practice Parents' words and deeds are "personal demonstrations" of children's character education, which can subtly influence, infect and cultivate children's character. Parents' professionalism and strong enterprising spirit will set an example for their children and affect their attitude towards study and life.
Accompany communication. Parents who are good at communicating with their children can keep abreast of their children's ideological trends, three outlooks on life, psychological demands and doubts, and the conflicts between parents and children will be resolved and reduced. The company of parents will make children feel safe.
Thank you for your encouragement. Children's words and deeds are often immature and imperfect, and parents' appreciative eyes and encouraging words will give children great encouragement. Parents know how to appreciate their children, and children will gradually become confident, self-reliant and self-reliant.
As warm as the sun. The care of elders, the care of parents, a caring greeting, a careful exhortation and an affectionate gaze are all the temperatures that children need in the process of growing up, which can stimulate their upward motivation.
Moisten like running water. Parents' words and deeds are all flowing water, which moistens children's eyes and hearts and guides their development direction and road.
Free as air. When children face difficulties or challenges, parents should be invisible, give in appropriately, and give their children opportunities for exercise and experience, which is the freedom that children need for jointing.
Help children form three good habits.
1. Good behavior habits. For example, I dare to do it, have a sense of responsibility, finish what I started, and I am not afraid of difficulties.
2. Open and innovative thinking habits. Parents can be brave in pioneering and enterprising, and children are more likely to maintain strong curiosity, rich imagination and endless exploration spirit, which is the propeller of success.
3. The habit of continuous learning. Continuous learning is the source of sustainable development. It's never too late to learn. When the family is full of lifelong learning atmosphere, children will subtly cultivate the habit of loving learning, and children will become fond of books and dare to try.
Help children and let them go their own way.
Help children build self-confidence. Self-confidence is the cornerstone and the "reassurance" of healthy growth, so that children can experience success in study, life and cooperation, trust their parents, teachers and peers, and let children bloom confidently in their own flowering period.
Help children develop self-discipline. Self-discipline is the path and the "storage battery" for long-term development. Only when it is stable can we achieve far-reaching goals. Good habits formed in childhood can guide children to grow up in the sun.
Help children to improve themselves. Self-improvement is a motor and a "booster" for pursuing Excellence. Parents only accompany their children for a short period of time in their lives. How to go and how far to go depends on their internal drive.
Harmony, equality, good learning and good guidance
Harmony. Parents should work together to create a harmonious family atmosphere. When a child makes a mistake, talk to the child quietly to help him form a sound personality and healthy psychology.
Equality. Parents should not pretend to be adults or parents when communicating with their children. Especially when discussing some issues, when children's opinions are biased, parents must not be arbitrary, but should analyze and guide them in an orderly way, so that children can feel as sincere as friends.
Good at learning and guiding. As parents, we should learn corresponding educational and psychological knowledge according to the age of children. In this way, when guiding children, they can be convincing and achieve the expected purpose.
Strict love and dynamic and static combination.
1. behave yourself. Parents should set an example, do a good job in demonstrating and guiding their children, and at the same time formulate corresponding rules according to their age, so that children can follow rules and work hard.
2. Be polite. Parents take the lead in greeting their neighbors, showing courtesy to others, smiling at others, and treating guests generously. Children learn when they hear it naturally.
3. Talk about hygiene. Household items should be placed in an orderly manner, and good hygiene habits such as washing hands before meals and brushing your teeth twice a day should be developed. The whole family should mop the floor and put on plaster.
4. Love reading. Adults often read books and newspapers, or read stories to their children, set the reading time after meals every day, set up study rooms and bookshelves, and create a good reading atmosphere.
5. Love sports. Parents are children's coaches, teaching them the traditional games they played when they were young, so that children can strengthen their physique and build up their confidence in sports.
6. Love to sum up. Have a family meeting every other week, half a month or a month. Family members sum up their achievements and shortcomings and grow in the summary.
Learn to change and live in harmony.
Get to know children. Children are more like a forest than a car, so we can't polish children by mechanical means, otherwise, we will eventually become an examination machine.
Trust the child. To let children grow up in their own way, all you can give is companionship and patience.
Change yourself. In the process of educating children, what parents should do most is to improve themselves and grow up with their children.
"Six-character Proverbs" of Successful Family Education
Democracy. Successful family education should be democratic first. In family education, children also enjoy the rights of family members, and autocracy cannot cultivate excellent children.
Freedom. Although children are young and weak in self-control, parents should also give their children full freedom in family education. Excellent parents will give their children some private space appropriately and let them learn to choose for themselves.
