First, pay attention to children's sex education.
In children's education, we should attach importance to children's sex education, and don't think that children are ignorant and don't know the difference between the two sexes, so they ignore their sex education. In fact, sex education for children is also very important, which is of great significance to crime prevention.
Under normal circumstances, children will know the difference between male and female genitals when they are 3 to 4 years old, and they will also be curious about the genitals of adults and other children. This curiosity will probably last until the age of eight or nine. During this period of curiosity about sex, they may play some games related to sex or other sexual exploration behaviors. In this period, it is very necessary to carry out correct sex education for children, which is of great help to the formation of children's healthy sexual psychology. A survey shows that most juvenile offenders who commit sexual crimes lack correct sex education when they are young.
It can be seen that sex education for young children can not be ignored. For children's sex education, we should not be too vulgar, nor should we use compulsory or simple dogma. Instead, it should be carried out slowly and step by step in a lively way according to the age and psychological characteristics of children, and these extreme thoughts of sexual mystery and sexual panic must not be instilled in children.
In the sex education for young children, family members have a great exemplary role, and family members have a subtle influence on children's words and deeds, so they must never have sex in front of young children. It is to create a good atmosphere in the family and enrich the children's lives. When children ask questions about sex or certain behaviors, they should be educated to seek truth from facts in a natural and frank manner, which can solve children's doubts, prevent the adverse effects of some obscene books, newspapers and movies, and let children have relevant sexual knowledge.
In addition, some children have bad sexual habits, such as playing with genitals and peeking at the opposite sex taking a bath. Pay attention to timely and effective correction, and don't let these behaviors become habits, which will affect the healthy growth of children.
Parents should have the idea that sexual knowledge or related knowledge cannot be taught by themselves or let nature take its course. Appropriate sex education in early childhood will be related to children's health and happiness all their lives, so it can not be ignored to start sex education from early childhood.
Second, the age range of sex education.
In infancy, confirm the baby's biological sex, give the child a suitable name according to gender, dress according to gender and buy corresponding toys.
In early childhood, help children identify with their own gender, stipulate their gender role behavior and emotional response according to gender, and don't simply reprimand or deceive children for showing nudity and genitals. It is necessary to teach them to know shame, but it is not surprising and hiding. Parents can tell the difference between the sex organs of boys and girls and the question "Where am I from?". Not hiding. Let children play with same-sex and opposite-sex children of the same age, cultivate children's natural and healthy attitude to get along with their peers, and establish a healthy personality.
Puberty, explaining the morphological and physiological knowledge about male and female reproductive organs; Explain the phenomena of menstruation and nocturnal emission and their physiological significance and health care knowledge; How to treat education correctly and guide youth consciousness correctly; Provide frank and normal communication opportunities for boys and girls, develop normal friendship with classmates, promote their ability to resist sexual temptation and properly handle sexual intercourse, and prevent puppy love and sexual crimes; We should also strengthen the self-protection education for girls. Avoid the impression that "sex" is dirty and indecent in children's minds, and try to use "academic names" or borrow teaching materials, videos and other materials for education.
Third, the significance of adolescent sex education.
1, which is beneficial to physical and mental health. After teenagers enter adolescence, with the maturity of sexual development, there will be a series of physiological and psychological phenomena, such as nocturnal emission in boys and menarche in girls, accompanied by the awakening and development of sexual consciousness and sudden sexual impulse. If sex education can be carried out in time, boys and girls can correctly treat and deal with these sexual physiological and psychological problems, which is of great significance to promote their normal physical and mental development and prevent physical and psychological diseases.
2. Conducive to the cultivation of sexual morality. Timely sex education in adolescence is conducive to guiding teenagers to abide by the social morality of sex and sexual behavior. Being a person with noble sexual morality can effectively prevent puppy love, premarital sex, teenage pregnancy, sexual perversion and sexual crimes.
