1, efforts are my mother, but I can't get a good exam. My mother, too.
Who is the busiest in a family? Who is the most tired? Who is the most complained about? Yes, it's mom!
It is said that when a woman becomes a mother, the topic is not only work, but also children. No, in the variety show, Zhao Wei inevitably talked with his family on the bar about children's education.
One of the mothers said, "The child said he would never come out to play with me again."
Zhao Wei asked, "Why, what does he look down on you?"
Mother said, "I don't like it anywhere." My position at home is that the child ranks last and he ranks first. "
Perhaps speaking of this, many parents will think this is a normal thing, especially those who love their children. They think they are taking care of their older children with a handful of shit and a handful of urine. Of course, it hurts to hold them in your hand. Why else would they try to make money?
But Zhao Wei doesn't think so. She said: "Spoiling is the most wrong way of education. You can't let your child have such a high status at home, otherwise he will think that you are not so important when you are old. "
It's true. A child who only knows how to accept what adults pay when he is a child, can you expect him to give you any support when he grows up?
There is a saying in the education circle: "80% of children are worthless when they grow up because their parents were too obedient to them when they were young."
Raising children is a big deal. If parents spoil their children blindly, it is very unfavorable for the development of their character. If they feel a little uncomfortable, they will train their children into' baiwenhang', which is not good for parents and children.
2. The more your family loves your child, the more you will treat him badly!
Overindulgence and pampering of children is the biggest taboo in educating children.
At present, there are too many only children in the family, which makes grandparents afraid that their grandchildren will be in their mouths and fall into their hands. It is too painful, so they are used to many problems of their children.
Zhao Wei said on the show more than once that "if grandparents are particularly good to their children, you should be particularly bad to them." In a family, someone plays the bad COP, and someone plays the bad COP. This way, the children will not always get lost in the honey pot and can't find the east, west, north and south.
As parents, we should not only give our children the best material life, but also teach them to be reasonable and grateful, rather than completely accommodating.
What kind of love, what kind of debt
When I was a child, I was afraid that my children would suffer hardships, and I was not allowed to wash dishes, sweep the floor and clean the room once. Children who grow up in this doting environment will take their parents' love for granted, which will have a negative impact on their character development.
3. Find a balance point so that caring and teaching can go hand in hand.
Now there are only two ways for parents to educate their children: one is simple and rude stick education, and the other is simple and easy to operate.
Some parents said, "The ancestors said,' A dutiful son is born under the stick'. If children want to succeed, they can't fight. "
Some parents also said, "The times are changing. Now educate children to use love to influence, not just to fight and scold. "
Yes, the living environment has really changed now, and children's education should not blindly adopt old ideas. They should teach students in accordance with their aptitude and find a balance point so that love and teaching can be implemented together.
You can't deliberately connive at or criticize your child. As a result, the child is either withdrawn or selfish, and it is impossible to raise a considerate and well-behaved child.
Simple clothes don't mean cheap; Ordinary food does not mean that there is no nutrition. What children need is not necessarily expensive, but suitable. Have time to take children out to see the world, make handicrafts and eat delicious food. Isn't this a kind of enrichment?
Education never compares who is richer, but who is more diligent.