14-year-old Xiaogang told his story in his hospital bed. Xiao Gang grew up under the cultivation of "free range". Because my parents were beaten and busy at work, I couldn't "raise my baby exquisitely", so Xiaogang was a maverick from an early age and rarely said anything to his parents.
In junior high school, he entered a rebellious period, tired of studying and teachers, often secretly went to Internet cafes to surf the Internet, made many social "friends" and even learned to ride a motorcycle. In his opinion, riding a motorcycle at night is very cool.
But in fact, he didn't study traffic rules professionally at all, so during the competition, he plunged into the green belt on the side of the road because he avoided a truck turning right.
Because he was waiting for the red light, the speed was not fast, so he only caused a broken right leg and some other bruises. After the robbery, he woke up a lot and bluntly said that he should not be so conceited and do such a dangerous thing.
Professor Li Meijin pointed out that boys and girls have different psychological characteristics and different educational methods. There are three taboos in educating boys. Parents should understand these sticking points in order to avoid some risks in their children's education.
Three taboos in educating boys
The first taboo: don't take care of everything for boys
Parents unconsciously "discipline" their children. "You want it, you don't want it, you give it to me" is often mentioned. Children face a thing, and before they have time to think, parents directly point out the methods and results. Children had their own ideas, but they suppressed their desires under the intervention of their parents.
This kind of education mode of taking care of everything makes children gradually lose self-confidence, become indecisive, become dependent on their parents and become "mother-in-law". After entering the society, you will experience more and greater setbacks because of your personality.
The second taboo: ask boys not to cry.
Many parents believe in the proverb "Men don't cry easily", so they suppress boys' emotions and resolutely forbid their children to cry. Indoctrinate children with the concept that "crying is equal to" weakness "and force them to give up the way of expressing negative emotions.
In fact, parents have demonized crying. Scientific research shows that crying can relieve pain and eliminate negative emotions, which is a good means of emotional relaxation. Educating children to be "sparse but not blocked" should care about the reasons why children cry and teach them the correct emotional management methods instead of blindly suppressing them.
The third taboo: excessive preference for boys over girls.
Many families prefer boys to girls, especially those with elderly people at home. If you are too partial to boys, it is easy for children to have blind arrogance, and long-term conceit will have a great impact on work and life.
Treat boys with respect and "enough is enough". We should teach them to be polite in daily life, learn to respect women, enhance their sense of responsibility by participating in family work, help them establish a correct outlook on life and cultivate the cultivation of gentlemen.