As a mother, it is very sad to hear that her child has been beaten. It is normal for children to fight with each other, and they are also afraid that some children will accidentally do something, don't know their own priorities, and accidentally hurt others.
Huo Siyan's son was beaten by his classmates. How did she handle it?
Recently, Huo Siyan was a guest in Hello Mom. She said, uh-huh told her that she was beaten by other children in kindergarten. At that time, Huo Siyan almost blurted out "call back", but she stopped in time, because she soon realized that this could not solve the problem well. She said that after hearing this, she quickly told the teacher to help her pay more attention. After all, if she doesn't see it, she can't conclude that it is the fault of other children, which is unfair to another child.
Huo Siyan thinks that children sometimes exaggerate one thing, so parents should ask him the details of hitting or being beaten when he is playing or taking a shower and when they are relaxed. Only in this way can parents ask what happened at that time.
When the host asked Huo Siyan if this happened again, would he choose a different environment? Huo Siyan said: "If this problem has not been completely solved, you may need to change your environment because you can't afford to hide."
At the same time, I also signed up for tennis lessons and football lessons for Uh-huh, hoping that Uh-huh will be stronger. Huo Siyan thinks the child is healthy and strong. If someone touches him, he can turn back, so that he won't be bullied easily, which is also a psychological comfort to himself.
Huo Siyan's practice is worth learning from. In the face of his precious son being beaten by a child, even if he is distressed again, he will calm down and be gentle and reasonable. Well-behaved and sensible, also has a lot to do with mother Huo Siyan's education. No matter what happens to children, they need comfort, not just blame. The gentler the mother, the more sensible the baby will be.
Parents should try not to have these wrong methods when their children are beaten:
1, strange teacher
If your child is beaten, it will definitely hurt. It is not right for parents to directly blame the teacher and accuse the teacher of not taking good care of their children without knowing the cause of the incident.
Teachers have to take care of many children at the same time, and it is impossible to cover everything. As soon as I came up, I blamed the teacher and unconditionally favored the children. If a child encounters a similar situation, he will also blame the teacher, which will make the child shirk and develop an irresponsible character.
2. Fight violence with violence
Some parents feel that they should "deal with a man as he deals with you" and teach their children to fight back. Violence is not the solution to the problem. Fighting violence with violence will make children feel that this is the way to solve this kind of thing. No one will want to associate with such children in the future, which will seriously affect the growth of children and leave a shadow in the hearts of children who did not intentionally hit them.
When people who use violence encounter stronger violence, they are bound to get hurt.
3. accusing your child is worthless
Some parents think that their children should not be so weak. If they suffer from being beaten, they will say to their children, "Why are you so worthless?" .
Fighting between children is often harmless. The child himself is not willing to seek comfort from his parents, and accusing him will make him even more sad. Some children will feel inferior because of this, which will affect their healthy growth.
4. Blame other children
Some parents are partial to their children, and directly blame the children who beat people without asking the reasons, fearing that the children will be wronged. If you don't know the reason, you can't judge that it is the problem of other children. Blaming other children will make your children subconsciously think it is someone else's fault and give them a sense of self. Children will shirk everything in the future and it is difficult to integrate into the collective.
5. Ignore each other's parents
When a child is beaten by another child, some parents feel that they should stay away from the parents who beat the child. I always feel that it seems that other children beat their own children, and it is their parents' problem that ignores each other's parents. It is normal for children to fight, and adults are responsible for solving problems. Ignoring and avoiding can't solve the problem.
When a child is beaten, the correct way for parents is this:
1, communicate with the teacher in time.
The child who is beaten should communicate with the teacher in time. After all, parents can't see their children's daily life in kindergarten. Let teachers pay more attention to this phenomenon, what is the reason for being beaten, and then solve the problem fundamentally after finding the reason, giving children a fair and just judgment.
Step 2 turn an enemy into a friend
Children will not intentionally hurt others, and there is no malice. At this time, parents can invite their children to play at home more often to enhance the friendship between children and prevent this from happening again. Children need comfort, resolve conflicts and become friends in their hearts, which is also a special comfort.
3. Let children strengthen their physique.
Usually, you can give your child some physical education courses to keep fit, exercise your child's body and make him look strong, so that no one dares to bully him. Some children are thin, and they may fall down if they are gently pushed by others.
4. Self-review
The most important parents should also reflect on themselves. Is it because their children have provoked other children that such a thing will happen? Do not rule out that your own children provoke other children. You can ask the reason when the child is most relaxed and solve the problem fundamentally. Parents' self-reflection will set a good example for their children.
It is normal for children to fight, and parents' behavior can easily affect their growth. Parents with high emotional intelligence will set a good example for their children. Parents using violence to solve problems will only make children feel that they will use violence to solve problems, which will seriously affect their physical and mental health.