2. Believe in children and let them grow up freely. I believe that children can do well in their own life stage and solve their own difficulties. To this end, I "let go and shut up". Give children more room and freedom to grow up.
3. Believe in children and accept everything about them. Treat children as children, children are children, and they are not as good as adults physically and psychologically. It is normal and possible that some things are not done well and not in place. I look at these problems from the perspective of children, accept children and support them.
4. Lead by example, demonstrate effectively and lead scientifically. Children like to learn, and children learn by imitation. In daily life, take responsibility for yourself, standardize your words and deeds, be honest, upright and upright, be yourself, set a good example for children, demonstrate effectively, assist children when encountering specific things, guide scientifically, and avoid improper ways such as preaching, reasoning and accusing.
Second, the method level is 1. The state is right, always keep smiling and peaceful. Because of my smiling face, the more children like me, the more they want to be close to me, and the more harmonious the parent-child relationship is.
2. The concept is correct, always trust the child (as mentioned above). At home, there are no longer so many reminders, nagging and urging. If the child needs my help, I will respond in time. Believe in children, I am not so anxious and worried.
3. Be in the right direction and have a sense of introspection. There are contradictions in the daily parent-child relationship. I won't point the contradiction at children. I will first reflect on myself, whether I have supported children's emotions, paid attention to their real needs, understood the truth of the matter, lectured, accused or even reprimanded them.
Adhere to the principle of cooperation and dialogue when encountering specific things.
Step 1: Support emotions.
Once, the child came home and said to me: Dad, I accidentally pushed my classmate, and as a result, my classmate fell into a ditch and hurt his leg.
"Well, I know, we don't panic, slowly tell me what's going on? Let's deal with it together ...? "I responded indifferently, while supporting the child's inner panic and the desire for parents' help.
"Oh, that's the way it is. What can Dad do for you now? "
Step 2: Know the truth.
"Come on, tell Dad what happened." This is the process of knowing the truth.
The third step: cooperation and dialogue, mutual influence. After learning the truth, I responded, "What can Dad do for you now? The child replied, "I need my father to take me to my classmate's house." "
(For children's requirements, parents need to make timely assessment, reasonably meet their children directly, and unreasonably continue to follow their reactions for discussion and communication. If the child says "I don't know", parents can also tell the child a scientific way to deal with it.
Step 4: Reach a consensus. In my communication with my children, we finally came up with a solution: I bought some fruit in the evening and went to my classmates' home to visit them.
In this incident, the child's anxiety and fear won my support, and the child felt the care of his father and gained a sense of security; The child has not been criticized, and he is more willing to tell me something in the future, and the parent-child relationship is further intimate.
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Some people say that at first, I couldn't smile peacefully and control my emotions! Let's talk about "knowing the truth, dialogue and cooperation". Indeed, I can understand this kind of psychology very well, and I can really do it at first. It was after more than three months of deliberate practice, constant reflection and summary, and constant application and adjustment in daily life that I got used to nature.
We love children, and we need the ability to really love them, don't we? I believe all the efforts are worthwhile.
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