We always say "sincerity for sincerity", but life has taught us that not every effort will be rewarded, and not everyone deserves your kindness to him.
That's what people do. No matter who you are good to, who will be good to you.
The rest of your life is not long, so you must leave your goodness to those who deserve it.
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Leave it to those who know how to be grateful.
There is a saying in the movie "The Godfather": The softness without boundaries will only make the other side push your luck; Unprincipled kindness will only let the other person do whatever he wants.
In this world, the most unpredictable is the human heart, and the most insatiable is the human heart.
People who don't know how to be grateful will not appreciate your kindness, but will only push your luck and take everything you have paid for granted.
When people extract wool, sheep are always so docile; However, when people extract honey, they should always be on guard against the stings on bees.
But people praise bees, not sheep, and even call those cowardly people in the world sheep.
No matter how much you pay without dignity, it is difficult to get people's respect and praise.
Pay, there is a bottom line; Pay with dignity; Be kind and sharp.
People should have a grateful heart all their lives.
Only by being grateful can we remember the goodness of others and get their love.
Only by being grateful can we live indomitable life without violating our conscience, corrupting our conduct, and having a clear conscience.
Only those who are grateful deserve your kindness!
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Leave it to someone who really understands you.
There is a saying on the Internet: A person who knows your tears is better than a person who only knows your smile.
I'm impressed. Understanding is the warmest companion in the soul.
Read a story:
There is a nurse whose biggest hobby in her spare time is boxing.
She often shares the fun of boxing with her boyfriend, but he always throws cold water on her and educates her: "If you are free, just go to the gym to practice calligraphy." Why did you do what the boy did? "
Because in the eyes of boyfriends, it is shameful for girls to play boxing.
The nurse loved her boyfriend very much, and finally they broke up. Later, she met another boy.
Boys are very silent, like very literary things, and know nothing about boxing. But every time the nurse shared her happiness in boxing with him, he listened with interest.
Boys will not practice boxing with her, but will quietly watch her do what she likes.
When others treat her differently, boys will encourage her not to care about other people's eyes and just do what she likes.
When two people are compared, it is obvious who is more suitable.
Talking to people who understand you is a kind of decompression; Talking to someone who doesn't understand you is boring.
It is a pleasure to talk with people who know you; Talking to someone who doesn't understand you is torture.
People who don't understand you, even if you talk more, will only think from their own perspective.
Only those who really understand you are willing to put themselves in your shoes and understand your difficulties.
Therefore, you don't have to open your heart to people who don't understand you.
Your kindness should be reserved for those who really understand you. If you speak from the heart, you should also tell your bosom friend.
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Leave it to someone who really cares about you.
Whether a person cares about you, in fact, the answer is obvious, in his words, in his actions, in all the stories you have experienced together.
He doesn't feel long-winded when you nag him; He doesn't feel embarrassed when you are silent;
He doesn't feel lonely when you are busy; When you are ill, he won't feel upset.
You are comfortable with him.
Painter Wu Guanzhong and his wife are famous couples in the art world. They have known each other for decades.
In his later years, his wife suffered from Alzheimer's disease, always worried that the gas was not turned off, and repeatedly unscrewed the gas;
Wu Guanzhong has been following his wife. She opens it once, he closes it once, and it never takes much effort.
Since his wife fell ill, he has guarded her day and night like a child.
He once said that he hoped his wife could walk in front of him so that he could accompany her to the end of his life.
In this life, people will get the happiness they deserve only if they leave their efforts to those who deserve it.
No matter how good a person is, he must meet someone who knows the goods; No matter how humble you are, you must face the people you cherish;
No matter how sincere you are, you must catch up with those who have the heart; No matter how much you pay, you will meet someone who is worth it.
When you are alive, you don't always want to be good for everyone.
Sometimes, we really need to treat them differently so as not to make people who really care about us feel cold.
So, please leave your love to those who really care about you.
Feng Zikai once said: If you love, life is lovely everywhere. If you hate it, life is hateful everywhere. If you are grateful, you can be grateful everywhere.
The so-called friendship is never one-way; No matter how deep the feelings are, they will be broken if they are not cherished.
Life is too short to waste your energy on someone who is not worth it.
Leave your kindness to those who deserve it.
You know, your heart is very expensive, don't waste it easily.