What are the educational principles that make parents no longer anxious? 1. Happiness is self-made. I heard a story: two scholars went to participate in the imperial examination system together, but I didn't expect to meet the funeral procession just on the road. A scholar feels unlucky and has been depressed all the time. He didn't give full play to the role of conclusion test, so he fell into Sun Shan. When he came home, he said, as soon as I saw that coffin, I knew there was nothing good. Another scholar was secretly happy to see the coffin, and thought it should be good luck to be a "coffin". Indeed, after taking the examination room, he was cheerful and brilliant. Indeed, he became famous in one fell swoop and his career was booming.

Why does the same coffin give two people different omens? As Freud 18, a German thinker in the new century, said, "Everyone will not be hurt by things, but will be influenced by his own views on things." In the final analysis, the coffin is just an ordinary symbol of the coffin, which can neither predict misfortune nor predict the prosperity of the official career. These two scholars are not influenced by coffins, but by their views on coffins. Sultan, an excellent teacher of Xingzhi, once asked his parents during the live broadcast what advantages and disadvantages their children had.

The evaluation was quickly brushed up one by one, and most parents casually talked about their children's shortcomings, but could not tell their children's advantages. I want to ask the parents who are playing. Think about it. When talking about children, do you talk more about advantages or disadvantages? Does your child really have no merits? I think it's not that children don't have an advantage, but that parents are blinded by their immediate anxiety. Always like to complain about life's unhappiness, children's rebellion, and husband's incomprehension. In fact, happiness is self-caused, and unhappiness is self-caused.

Excellent parents will also be "fans" of their children, but most parents have become "malicious bad reviewers" of their children. There are many things in the world, and the quality you don't care about depends on how you look at it. When we are unhappy, we should be able to change our psychological state and maintain a happy and open-minded life state, so as to reduce complaints.

2. Gua The New York Times once reported: "In the metropolis of China, if a child walks in the street on Saturday and Sunday, and there is no cello on his back, then this person is learning the piano." Although this is a lot of exaggeration, it tells the current situation of culture and education: parents always want their children to learn something whether they like it or not. Parents are either trying to embarrass themselves or making do with their children. But many things are really not enough. Children don't want to do one thing, probably because:

1. I can't do it either I lack this knowledge and don't know how to do it.

2. I know how to do it, but I'm worried that I can't do it well and I don't have a way to do it;

3. Simply don't want to do it, don't like it or want to do something else. If parents consider their own preferences and then "ignore" the problems and needs faced by their children. Under such circumstances, just like the truth that "a twisted melon must not be too sweet", the child gritted his teeth and reluctantly did it, and the result was not satisfactory. A teaching method that is more suitable for children is a good educational method.