-my views on the decline of family moral education today

Starting with some family education, this society has cultivated more and more new young people who believe in pragmatism, realism, utilitarianism and monetarism, especially the one-child group, which has been ignored by schools or given less spiritual guidance. As well as the rapid development of modern market economy and the invasion of western foreign cultures, are seriously affecting the value orientation of our generation, which is already "nothing happens". In this way, the environment of moral education is plagued by internal and external madness. We are sitting in the air filled with the fog of extreme individualism, thinking about how the future society will grow and how to grow.

Keywords: family education, moral education and intellectual education

Before I went to primary school, my parents were busy with business and were away for a long time. It was not until after my second grade that they finally remembered, sent away two nannies and moved back to live with me. Maybe it's because they feel that they owe me an early education attitude, so they will double their affection for me in the days to come. Because I am an only child, it is inevitable that his love for 3,000 people is concentrated on one person. However, compared with the average only child, my parents did not try to hone me into a unique talent, nor did they draw up an educational plan on how to grow up and how to grow up. On the contrary, they adhere to the stocking attitude of "I love you, which means you can do whatever you want" and obey everything except the college entrance examination. The family education they gave me was characterized by the combination of overindulgence in the one-child education and the widespread "urban neglect education" (in Minnan language, meaning aimless child rearing) in rural families in southern Fujian.

Because before primary school, no one at home cared about me or dared to care about me, and my character was already very arrogant. Specifically, I see who looks disgusting and sticks sheep dung on his iron gate, wooden door and security door. Once the victim's parents came to the door with smelly hard evidence to discuss. My dad immediately stood up angrily, pulled out the belt around his waist and threw it in the air: "Lao Zhang, I am really sorry for you. I must hang this dead child and fight!" " "

After Lao Zhang left with satisfaction, my father gave me a piece of boiled chicken and nagged me with a belt that Lao Zhang was really full! This little thing also disputes with children!

From then on, I learned diplomatically that it doesn't matter much even if I burn down someone else's door. Obviously, this unprincipled and overprotective family education has taught me the bad idea of "nothing is the biggest" in my childhood, which has distorted my values in the direction of selfishness and led to a sharp expansion of self-centeredness. Because children in the lower grades of primary school are in an excellent education period to form a sound personality, they are psychologically easy to accept hints. If there is any deviation in education, it is likely to bring irreparable personality defects to children.

Although many parents admit that moral education is very important in family education in reality, they all deeply understand that no matter how excellent their talents are, human beings who have abandoned morality will become a modern Hitler when they join the society, and such people will be laid off lonely by society sooner or later because of their dictatorial personality. Therefore, when parents are busy with intellectual education, they will also emphasize the word "moral education". However, even parents who deeply understand the importance of moral education are still lazy. The difficulty of moral education in family education lies in the unity of knowledge and practice. Parents are only good at history education, emphasizing virtue, loyalty to the country and filial piety to the family, and often quoting moral model figures of past dynasties, hoping that those images can set up an indelible monument in children's hearts. But under the oral tablet, it is barren or unrecognizable. Just as my parents told me about Lei Feng's fine moral sentiments when I was a child, they actively taught me to spend the money as soon as I found it, saying that it would help the owner put the money in the circulation market. This may just be a cynical remark, but unfortunately, such a willow tree can easily become a shadow in the pure and ignorant soil of children, making me feel that "virtue" is just empty talk. When necessary, I can even find many moral reasons to do things against morality.

From this, I feel that my family education really has the responsibility to get rid of the fact that I have degenerated into a rebellious magic man in the eyes of all three buildings in the community. I remember once I saw another child eating Sugar-Coated Berry, and I said to my father, "Me too!" "Dad didn't rush out to buy it, but said to the child like a robber," Come on! Give one to that little sister! "Then he grabbed the candied haws and let me have a bite. He did not forget to take a bite himself, and finally returned the stick to the child with satisfaction.

This gradually gave birth to the seeds of capitalism in my heart. I really thought that the whole world was my colony.

Later, in the process of growing up, I developed more and more obvious narrow-mindedness, sharp dictatorship, arrogance, self-righteousness, and incompatibility with many people and things. And my parents' policy of "I love you, that is, I want whatever you want" is still "from beginning to end". I didn't learn to seek truth from facts because I saw my "immoral growth" in their special family education, which is consistent with the times. I remember when I was in senior three, I didn't go to class because I had a quarrel with the security guard because I kicked the school gate. When the head teacher came to visit, he saw his father suddenly look like a ghost fire, took off his slippers and knocked on the table crazily: "Teacher Ma, I'm really sorry about the school. I will definitely cook this dead child and eat it! "

After Mr. Ma left contentedly, my father made me a sweet and sour sparerib and nagged me while wearing slippers, saying that we should stop studying in this boring school. This little thing is also a dispute with children! Change to a good one and go to the college entrance examination!

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Until now, when I look back, I have caught up with those fashionable times, such as money worship, hedonism, extreme individualism and so on. When I was in college, I suddenly found out how serious my physical and mental development imbalance was. Being in the socialist territory, my thoughts are still in the colonial era, so that interpersonal relationships are difficult to be harmonious in schools that require accommodation, and I am infected with communication barriers with people and even myself. In fact, cases like mine have become a common social phenomenon, not that our alternative families like to exaggerate. Starting with some family education, this society has cultivated more and more new youths who believe in pragmatism, realism, utilitarianism and monetarism, especially the only-child group, which has been continuously ignored by schools or lack of spiritual guidance, as well as the rapid development of modern market economy and the invasion of foreign cultures in the West, which are seriously affecting the value orientation of our generation. In this way, the environment of moral education is suffering from internal and external crazy disasters. We are sitting in the air filled with the fog of extreme individualism, thinking about how the future society will grow and how to grow.

Modern education has obvious screening function and social mobility function, and the realistic style of examination first and academic qualifications forcing death is rampant. In addition, school education is increasingly regarded as consumer goods, which leads to family education. The exam-oriented education in today's society attracts the main attention of family education, while parents think that as long as they can study and get a diploma, they are good children who honor their ancestors. Although my family pursues the stocking policy, the word "college entrance examination", which is similar to the future, still has an inevitable driving force, which makes my parents whisper every day. Half a year before the college entrance examination, my family was full of nutrition, reference books and tutors, so I was forced to carry out intellectual education in a muddle. But on the day of the college entrance examination, my father still said to me: "If the invigilator is from our school, then cheat. Forget it! "

This kind of immoral family education still exists in our real life and emerges endlessly. The decline of modern family moral education can not be ignored. Even things like feudal ethics popular in ancient times, which destroy people, have a significance that even modern times can't compare with in pure moral education. It is reported that Chinese ancient sages not only attached importance to family moral education, but also attached importance to the methods and art of family moral education. They attach importance to their godchildren's determination to become successful and upright. The godson should be frugal, honest and trustworthy, do good deeds without leaving any property. While leaving their innocence in the world, they also pay attention to moral education as early as possible, combine words and deeds with examples, integrate moral education into family life, and guide children to choose correct outlook on life and values.

It can be seen that family education should of course teach us how to make a living, that is, how to survive intelligently in social relations for a long time, but it is absolutely impossible to teach us to forget why we were born, let alone to cunningly abandon virtue and seek fate.

Reference: China Education and Business Travel Newspaper.