Later, she told me that these grapes were all grown by herself, all natural and pollution-free, and they had never been treated with pesticides to kill insects and ripen. Even if there are insects, they are captured and destroyed artificially. When I eat these grapes again, I find them particularly sweet and delicious.
When I go shopping and see a beautifully decorated store, I feel that the clothes inside are of good quality and high grade. The same clothes are sold in stalls, and everyone thinks that these clothes are of poor quality and tasteless.
Similar things often happen, too numerous to mention, and these are what we often call psychological suggestion phenomena.
Psychological suggestion refers to the psychological characteristics that people accept the influence of the wishes, ideas, emotions, judgments and attitudes of the outside world or others.
Psychologist Pavlov believes that suggestion is the simplest and most typical conditioned reflex of human beings. From the psychological mechanism, it is a hypothesis affirmed by subjective will, which may not be justified, but because it has been subjectively affirmed, it tries its best to favor this content psychologically.
For example, in the process of educating children, parents always say that our children are particularly persistent, and as long as they set goals, they can always stick to them. After a long time, the child accepted the hints of his parents, subjectively affirmed this assumption, and psychologically tried his best to favor this content. After a long time, the child will grow up. I have perseverance and can persist in doing things.
On the contrary, if we often say that children are lazy and sloppy for a long time, children will affirm this assumption and become lazy and sloppy.
Therefore, psychological suggestion is a common psychological phenomenon, which has both positive and negative aspects. Just like RMB, it doesn't matter whether it is good or bad, but if it is used well, it can bring endless benefits to people, and if it is not used well, it will make people feel inexplicably depressed.
In this case, let's talk about how to play the positive role of psychological suggestion. You can try the following four methods.
1. Try to be positive to everyone.
We should actively educate our children. The child was careless in the exam. Don't always say "you are a careless child". In other words, "I am more careful this time than last time, and I will be more careful in the future!" "
Treat your lover, see their efforts and praise: "thank you for your hard work!" "
Treat colleagues and friends, see their achievements, and sincerely say, "You are great and an example for us to learn!" " "
2. Be kind to yourself and encourage more.
Every morning, I say to myself in the mirror, "Today is another day, dear myself, come on!" " "
Before the exam and the competition, cheer for yourself: "I have made full preparations, believe in myself, and I will definitely play normally (supernormal)!"
In the face of failure and sadness, hug yourself and comfort yourself: "I have tried my best, and now no matter how I blame myself and feel sad, I can't change the result." Have a good sleep, the sun will be new tomorrow! " As long as I live, there is hope for everything! "
3. To treat your dreams, you must stick to them.
Pygmalion effect told us that when we have very strong expectations for something, what we expect will appear.
Whether it is writing, fitness, traveling or financial management, as long as we have a goal in mind and stick to it for a long time, we will certainly achieve it.
If a writer can't persist, just think of Tang Jiasan, who has updated 8000 words every day for 96 months. This kind of diligence and hard work is worth learning from everyone.
I have always believed that there will be repercussions if I don't forget it.
You should try to correct the negative suggestion yourself after you realize it.
For example, if you do a job, everyone will say how difficult it is, and we will feel afraid of difficulties and want to give up our efforts. If this idea comes up, you feel that you have been negatively hinted by others, so you must correct it in time and hint to yourself: "This job is really difficult, which is just an opportunity for exercise. Therefore, I have to work harder, be fully prepared, and work harder and harder than usual. "
When you are criticized and denied by others, it is right to learn a lesson, find out the reasons and correct your mistakes, but don't lose the courage to try. Please always say to yourself: "I can do it! I will succeed this time! "
By the way, did you get my psychological hint about this article?
Finally, send you a sentence: you are great, you are a unique existence in this world, and you deserve all the beauty!