Self-discipline Everyone is lazy sometimes. Parents should not only remind their children in time, but also strengthen their self-discipline and set a good example for them.
Be positive and make progress together.
Be positive and set an example. No matter how much obstacles parents encounter in the process of educating their children, they should adjust their emotions in time, solve problems with a positive and optimistic attitude, and let children learn how to face setbacks and difficulties in life.
Encourage care and keep moving forward. When children learn to regress, learn to encourage them, help them find the reasons for their failure, and then take action towards their goals; When children and classmates don't get along well, talk about their own ways to get along with others, let children get solutions to problems from real cases, and encourage children to face problems and solve them.
Care for growth and meet beauty.
1. Pay attention to personality development. Parents should pay more attention to the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence and life ability, and cultivate children's self-reliance and self-improvement ability, instead of unilaterally emphasizing IQ and scores.
2. Care for spiritual growth. Parents should pay attention to guiding their children to be friends with books, forming their hobbies in reading and exploration, laying a foundation for their spiritual background and affecting their lifelong growth.
3. Promote personality development. Parents should truly establish the educational concept of "seeking only one and not striving for the first place", help their children find their own unique advantages that are different from others, and accompany them to be the best themselves.
Building three "good" families
Good family members-successful family education requires a good family atmosphere. If the mother's mood is stable and peaceful, the father participates in the child's growth and the child actively participates in family affairs, the child's growth process will be full of security and become a confident and sunny person.
Good learning atmosphere-if parents are continuous learners, then children will be moved and become people who love learning.
Good personality guidance-when children make mistakes, parents should not blindly cover up or complain. Let the children feel the love of their parents first, and then guide them to learn to take responsibility. You can use the way of "non-violent communication": observation-feeling-demand-request.
Love is what he is, not what I think.
1. Set an example. Parents are the first teachers of the children. In childhood, children like to imitate the words and deeds of their parents. Therefore, good family education must attach importance to setting an example. I hope that children are polite and parents should be polite; I hope that children like reading and parents should put it down; I hope that children are eager to learn and make progress, and parents should keep learning.
2. Pay attention to personality and love life. Some parents only pay attention to the progress of their children's academic performance, but don't pay much attention to the development of their children's personality. Some children are academic tyrants, but they are nervous about getting along with others and their emotional intelligence is obviously insufficient. Good family education must value character over knowledge and guide children to become people who love life. Being a parent is far-reaching for children, going further with personality and walking more steadily with love.
3. Respect children and the law. Good family education may be different, but they can certainly "love what he does, not what I think". Respect children and really proceed from their feelings, instead of imposing their wishes on them; Respect the law and educate children to proceed from their physical and mental characteristics, instead of encouraging them to make harsh demands. Only in this way can children develop their strengths and thrive.
Mitigate force with kindness
It just means there are principles. Let children know where the basic principles of doing things are, what kind of punishment they will get if they do something wrong, and there will be appropriate rewards when they do it well, so that rewards and punishments are clear, and they will never indulge their children because of temporary weakness.
Softness means companionship. Parents never let go of every stage of their children's growth, from guidance to letting go slowly, to be their most solid backing. Allow them to make mistakes, explore the world and express their views. You can be speechless, but you must be present and be the most emboldened presence around your child.
Read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road.
Home layout. The arrangement of family environment embodies a family's educational concept. Parents can create a family culture through warm arrangement, such as replacing the TV wall with a book wall, establishing a family reading corner and a family library, so that children can love and enjoy reading.
Broaden one's horizons In addition to learning knowledge from books, children should also get in touch with the outside world and broaden their horizons. Excellent parents will not be limited to cultivating "nerds", but will take their children everywhere. At the same time, children will love life more. During the trip, parents should pay attention to exercising their children's living ability.
Accompany, cultivate and respect
Every child has the potential to be an excellent person, and it is the different education methods of parents that give children different lives.
Accompany with heart. The two gifts that everyone needs most from childhood are a sense of security and recognition of their own importance. The influence of parents on their children lies not in how much money they earn and how many things they buy for their children, but in how much company they have for their children. Every moment when parents and children are together hides his future.
Cultivate with heart. Parents' attitude towards education determines their children's future height. Education is not to let things drift, not to do everything, but to cultivate good behavior and study habits and face children with an inclusive attitude.
Respect with heart. The so-called respect for children means that parents can listen carefully and understand their feelings and needs when they conflict with their children's opinions. Respect should not be concentrated by parents. Children should be given full autonomy as far as possible, their choices should be respected, and their independence should be cultivated.