Performance: Some children are impulsive and irritable, and they lose their temper when they are slightly unhappy, which is very aggressive. Some parents think that this is a sign of natural personality or low emotional intelligence, but in fact it is often a psychological problem.
The main reason: Although some babies are impulsive and angry easily due to the innate nervous system reaction, most children with big temper are still related to the acquired education and environment. Dr Cha Cai Hui cited a case: 1 a 7-year-old child had psychological counseling because of his bad temper. As a result, Dr. Cha found that the child's mother was very stubborn and arbitrary, always interrupting her father's speech, and even deliberately making excuses not to let her children see her grandparents in the countryside.
Intervention skills: temporarily isolate parents and set an example.
If the child loses his temper, he can be isolated in a monotonous place for a few minutes under the premise of ensuring environmental safety, while avoiding anyone's comfort. This cold treatment is more effective for angry children. In addition, parents must reflect on themselves, try not to set a bad example in front of their children, especially not to quarrel in front of their children, and pay attention to controlling their temper. Babies over three years old are overly dependent on their parents or family.
Performance: Children over 3 years old are still very dependent on their parents or family. One of the patients who consulted the doctor was a 3-year-old child who had been lying on his father's shoulder like a koala. Even if you play with the most interesting toys, you should have your father with you.
The main reason: Generally speaking, it is normal for babies under 2 years old to be attached to their families, and they will gradually adapt to the separation from adults as they grow older. Some older children have serious dependence, which may be related to their inseparable from adults since childhood. For example, too much care and protection for children makes children feel that everything needs adults to complete. In addition, children who lose their mother's care at an early age (especially between 3 months and 1 year) may be more prone to attachment problems.
Intervention skills: let children do one thing independently.
For dependent children, parents should gradually cultivate their children to do one thing independently, especially to let them feel the sense of accomplishment in completing one thing independently. Slowly, children will find that there are many interesting things without parents. Secondly, when parents leave their children, don't sneak away without saying a word. They must tell their children that they will come back.