child providing some help to a friend, even if it is only a small move, you should give praise and encourage his behavior. Tell him, "You are such a good friend!" Or "You are such a considerate boy!" Wait a minute. Slowly, children will understand that being a helpful person will be affirmed by others. Fourth, let children know how to help each other better. With the enhancement of children's awareness and independence, if parents can give timely help, preschool children can actually participate and cooperate. Four children in Karen, Montana, USA help take care of their cats, dogs and horses when their neighbors are not at home. Every child helped. Even the youngest two-year-old daughter helped dig out cat food from her bag. For Karen, it is just an important principle to teach children: "Even if you don't actually like it, you should know the truth of loving others as yourself. "1. Give children some small coins: children like to feel that they have the ability to change things. So, try to reduce helping others. When children do these things, give them an idea that we all have the ability to make this society more harmonious and beautiful. As long as we all have good thoughts and know how to think of others. 2. Assign some housework: A good habit of helping others can start with helping some housework at home. Children must feel capable, so give them some simple tasks, such as preparing tableware or feeding kittens. Make a calendar and stick it on the refrigerator to let the children know what they should do. In this way, children can establish the concept that helping others is helping themselves. 3. Use stories to establish children's open outlook on life: Reading stories together can make children naturally understand that everyone is different. It is also a good way to discuss the characters in the book. For example, Ann Morris's House and Home has many different types of houses from all over the world. This can also tell children that people in any country have the same desire-that is, stability, love, study, a happy life and being with their families. Fifth, cultivate children's wisdom. When your children know how to understand other people's feelings, they have completed an emotional and cognitive leap. 1. Positive understanding of news events: Violent and bloody photos in news reports will make children feel worried and powerless. Try not to let children see some disturbing pictures. When children hear some news that will scare them, it is more positive to try to focus on those who help others, such as search and rescue personnel, doctors or volunteers. For example, the Virginia school shooting that shocked the world a while ago, such a case, it is easy for children to have great disappointment and distrust of society and humanity. Under such circumstances, how to guide children to face it with a positive attitude will have a great impact on them. In many news reports in western countries, people are being taught how to solve all this with pure kindness without advocating any hatred. When children establish this concept, they will know how to face setbacks and setbacks in the future. 2. Choose media programs carefully: When characters in TV programs beat each other or give each other indecent nicknames, turn off the TV. Because children not only watch TV programs, they also imitate the content of the programs. Never ignore the mentality that some children laugh at others or bully others. Children aged seven or eight can already learn to see the world from other people's perspectives. In this complicated and chaotic society, it is easy for children to have negative emotions of "just drifting with the flow". For children, this kind of feeling can easily make people's kindness gradually wear away. How to avoid such a result? The key is how to start from an early age. Human beings are born with kindness, but with the changes of the times, they are gradually forgotten. Whenever people face endless violence in society, they often just shake their heads and sigh. In fact, to give children a happy future, in addition to starting from the education of daily life. More importantly, each of us should start from ourselves, so that human beings can truly have a bright future.