I heard a passage the other day: "When a mother is diligent, her children are lazy, while when a mother is lazy, her children are diligent." Think about this passage carefully and find that the truth is quite profound. Let's take the past and the present as examples. Are children getting lazy now? Many traditional crafts left by our ancestors have been abandoned. Why? Because people are getting lazy and unwilling to rely too much on mechanization.

Take the current lifestyle as an example. Too many people eat out if they don't like cooking, buy dishwashers if they don't like washing dishes, and even sweep the floor, wash clothes and walk mechanically. When we thought we could control the growth of mechanization every day, we didn't know that it was actually human beings who controlled machines, and machines controlled human thoughts, which made human beings more and more lazy and complacent.

In fact, this situation is really related to family education. In the past, if we didn't work, we would have no food, especially if we lived with our backs to the loess. Children who grow up in such a living environment are basically very independent, and they will not be sad and blx when they encounter things.

Nowadays, the living environment is superior, and many parents educate their children by "trying to let their children study hard when they can". Why? Because everyone attaches too much importance to children's study, it seems that as long as children study well, everything is a foil. If children can get the first place in the exam, they can generally open their mouths to feed, and more and more parents of child slaves will naturally raise more and more lazy children.

So, why do modern parents always raise lazy children?

1, make up for my childhood vacancy

It is precisely because of the comparison between the past and the present that children born in the last era, that is, parents in modern education, mostly feel the happiness of childhood from children with the intention of making up for childhood vacancies. In the past, people who kept doing housework, had no clothes to wear and no snacks often felt "growing up" again with their children's childhood in modern life.

Once, I met a friend's child and often kept his mouth shut about snacks. When persuading them to eat less snacks, my friend's children actually said, "My mother bought it for me, why not eat it?" The little girl's eloquent statement shows that most of them have been acquiesced by her mother.

Of course, no mother will acquiesce in children eating snacks as meals, and most of them can't start and end. This beginning is a memory of a friend who couldn't eat snacks when he was a child. Every time I go to the supermarket and see snacks, I want to buy them home because she doesn't want her daughter to live a childhood without snacks.

Parents who make up for the emptiness of their children's childhood, their most typical action is "don't move, I'll do it." When parents are in charge of everything and children have no chance to display it, it becomes their habit to enjoy the comfort of life, and this dependence on others and not knowing what to do are also called laziness.

2. Take grades as an iron rice bowl.

In addition to many "unattainable" vacancies in childhood, many parents want to make up for their children's achievements and always repeat in their children's ears "What should you do after you don't go to school well?" This seemingly "for your own good" chatter is a scar that children can't erase when they grow up, because they hate this growing atmosphere of "studying all day".

For parents, the phrase "what should I do after I don't go to school well" seems to be a great philosophy of life, but from the perspective of children, the distance between the words "future" and "future" is too far, and they can't touch it through the truth, just like it is not easy to understand their parents after they become parents. At that time, understanding was full of resentment, followed by understanding and gratitude.

Most importantly, children who don't start work can't understand the essence of life. They always take all the enjoyment for granted. Children should be diligent when they grow up, but we don't know how to do it. At that time, all that remained was a struggle for words. Therefore, if you don't want your child to get farther and farther away from you, avoid learning occupying your child's life, and let your child lose experience and independent living ability, then hands-off education is the best gift you can give your child.

Of course, at this moment, many people feel unreliable. As playful children by nature, if we really let them fly freely, wouldn't they fly naughty into the sky? Although letting go is the best gift for children, letting go education is also an art, which requires mothers to be lazy appropriately, and finally they can gain a lot from the education of both sides, and the education of families and children will be better.

Why does mom need lazy education? Not dad?

The traditional family model is that men are in charge of the outside and women are in charge of the inside. A good wife and a good mother have become the moral oppression of generations of mothers, which has also led to the birth of lazy fathers and lazy children in countless families. If the daughter is the mother's repeater, then the son is the replica of the father. The existence of the father is not only the original son, but also the lifeline of the whole family harmony.

If the father is diligent and doesn't miss his father's love, and the children know how to love and appreciate in a caring environment, especially if the father loves his mother and helps her do some housework within her power, then the children will feel the same way without teaching, and will also help her reduce the burden involuntarily through some work. Therefore, if the mother is lazy properly, she will gain not only the education of children's independence and practical ability, but also the harmony and happiness of the family.

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