Method 1: Understand that "rules are everywhere and everyone is bound". In fact, starting from people's needs, anyone likes to be comfortable, comfortable, spontaneous and unrestrained, as long as they meet their own needs. However, because people are social animals, they always have various relationships with people around them, so they have to consider the feelings of people around them, and they can't do whatever they want, or they will have no place to live. So are children. The ultimate goal of parents to cultivate their children is to cultivate their children into social people and a qualified social person. In this way, they must have certain constraints on their children, have a sense of rules, and learn to get along with others. The reason for saying this is to let children understand that rules are everywhere in real society, and those who don't obey them will be punished. Of course, it's easier said than done. This awareness of rules should be cultivated from an early age. Don't spoil children too much at home. Once a child has out-of-line behavior, parents must react to stop it, even if it is a stern look and a word of opposition. Let the children feel that they have done something wrong and can't do it in the future. Slowly cultivate a sense of rules. Fiona Fang cannot live without rules. If children are taught to exercise restraint from an early age, they will generally not be lax. What about Zhang Chen, a child who has formed a loose habit? Parents can care more about their children, be their friends, gain their trust, and then be emotional and rational. For example, children care about having their own friends, and they also hope to get the respect of their classmates at school, so that children can put themselves in others' shoes. If the teacher is giving a lecture, everyone is listening with relish. Suddenly, someone will express their views following the teacher's words, which will disrupt the teacher's teaching ideas and arouse students' resentment. Slowly, they will offend the students, and everyone will stay away from him, and no one will help them when they encounter difficulties. At that time, it must have been very frustrating. Because children in the upper grades of primary schools generally have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, once the consequences of imagination are serious, they will be bound by their own actions. ◆ Note: The establishment of rule awareness cannot be completed overnight, and it may be a long process. Parents should have enough psychological preparation, give their children room for change, and urge them to strengthen their awareness of behavior. Method 2: "sloppy" is moderate, depending on the occasion. As mentioned above, it is common for people to expect comfort and freedom, but people can't do whatever they want. This is determined by social rules, and no one can escape the constraints of social rules. However, people are not clockwork, always like this. People also want to relax in real life, and want to be unrestrained, but the realization of this desire should be limited, enough is enough, and should not bring adverse effects to people. For those who pursue freedom and freedom, we should see that their behavior will change slowly to a certain extent, and don't go to extremes. Parents should let their children know that freedom is necessary. Sometimes, some things can be done at home and parents can understand, but you must learn to obey the rules outside. Kindergartens have kindergarten rules, and schools have school rules, which must be observed. If you don't go with them, you will be punished, you will feel humiliated and make your classmates laugh. Students generally admire children with good grades, but if the students who study well only have good grades, but the class affects other students, students will think that this person is not so good. This kind of unrestrained behavior will widen the distance between him and his classmates and also lose their friendship. This degree should also set a gradual process for children, and there should be a transition zone. Once they think of others, their rambling behavior at home will also change. Method 3: The child is punished for being sloppy, and the parents do not cover it up and change the child's sloppy and unconstrained habit. In addition to talking with their children, making friends and putting forward their own opinions, parents may also be inseparable from punishment. Because in a certain time and under certain circumstances, punishment will still have certain effects. I just want to remind parents who love their children that when their children are punished, they should never cover up, and let them experience the consequences of freedom and bear their due responsibilities. For example, because a child ignores classroom discipline and goes to the toilet without the teacher's leave, the teacher criticizes him for making a penalty stand or making a penalty stand in front of the whole class. The child may feel humiliated, complain to the parents and counterclaim that the teacher won't let him go to the toilet, so parents can't blindly follow the child's intentions. It is necessary to find out the situation, analyze the reasons why children are punished, and make children aware of the problems in their behavior, which will play a certain warning role to a certain extent; If parents only listen to their children and think that the teacher is too much, criticizing the teacher at present will also make the children feel contempt for the teacher, and the freedom in the classroom may be intensified. Therefore, parents should be psychologically prepared for the punishment their children receive, and don't blindly cover up. Of course, parents should not think that their children are too angry, and they will lose face if they are found by the teacher, and then they will increase the punishment. Doing so is likely to arouse the child's rebellious mentality, but it will make him more loose and free, and the corrected punishment will not serve as a warning. Method 4: Find the bright spot and encourage children to become as smart as Zhang Chen. They generally have a strong desire to express themselves. Parents can advise teachers to make use of their children's strengths, give them a chance to be the leader of the study group, and tell them not only to get good grades, but also to learn to help other students, set an example for the leader, be a small teacher for other students in the self-study class, answer their questions and manage the discipline of the class self-study class. After two or three days of experience, parents can ask their children how they feel. Generally, I feel very tired, thinking that many students will not listen to him, and some students are not convinced. Parents can take advantage of the trend to guide you, and you will feel tired soon. The teacher has to manage a class of dozens of people. If every student interrupts the class like him, what will the class be like? During the Spring Festival, it will definitely be like a temple fair, not only the teacher can't talk. Such a timely conversation will point out a direction for children, so that children can truly understand the difficulties of others, think about the right and wrong of their own behavior, and learn to restrain their own behavior. Children like to be praised. If you find their small progress, you should encourage them in time, which is to strengthen children's behavior. This method will help children gradually get rid of bad behavior.