First, let children learn to deal with their parents. Many parents love their children blindly, but rarely ask their children to love and repay others actively, so that children can develop a selfish and uncaring character. A mother said that she was busy with her work during the day and her daughter at night, and both sides could not slack off. She was exhausted from overwork. When my daughter came home, she found her tired lying on the sofa and even said, "You are so annoyed and sick again." Mother is very sad. In today's society where there are more and more only children, this phenomenon is not uncommon. This situation in the family not only hurts the feelings of parents, but also is not conducive to the future growth of children. Therefore, while loving their children, every parent must teach their children how to cherish the love of others and learn to give love. Knowing how to cherish love is to let children feel the beauty of love, know the hard work of parents in the process of giving love, and let children have respect and gratitude. Learning to give love is to teach children to care for others and take care of others. For example, when washing feet at night, the father can say to the child, "Mom has had a hard day. I'll pour her hot water. Will you help her put on slippers?" When one parent is sick, the other parent can inspire the child to express condolences: "What's wrong with you?" "Do you want to eat?" "Let me sing you a song, tell you a story and hit you on the back." In these ways, children can learn to care about others, experience the pleasure of caring about others, and cultivate the virtue of love imperceptibly.
The second is to let children learn to deal with their peers. Between children, experiences and abilities are similar, interests and feelings are interlinked, and they are completely in an equal and independent position. They attract each other, imitate each other, compete with each other and confront each other. Parents should "open their doors" and let their neighbors, relatives and friends' children establish "diplomatic relations", make frequent contacts and get along well. For example, invite the children from the neighbors to visit us at home. Parents can encourage their children to be "small masters" in advance, and let them think about what toys to play and what dishes to eat to entertain guests after they come. For another example, when children see other children playing games and want to join them, but don't know what to do, parents should encourage them to negotiate and teach them some methods. Such group communication not only enriches children's experience and cultivates their communication ability, but also guides children to pay attention to the emotional changes of others and learn to care about and understand their feelings, thus stimulating children's desire to share happiness and relieve pain with others.
On the basis of good relations with parents and peers, parents should also attach importance to cultivating their children's ability to get along with others. For example, we can encourage children to participate in public welfare and charitable social activities, enhance exchanges with the elderly, the disabled and people in other regions, care about the lives of others, and let children have the idea of equal cooperation and humanitarian spirit from an early age. At present, the hope project in China is to help children in poor areas go to school. Parents can guide their children to pay attention to this "love" cause and save pocket money with their children to children in need.