3. Conducive to the prevention of diseases. Diseases and sexual dysfunction of male and female reproductive organs are mostly caused by inattention to sexual physiology and mental health. Strengthening sex education for teenagers can nip in the bud and greatly reduce the incidence of sexually transmitted diseases and sexual dysfunction after marriage.
4. Conducive to family happiness and social stability. Sexual life is an important part of husband and wife's life, and its harmony is closely related to individuals, marriage, family and society. Many times, some married young people's mental troubles, marital discord, extramarital affairs and even family disintegration, as well as many social problems caused by them, are related to the lack of necessary sex education for young people from childhood.
Methods of sex education for children
First, how to educate children about sex.
As we all know, Darwin was a British biologist and the founder of evolution. But what may not be known is that Darwin was also a pioneer who dared to break through the secular concept in sex education for children. He intends to carry out necessary sex education for children step by step when "sex" is still listed as a forbidden area.
Darwin's second daughter once recalled: "When my mother was pregnant for the last time, I was less than 8 years old, and my father educated us at this time. He told us why mother was ill. Later, he gave me a book. After reading it, I began to feel that I really grew up. "
Hundreds of years ago, Darwin still had this vision. In today's society, sex education for minors should be planned early, and our sex education should be well-founded and scientific. Premier Zhou once solemnly proposed that boys should be given comprehensive and scientific sex education before their first nocturnal emission and menarche. Among Asian countries, Japan, Singapore and other countries attach great importance to sex education for minors and cultivate children's healthy sexual psychology from an early age.
According to some records, the cover of the first primary school health textbook published by Japan's Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology is about a woman giving birth: the woman's thighs are apart and a baby's head is coming out of the birth canal. This picture answers the question that many children love to ask very intuitively: Where am I from? According to a survey, Singaporean children begin to have gender awareness at the age of one. Some girls will ask themselves why there is no "penis" when they see boys' genitals. At this time, the teacher will patiently tell her the simple knowledge of reproduction, and will not particularly prevaricate the child.
At the same time, sex education for children should be moderate, otherwise it will be counterproductive. The sex education system for minors in Britain is the most developed. Its contents are all-encompassing, including the knowledge of sexual characteristics, sexual health and gender relations, including the education of sexual morality and emotional development, and different compulsory courses are set for primary and secondary school students of different ages. However, a survey released a few days ago is surprising: Britain has now become one of the countries with the highest pregnancy and fertility rate among teenagers under 0/6 in Europe/KLOC-.
Undoubtedly, the embarrassing situation of adolescent sexual psychological confusion and sexual behavior anomie is caused by many reasons. Our sex education for teenagers should follow the physical and mental laws of teenagers, and we should pay attention to overcoming the single channel of sex education, and then form an educational network with the joint efforts of families, schools and society. At the same time, we should also change the wrong understanding of "sex-only education" and organically combine sex education with other aspects of education to promote the all-round development of teenagers' mental health.
Conclusion: Parents should also be scientific about their children's sex education, and they should not hide their problems. At the same time, sex education for children should be planned, step by step and scientific, so as to lay a good foundation for children's mental health in all aspects.
Second, what should parents pay attention to when educating their children?
1, don't pamper children too much.
Spoiling children is not good for them. Because sooner or later, children will grow up and go to society. Some things that work at home are hard to say outside. Therefore, indulging a child will only deprive him of the opportunity to develop his potential ability and hinder him from becoming a capable, independent and self-disciplined person.
2. Don't discipline children with inconsistent rules.
Some parents make rules at will according to their emotions, and the same behavior is sometimes punished and sometimes let him go. This will confuse the children. Children need you to teach you with a set of consistent, credible and reliable rules, and educate him with a set of consistent, credible and reliable rules.
Don't make rules that are not suitable for children's age.
If you want a two-year-old child to act like a five-year-old child, it will only make him feel incompetent. Because what you expect from him is a level of behavior that he can't reach at his age. At this time, his self-concept has a very bad influence.