Parenting is a kind of practice. Children are the mother's heart, and parents' duty is to raise children, but raising children is not just raising children, but raising children is a kind of practice of parents. Then I will take you to know in detail that parenting is a related content of practice.
Parenting is a kind of practice 1
First, know awe and be cautious.
Indeed, according to my idea, educating children can't be arbitrary, especially in the primary stage. When treating children, we need to consider their psychology and take care of their feelings. "Disciplining" children also needs art and methods, and changing children needs strategies and steps; You need to restrain and correct your bad emotions, and it is best to lose your temper less; It is necessary not only to formulate rules properly, but also to be flexible, and not to simply impose uniformity on all enterprises; Think about the word "understanding" at the last moment, constantly reflect and think afterwards, and change your cognition ... Reference: Children's education is actually very difficult.
Parenting is a profound knowledge, as Bert Spencer, a famous British educator, said: "If parents have never been educated, but boldly engage in the arduous task of raising children, it is like a businessman who can't settle accounts and a person who has never studied anatomy ..." Therefore, if you want to make a difference in educating children, instead of "resigned", you need to have awe in educating children. When you are still a "green hand", you naturally need to consider everywhere and be careful everywhere. If there is no awe, just like an inexperienced surgeon, what will happen boldly and without thinking?
Second, learning to educate children is a kind of accomplishment.
Educating children is not a simple matter, it considers the wisdom and psychology of parents, and it is a process of self-cultivation. Isn't it a pity that many people leave their practice opportunities behind and go far away to ask for them?
Many parents seem to be very successful in the workplace, but they have exposed their psychological and spiritual deficiencies in family education. Get angry easily and beat and scold children; Parenting methods are simple, rude, blunt, dull and lack of wisdom; Children encounter problems, nervous and anxious, and their mentality cannot be peaceful. .......
So it seems to be learning to educate children, but what needs to be improved is yourself. This is a kind of cultivation.
If we think that the concept of "understanding and respecting children" is good for parenting, and the previous concept has formed a deep-rooted habitual thinking, then change is bound to be a long-term process. You need to reflect on yourself one by one. You need to gradually revise your ideas, learn to control your emotions and develop new behavior habits. Isn't this practice?
The result of practice is good. Many parents told me that learning my blog posts and ideas not only helped to educate children, but also unconsciously changed their mentality with their families and even improved their relationship with colleagues. Because you learned to understand children, you also learned to understand colleagues and others, and you are more tolerant; After learning cognitive therapy, all aspects of psychology and personality have changed, and unconsciously there will be some progress in all aspects.
Cultivation is a process of gradual enlightenment. Just like meditation, it takes effort. It seems very tired, but it may bring happiness and happiness to children and form a good parent-child relationship. The strict method is simple and direct, and parents can exercise their "power" freely without thinking, but the result may be rebellion, conflict, depression and tension between parents and children.
Self-cultivation is a process of self-discipline, which sounds not free. In fact, haven't we always advocated proper restraint on children? Why don't you like it when you mention yourself?
Third, self-cultivation is also a happy process towards freedom.
Self-cultivation is actually learning to properly restrain one's words and deeds and make them enter a scientific and reasonable track.
If you don't practice seemingly arbitrary freedom in parenting, the result may be that parents don't want to see it: the parent-child relationship is tense, the child is depressed, the child is in a bad mood, and he loses interest in learning ..... Parents are finally not relaxed and unhappy.
And practice with heart, and restrain your behavior and emotions with the principle of "understanding and respecting children". When we feel that we are not doing well, we should reflect on ourselves in time and change our habitual thinking. Children are getting happier and happier, and they have a sense of accomplishment and happiness; When "understanding and respecting children" has become a habit, I no longer feel tied behind my back and I am not tired at all. On the contrary, seeing children's progress and happy smiling faces, I feel really free and relaxed.
From the child's point of view, if we don't pay attention to our words and deeds and give orders to our children at will in the style of parents, we will be free and relaxed, and our children may be reluctant and not free, so we should be careful everywhere.
Don't base our freedom on children's pain!
