I have read the story of Zhang Yide and his father in his later years on the Internet more than once, and I feel very distressed every time I read it. When my father was old, he devoted all his money to cultivating his son's virtue, but Yide, who went abroad to study, committed suicide for unknown reasons.

I am a person who raised children by myself, and I know the hardships of raising children, not to mention being a single father. Then why do you want to take a road of no return? I think there are many reasons.

First of all, it may have something to do with dad's resignation.

As an old father, I had a child after divorce. In order to give my children more love, I had to quit my job and go back to the countryside to take care of my children. It seems that I am old enough to take raising children as my only occupation. Yes, raising children is definitely a great career. For example, Cai's career in short stories belongs to his father, but Cai's father never gave up his career. He is a doctor, and he must bring home the bacon. It is unrealistic to take care of his baby full time. Of course, Dad Cai has a complete family.

However, as a father, only this profession will make children feel pressure. A sensible child can only strive to be excellent and not let his father down, which is unbearable for the child and may bury the root of depression. In fact, boys need to follow their father's example and worship his father, especially his father who is galloping in the workplace. I understood this after watching To Kill a Mockingbird.

Secondly, high-grade education should have sufficient economic strength.

It costs a lot of money to train a child now, which is obviously not enough from the old situation. First, I have been studying in a good school and need more financial support. For the sake of children, I can only rely on the internet, make money by sharing parenting experience, and then raise funds. In the information age, this is also a good way to make money. However, all this must first consider the feelings of children. Are children willing to exchange their excellent performance for money? Are children willing to disclose their privacy? If you are only forced, how can the child's tender shoulders resist?

The child is excellent and content with his old age. His goal seems ambitious. Studying abroad is certain. But the old economic ability obviously can't keep up. Later, the children went to high school in the city where their mother lived, and her mother gave them a lot of financial support. When I am old, there seems to be no other source of income except sharing parenting experience to support my family.

I think it is really difficult for poor families to support a child's high-end education expenses. Forcibly entering such a learning circle may bring a deep sense of inferiority to children.

Third, training children needs knowledge.

If you want to educate children well, you should have knowledge besides working hard every day. Where does knowledge come from? From the experience of life, of course. But I stayed in the countryside for 19 years, and my vision was limited. Most of my knowledge comes from books, and my personal feelings about society are not so strong. My thinking mode is a little rigid, so it is inevitable to educate my children. So I think men should go out and strengthen themselves first, so that they can lead by example to educate their children like Zeng Guofan.

Of course, the old consideration is whether you will have time to spend with your children when you go out to work, but you can't have your cake and eat it. As a man, complete companionship seems impossible at any time. I think if I am old enough, I should mobilize people like my mother or relatives to take care of the children at home, solve problems by themselves, work hard while taking care of the children, let myself have my own circle and cultivate my knowledge in the torrent. I have always felt that father's knowledge is not only the best starting line for children, but also the patron saint of children's life.

People's endurance is limited, especially children. If children want to be mentally healthy, it is our compulsory course to observe words and deeds every day. We must get rid of the rubbish in children's hearts in time, so that children can unload their burdens and devote themselves to everyday life. Give me some ideas when I die. When we say that children have problems, we should look for reasons from their parents. Of course, we mean those children who have not yet entered the society. So, I also found them from the old people to encourage myself!