First, observe communication. Is to observe the way children communicate with themselves. Many times, parents must go beyond their own roles and observe the problem of children's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. And treat children from different angles and make limited accommodation.
Second, stay calm. Anxious parents should remind themselves to stay calm and wait for their children to calm down before communicating.
Third, ask for advice. When disciplining children, you should sometimes ask others for advice to broaden your mind. It is best to strengthen communication with children's teachers and understand children's usual performance in school.
Fourth, open yourself up. When parents find that their children's interests will affect their homework, don't ban them immediately. It's best to know more about the situation. For example, accompany children to the video game center, discuss their idols with them, and remind them of what they should and should not learn. Only by entering the inner world of children can we get along more harmoniously. Parents and children get along well, and children will not be rebellious.
Fifth, keep trying. Parents should always change the way they discipline their children. When children are young, they usually just talk and listen. After entering middle school, you should try two-way communication and listen to your children's suggestions. Once a method is found to be unworkable, it is necessary to change the method at any time and keep experimenting until an effective method is found.
Sixth, practical experience. It is through practice and experience to resolve children's rebellious psychology. If a father and son leave, the son must buy watermelon when he sees it. Father said it was too far from home and it was too tiring to carry it back, so he didn't buy it. The son is unhappy: "You don't buy my favorite watermelon. You like me to study well, but I don't study well." The father thought about it and said to his only son, "You can buy melons and take them home." The only son agreed, and he was so tired that he took the watermelon home that his son was deeply touched: "It is not easy to eat a watermelon."
Seventh, take care of others. Parents should take good care of their children, so that their relationship will be harmonious and their children will not be rebellious.
Eighth, analysis and explanation. Parents should carefully analyze the specific reasons for children's rebellious psychology and give full explanations, so that children's rebellious psychology will gradually disappear.
In short, parents must communicate with their children in order to fundamentally resolve their rebellious psychology. To do a good job of communication, first, parents must clearly express their dissatisfaction with a certain behavior of their children; Secondly, parents should express their dissatisfaction; Third, parents should not make unnecessary comments and guesses; Fourth, in a reminding tone, let children feel that their parents' starting point is to care about themselves; Fifth, to inspire children to think in a problem-based way is to guide rather than teach; Sixth, parents should make dignified demands, pay attention to the tone and explain the reasons.