A mother sent her answer when she first received the question: "

I will stand firm and completely dispel the idea of children moving reinforcements. "

The mother's answer has some truth, but there is something that can be done better. Completely dispel the children's idea of moving reinforcements, and only cut off the children's idea in a mandatory way around them. However, if you live together in a big family, grandparents or grandparents are around, and the elderly are distressed by their grandchildren, they will definitely stand in front of them for the first time, which naturally becomes a safety barrier for children. At this time, children should be educated, but it has become the fuse to intensify family conflicts.

There is a very experienced parent-child expert who has effectively handled many such cases in his previous work. Based on his own experience, he gave the following suggestions from the effective communication between two generations.

First, communicate with the elderly in advance and don't put out the fire after the incident.

Regarding the educational principle of two generations to the next generation, it must be that the two sides communicate regularly and unify the educational concept and direction of children when avoiding them. If it is better to discuss specific plans, when children make mistakes, both parents and grandparents should unify their attitudes; Excessive demands on children should be unified, and children should not find a breakthrough in any family members, and the idea of "moving reinforcements" should be put an end to. Second, respect and understand the old people's ideas and guide them correctly.

When the two sides have differences in educating their children, they can first

Understand the old man's thoughts and her thoughts. To understand the old people's thoughts, it is not necessary to spoil the children according to their thoughts, but to give the old people the opportunity to speak their thoughts frankly, which is also a manifestation of fully respecting the old people and caring for the children. However, while respecting, we should guide the elderly to unify the benefits of education to children's growth in a direction conducive to children's physical and mental health.

Third, create a good communication atmosphere.

When communicating with the elderly, don't choose when the children are taught, otherwise no matter how good the thoughts and wishes are, they will not achieve good communication results. If you are more careful, you can choose to put forward the idea of children's education when the elderly are happy and comfortable. To create a good conversation opportunity, we must first affirm her practice, and if we can give just the right examples, the effect will be better.

Fourth, find and choose effective educational methods for children together.

As long as we can sit down and communicate calmly, it is not difficult to find effective educational methods. We can also get the right method from these external works by watching some education-related movies and TV shows together, and at the same time unify educational thoughts and actions in practice. You can also read a book about education together and so on. Through the power of external forces, it will be more effective than blindly searching for things.

Fifth, it is certain that the new practice is inspired by the elderly or developed on their basis.

When you reach a consensus on educating children through communication with the elderly, be sure that this consensus is based on the inspiration of the elderly, especially to make the elderly feel that they are very helpful to you. Without them, you will lack a lot of effective ready-made experience in educating children. Not only children need affirmation, but also the elderly need affirmation, so don't be stingy with the affirmation and recognition of the elderly.

The above five points are used in the consensus with the elderly to educate children. As long as you step by step, communicate with your heart and keep practicing, it will be effective!