When Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a great educator, was the principal, one day he saw a boy throwing bricks at another boy, which was very dangerous. He stopped him and told him to come to the principal's office at three in the afternoon.

Faced with such a scene, we are all familiar with it, and we have experienced similar anxiety more or less in the process of growing up.

At that time, we were full of fear, afraid of accusation and punishment.

In the face of mistakes, most of us wait for severe punishment, blame and abuse, which seems reasonable and we are used to it. But seeing what Teacher Tao has done, we have to admire the demeanor of a great educator.

Mr. Tao went to buy a bag of candy and saw the little boy waiting there early. Mr. Tao said, "This candy is for you, because you keep your word and arrive early and not be late."

The little boy was torn apart by the candy in front of him, but it also puzzled him. What happened?

Then the second candy came on stage. Mr. Tao said, "This candy is also for you. If I tell you to stop, you stop at once, which shows that you respect the headmaster very much. Respect for others is the most important quality. "

Huh? I made a serious mistake, and there will be praise.

This, this, this, it turns out that I am still right and recognized. Don't criticize me, praise me? I can't help feeling happy.

The little boy's mind is a mess and he doesn't know what to say.

Then the third soup appeared. Mr. Tao said, "As far as I know, you threw bricks at your classmates because they bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice. I'll give you another one. "

At this time, the righteousness in the little boy's heart was recognized by those who admired him, and his heart was warm. The little boy said, "Principal, I was wrong. If my classmates are wrong again, I can't take this method. "

While the little boy was recognized, he also saw his own shortcomings. He can't be rude to others and solve the problem by force.

Then the fourth candy is Mr. Tao's reward for him at this time. "It's really hard for you to admit your mistake. I have to reward you again." My candy came out and our conversation was over. Go home! "

The boy is holding four sweets in his hand, and his heart is full of unprecedented joy. It seems that there is a lamp in his heart to guide the little boy's road ahead, until the distance, until the end of his life ~

Rules bind people, the law judges people, and judges people's faults everywhere, leaving us nowhere to escape. We are educated and disciplined from birth, and we lack the guidance of light. However, behind the law is grace, which comes from love. He doesn't look at darkness or mistakes, only at light. Who is not wrong? The more you face the light and darkness on the straight road of life, the less you will be.

Everyone who is growing is a seed. Whether this seed is shrouded in darkness or illuminated by light is the influence of family environment and social environment on people. On the one hand, judgment, and on the other hand, grace; Judging your own mistakes and forgiving them are not only forgiveness, but also recognition and guidance. Being recognized, there will be a road ahead, and there will be eternal motivation, right?

When children make mistakes, her mother always uses verbal violence to discipline them. The child feels normal, but the child only sees the mother's emotions and reactions, and does not learn anything from them. It is normal for her mother to blame her for doing something wrong. When one day, the mother uncharacteristically suppressed her temper and made rude behavior, at this time, the child would be surprised, "Why didn't the mother lose her temper?" If the mother can stand on the child's point of view, understand and recognize the child, the child will see more light of recognition, continue to work hard and play an educational role.

However, not all people have such a big mind and high emotional control ability. The more they care about people, the more they can't help themselves. What is the reason for being rude because of love?