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How should parents punish their children in family education?
When a mother punishes her daughter. At the beginning or for a period of time, some bad behaviors of children can be obviously "corrected". But often it won't be long before the child who has healed the scar and forgotten the pain will still change back to the original "bear-like" and will not be substantially changed because of punishment.

Why the punishment for children's bad behavior has no long-term effect? There are mainly the following reasons:

1, the punishment for children is difficult to continue. Skinner, an economist in behavioral psychology, pointed out that when the threat of punishment is eliminated, the repressive power of punishment will usually be eliminated. In most cases, it is impossible for parents to strictly enforce the punishment for bad behavior all the time. When children know in many "wits and wits" that parents are unlikely to impose punishment, the deterrent power of punishment is no longer as great as before.

2. The satisfaction brought by bad behavior may make children feel that punishment is worthwhile. For example, children are punished by their parents for being too addicted to video games. In the eyes of children, the sense of accomplishment gained in the virtual world is far better than the punishment behavior of parents who are "strong outside and dry inside". So children are willing to take risks, and once they get lucky, they will even think it is an extra reward.

Punishing children often leads to bad chain reaction. In many psychological experiments, when organisms are punished, they often try to escape or avoid further punishment, and even cause rebellious attacks. In fact, the punishment for children is the same. Punishment involving pain and humiliation can correct bad behavior in the short term, but it will seriously affect the healthy growth of children in the long run. On the one hand, this kind of punishment will plant the seeds of violence in children's minds, making them more aggressive when interacting with others (those aggressive juvenile offenders in society are often abused by their parents at home). On the other hand, punishment can also make children become anxious, fearful and insecure, which will lead to habitual helplessness or depression.