My daughter is a senior one this year. One day I asked her if she had received a love letter. She paused, then shook her head.
I deliberately asked in surprise: "No? You are so good, haven't you received a love letter? "
I don't know whether she didn't want to admit it or whether she really didn't receive it. In short, she blushed and asked me, "What if I receive a love letter?"
I said:
"First, it means that when you grow up, you start to attract the attention of the opposite sex, which is a good thing."
"Second, what is your charm? Good moral character, good study, good temperament, good temper, good image, good figure ..., if it is:
Good moral character, then you can keep your good style of being kind and helping others.
If you study well, you should stay at the top of the list, and you'd better improve several places.
Good temperament, then you will continue to read widely, practice piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and improve your self-cultivation. A woman's temperament is cultivated, not faked.
If you have a good temper, you should keep your own character, don't be willful and lose your temper like a little girl.
A good image, then you will continue to maintain a clean, tidy and refreshing image, unlike when you were a child doing homework, your hands were covered with pen stains.
You should pay attention to your good figure, because I recently found that you have a hunchback. Sit and walk with more exercise and keep your back straight. Also, pay special attention to protecting your eyes. The degree of myopia cannot be deepened.
Besides, women should be good at housework and cook good dishes. "
Hearing this, the daughter said shyly, "Why am I so comprehensive? I am still far from it. "
I smiled and said, "Actually, it is not difficult to have these charms, but these are all feminine charms that the opposite sex values and appreciates. If you have all this, it is really fascinating. "
"Third, whether you have a good impression on this boy or not, you should sit tight and change with the same. High school students haven't decided yet. It's normal that he likes you today and likes her tomorrow.
So, you don't have to take his love letters too seriously. Don't let it become a psychological burden. Seeing him in the future should be as natural and graceful as before, as if nothing had happened, otherwise it would cause his misunderstanding.
"Fourth, if possible, choose a suitable time and tell him directly that you don't want to consider anything that has nothing to do with study before going to college. You know, there are many opportunities for you to go to college in the future, so there is no need to think about it now. Are you going to give up the whole forest for one tree? "
"Fifth, the feelings of boys who write love letters to you are not love at all, but at best a kind of affection. True love needs to be accompanied by responsibility. He can't even be responsible for himself now, and his life depends on his parents, let alone you? A man who has no ability to be responsible for women, even if he is excellent, women will not accept him. "