My son took the Hubei college entrance examination in 20XX with a score of 664, and now he is in the Department of Economic Management of Fudan University. In the third year of senior high school, he got the penultimate 10 in his class. I have to admit that it's my fault.
I want to say to the child: I'm sorry.
I am in business, and my mother is a standard rural woman. When my children were in the first and second year of high school, all my education was: if I was admitted and my son was smart, it should be like this; You didn't do well in the exam. Why are you so disappointing, loser!
Don't laugh, I know there are many parents like me.
It's really not my credit that he was admitted to Fudan. One depends on himself, and the other depends on Mr. Liu. I, uh, have to apologize to the children. Dad raised you.
Second, don't put our children on the same day.
Our biggest illusion is that a child can learn well as long as he works hard. If he doesn't study well, he must not work hard himself. If my son is a genius, that's right; However, there are so many geniuses in this world, why are they all our children?
In short, my educational achievement without academic qualifications is that I took the exam three times in the third year of high school, and my children got worse every time. The last time, there were 58 students in the class, and he took 48 exams. In their school, at most dozens of people can get one book a year.
I even consider letting my children stop studying and learn business directly from me. Speaking of which, I would like to thank my colleague Lao Wu for giving me a free lesson of 1 yes 1. Originally, this class was his son's, but something happened at home temporarily, so he went to his hometown collectively, so this quota was given to me.
I had never heard of "online education" before, and I didn't know that the person in charge of the company was 1 yes 1. It was not until Mr. Liu appeared on the computer screen that I realized that the class had begun.
This teacher, who is younger than I expected, first talked to me for a few words, then let the children talk alone with headphones for a long time, and finally started class.
I don't remember the content of his lecture, but what he said later made me feel ashamed now: Xiaowu (my son) is a very diligent child with many ideas, but as a father, I am not in place at all; Even he himself (I later learned that he was from Tsinghua) did not dare to say that he could learn well by hard work. Why should I ask so much of my children?
Three children, one person can never work miracles.
Teacher Liu finally told me a word: learning is not a child's business, and no matter how hard you work, you can only stand still.
I am in business, of course, I understand this truth, but I never thought that children's study would be like this. I asked the teacher what to do. Teacher Liu didn't say anything, telling me that he can't judge casually now, and it takes some time to get to know the children. But it was hard enough for me at that time-like many parents in China, I didn't understand education and didn't think about how to "educate".
But to tell the truth, I was actually narrow-minded: I knew he was right, but I thought he said that to let me continue to make up lessons.
Unexpectedly, less than two weeks after Mr. Liu finished teaching the children, he actually talked to me again and sent me a handwritten scanned note (I have to say, Mr. Liu's handwriting is really beautiful). We talked a lot, but to sum up, it can be summarized as "how to turn standing still into running forward" The general content is the following table (I summarized it myself afterwards, but the teacher didn't say it all).
Teacher Liu also told me that the set of notes was used by him in high school, so the so-called method is similar, only right. As long as Xiaowu can improve his learning methods, it is no problem to be admitted to Wuda University from now until the college entrance examination, but if the goal can be set higher, the child may be able to create a "miracle".
That time was the most passionate time for me in these years.
Fourth, the "ordinary road" between me and my children.
I used to think that children should work hard, and then naturally they can be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University and even go abroad. This is the "glory of ancestors" and ability.
The child has been working hard, but it has been stagnant.
I was wrong.
I didn't know I was wrong until my child was in the third year of high school. My child is not a genius, but he works hard; I am not an expert in education, but I have never worked hard for my children.
Meeting Mr. Liu is the luck of my children and me.
Xiaowu's study time has not decreased, but even increased-Mr. Liu arranged everything for him in his spare time with every minute. But compared with before, it is from "disorderly" state to orderly planning.
The song "Ordinary Road" was very popular on 20 14, and I listened to it. The child told me, and Teacher Liu told him that this is not an "ordinary" road, but a "glorious" road. Teacher Liu has almost changed our lives-not only making up lessons, but also being a member of my family. He gave lectures to Xiaowu and prepared a study plan. I looked for information under their arrangement, asked Xiaowu what to do on time and studied English with Xiaowu.
Finally, the child was admitted to Fudan. He was not too excited, but a little reluctant-because he could no longer make up lessons. Teacher Liu plays what he deserves. I know he can be better, but I am already very happy.
The best family education
Talking too much seems like advertising, but I don't care if you say so.
I just want to tell you one thing. The best family education is that you study and grow together with your children. In the end, you will all become better than before.
Thank you. Learn from who?
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