When I first read this book, many new concepts and contents were not easy to understand, mostly because of the author's profound skills, which is why she can lead readers to a higher level. Although this book is very thin, I have read it for a long time. The purpose is to be thicker and read the concept clearly. In the process of reading, I often stop to think. For me, such books are also one of my hobbies.
It is mentioned in the book that children are in a favorable position to develop their cognitive potential if they feel happy and safe in their families, peer groups and the big social environment. If the growing environment makes children feel anxious or afraid, then they will encounter more difficulties in cognitive and emotional development. These truths may be understood by everyone, but in real life, they are counterproductive for various reasons, such as discord between husband and wife, insufficient attention to children, and excessive demands on children.
The research of child psychology shows that enthusiastic and timely response is the key to obtain the best development effect. "Timely response" means immediately responding to children's suggestions and paying attention to children's concerns. When children's proposals can get "supportive results", they can learn effectively. If a child continues to be neglected, neglected or indifferent, his social, cognitive and academic development may be damaged.
In addition, another key factor in children's development is the development of language. The quantity and quality of languages are very important. In terms of quantity, it is to ensure that children have enough investment and let children hear more caregivers' voices. This kind of voice is best "child to child", which is educational and loving. In terms of quality, the easiest way is to interact with books. Interacting with children and books every day will naturally introduce more complicated language and provide a lot of stimulation for cognitive development.
Studies have shown that if there are many "restrictive languages" in children's environment, it will have a negative impact on their later cognitive, social and academic development. (such as "stop", "don't do this", "put down" and other languages)
Many conclusions in the book are drawn from experimental results. Such an experiment seems boring, but it is very worthwhile to spend time reading it carefully and have fun from it. Because of this, this book belongs to science books. Educator Chen Meiling mentioned in the preface of the book: For the sake of children's future, parents should strive for opportunities for further study. Understanding children's psychology can help parents cultivate their children with more confidence.
Psychology is a relatively new major. Of course, many parents who have never studied psychology have cultivated outstanding talents throughout the ages, but this does not mean that these parents do not understand psychology. Even if they really don't, they know how to provide a fertile land, a good environment and a good family atmosphere for their children to thrive. Parents don't have to worry about "spending money carelessly" or spending too much time and energy on their children. It is often difficult for many selfish parents to cultivate filial children, because their words and deeds are affecting their children, and this influence is very profound in childhood. So set an example, set an example.
It is also mentioned in the book that children are parents' philosophy teachers, and many of the questions they ask seem naive, but in fact they are all philosophical questions. Thinking parents will find that they can actually learn a lot from their children and often see some shadows of their childhood. Understanding children means understanding yourself. It's too late for us to thank TA, so why should we scold them?
Anyway, this is a book worth reading and rereading.