Some stay with their children every night, some have time to take care of them on weekends, and some can only leave their children at home and see them once a month or more.
This phenomenon makes young parents unable to educate their children. There are often many contradictions when children are taken care of by their elders.
This can be said to be a major pain point for contemporary young people to face their children's education.
1, when educating children, the question of principle does not regress.
Parents should be clear: asking the elderly is to help, not to take care of the children instead of you. We should respect the elderly and communicate in time.
The principle of "grasping the big and letting go of the small": choose a few things that you think children must do well (such as study, exercise, diet, etc.). ). These "big things" are not relaxed, so that children can play freely in other aspects.
It is not a matter of principle whether we can compromise or follow their ideas and give some space to our elders appropriately.
When communication is impossible, "distance" produces beauty.
This "distance" is not really alienated, but a lot of their words. We can't "take all", we can selectively listen to some of them and then digest them.
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The suggestion is to communicate sincerely with the elders first and put yourself in their shoes.
When you really can't communicate, you can try to stay away from your elders. If possible, it is best to live separately.
3. Practice the seal and prove it in person.
Parents educate their children by setting an example and teaching by example.
The same is true of communicating with elders. You have to prove it to her yourself: "Eh, this method is feasible".
You know, maybe 70% or 80% of parents have an incomplete understanding of things.
From my experience, as long as you are professional enough and you communicate with an open and respectful attitude, most old people can accept it.
Therefore, we should give the elderly more time and patience to study together.
Facing the education of it running in the family, we must divide the boundaries and responsibilities in advance, avoid internal contradictions, and work together to cultivate excellent children.