First, study, by contrast, introspection.
First, study. Reading is an important standard for a person to build a complete spiritual world, spiritual world and moral cultivation, and it is also an important tool and way. Reading can not only set an example for children, but also recharge and enrich themselves. Children may fall in love with reading under the influence of their parents. Parenting education is not educating and changing children at all, but the promotion and growth of parents themselves, which should be the most fundamental core of parenting education. The best way to improve yourself and grow yourself is reading. The content of reading depends on personal needs. Choose different books according to different needs at different stages.
Second, practical application, consistency
The purpose of reading is: academic examination, advanced life and entertainment. Our parents and friends study to get rid of confusion, just to advance their lives and solve problems. We can try to practice the methods and ideas learned from books. What are the successes and failures after use? We should reflect and summarize. Carry forward the successful places and continue to implement them; Where is the failure? Find out the reasons and think about how to improve. Then record every experience in words, not for anything else, but for reflection, summary and growth. Many times when you deal with a thing, you have no clue, or you don't have a good method. You go back and write, and there will be a way.
Third, exchange heart for heart and put yourself in other's shoes.
Put yourself in the child's shoes and understand his heart. As the old saying goes: Look at your heart. When we face a thorny problem about children, we might as well think like this: If I were a child, what would I think? What do I think of my parents? Ask yourself and answer, practice. Then compare the children's words and deeds and see what changes they have in their handling methods after the comparison. For example, the most difficult problem parents encounter is that children don't like learning. The grades are always not going up. I also enrolled in a cram school, and I used all the tricks I could think of. I can't stand it anymore, but the child is still not getting better as I expected. At this time, you might as well put yourself in the child's shoes. In fact, it is quite difficult to put yourself in others' shoes, because it is imagination rather than fact after all. If you really don't understand the child's feelings now, you still feel that the child can't understand.