The news caused an uproar in the society, and we remembered some extreme things reported before, such as the case of Wu, a student of Peking University, and the case of 18 Yuanjiang 12-year-old child killing his mother in Hunan.
Part one: Some misunderstandings in family education.
Many people focus on the cruelty of children, but ignore the lessons we should learn from this as adults, especially family education.
Story 1: In the process of educating her children, the mother tells her children's angry expressions.
Every detail of education makes children feel suffocated.
Story 2, the story of students going crazy in class, parents think that children are just out of control, as long as they are beaten, but they ignore their ability to resist pressure.
Simple and rude education makes it impossible for children to release their inner anger.
Story 3: Two examples of college students' psychological counseling, one is obsessive-compulsive disorder, and the other is addicted to online games. These two students are particularly outstanding. The reason is that there is a strict parent behind them. The child internalized this request and had contradictions in his heart, and solved it in an extreme and unacceptable way.
When high expectation education makes children feel unbearable, children will show some symptoms.
Story 4: When college students were young, they were honest, obedient, introverted and quiet. Parents think obedient children are good children. When I grow up, I am dissatisfied with my job and resign, resulting in various hallucinations.
Parents think obedient children are good children.
Part II: What is a good education?
1.60, mom
2. Four levels of education
Universality of education does not mean individuation, so we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
4. The psychological motivation that children know but can't do.
Parents and teachers think that the child doesn't know, but in fact she can't. The bad mood in the middle makes the child unable to do it.