1, parents lead by example
If the mother is confused and looking for something, the father, who has always been careful, will ask her what happened. She is afraid of being scolded, so she says "nothing", so the children who stand by and witness will learn to lie to avoid being scolded.
As the saying goes, "example is better than words." Parents' words and deeds are often the basis for children to learn and imitate, so parents must set an example for their children.
Don't blame the child in a hurry.
When a child makes a mistake, parents should first stabilize their emotions, and don't have to get angry or blame loudly, so that the child will not be frightened or frightened, and thus clearly know what the motivation and purpose of the child's lying are. In an objective and calm atmosphere, parent-child interaction will develop positively.
3, clarify the reasons for dishonesty
First of all, we should understand that the reason why children lie is to protect themselves and win the attention of adults, or that children can't tell the distance between stories and real life. So the magic mirror in Snow White's story will make them sometimes have the effect of a game, and sometimes make them afraid. Usually, it is not until they are about five years old that they have certain cognitive differences between reality and fantasy.
4. About this matter
Parents must have an attitude and solve problems, instead of blindly criticizing children or things, so that children lose their self-esteem. You can discuss with your child like this: "If you tell what happened at that time, your mother will be happier, but what you just said doesn't seem to have really happened. Do you want to think about it again and think clearly? " It is more helpful for children to use open-ended questions and reserve some space for them.
5. Don't label your child at will.
Children often lie not to hurt others on purpose. Parents should not easily equate a child's lying behavior with a child's quality, and should not label a child as a "little liar", "liar expert" or "braggart" because of a child's lies.
This will not only help children get rid of the problem of lying, but also strengthen their lying behavior, which may prompt them to lie harder in the future.