Parenting is a kind of practice. 1. Encouragement is the fire that ignites children's growth.
My husband and I belong to a family that works during the day and has time to work at night. Children spend most of the day in kindergarten or with grandparents, but at night, we try our best to be with them. In the company, you will find that encouragement is the fire that ignites their growth. My son is timid. Many things are often afraid to do boldly, and he is always worried that he can't do well. At this time, the role of dad in family education is particularly important. He will encourage children to be brave and try new things, such as buying a tricycle for their children at first. If the child doesn't dare to try and fall, the father will say, "Son, you are the man in our family. You should face all difficulties bravely and don't be afraid of anything." With the encouragement of their father, the children even learned many sports that our parents couldn't do, from the initial three-wheeled bicycle and two-wheeled bicycle to roller skating, to skateboarding and balance car. It is the husband's encouragement and companionship to take the children to study, and it is also the father's influence that makes the son more and more brave.
The father makes his son brave, and I am willing to be a partner on the road of children's growth.
Second, effective companionship is the best family education.
On holidays and after work, our family seldom holds mobile phones. What we often do is play. Children don't care how exquisite toys are. As long as someone can interact with them, a carton can play for a long time. In our spare time, we often take our children to run outdoors, play with slingshots, dig wild vegetables and fish ... My son likes the cartoons of Journey to the West. In order to give my son a chance to fight monsters in Monkey King, my husband and I found all kinds of cardboard, folded them up, made them into golden hoop sticks and monster headdresses, and played roles with our children for animation performances. Words can't describe the happiness of our children. From then on, our children even fell in love with the TV series The Journey to the West. 1986 version of Journey to the West, one episode and one shot, telling stories before going to bed at night, is also a story in Journey to the West. Later, many new stories were even made up by children, and their language expression ability improved a lot, and their personality became more and more cheerful. When he goes to school, he must show him the original Journey to the West. I believe he will have new gains.
While accompanying children to grow up, you are also becoming excellent, and it will be an irreparable regret to miss the road of children's growth. But companionship is not to let children do whatever they want, but to let children know the rules.
Third, rules are the yardstick for children's growth.
Everyone knows that "without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang". It is something an old hen can do to love and protect children. We should be more advanced and smarter than an old hen. Love is not blindly listening and obeying, but letting children understand the truth of life and survival, with rules. In life, there are many family rules, such as not turning on the TV when eating, eating enough, and not letting children eat after leaving the table to play. This is the minimum family rule, which every family should have, but it is not only for children, but all family members must abide by it.
Teaching can have teaching experience, because we will meet the same subject, similar students and similar student conditions, but children must be careful when they grow up, and there is no ready-made experience for us. Every child is unique when he grows up. As parents, it is very valuable that we can participate in their growth. When children can spread their wings and fly, when our footsteps can't keep up with those of children, we lose the opportunity to steer our children. Now we grow up with our children and we will learn from them in the future.
Being a parent is not a superposition of experience, but a kind of practice that cannot be returned. I hope that each of us can get the truth and achieve each other.
Avoid the misunderstanding of parenting 1. The baby is short among his peers, which must be due to heredity.
Although the baby's short stature is related to heredity, the height of the baby from one to three years old is related to nutrition. Need to pay attention to calcium supplementation in daily life, which can help his bone development. In addition to calcium supplementation, vitamin D is also needed to promote calcium absorption.
Second, the baby's partial eclipse, picky eaters should give more snacks.
The baby is partial to food and picky about food. We don't want to give him more snacks, nor do we want him to eat some fried food. Daily life can make complementary food more diversified, change the appearance of complementary food, make it more childlike and attract babies more easily.
Third, worry that the baby's nutrition can't keep up, and give him milk powder to drink thick.
The proportion of milk powder can be based on the formula table, and the thicker it is, the higher its nutritional value is.
At present, we are drinking Abbott Platinum Beauty Milk Powder, which is also a formula of double bacteria (probiotics+prebiotics). Choose the right milk powder according to your baby's constitution, and do more homework, such as the golden CP of probiotics and prebiotics, which will help your baby's intestinal health ~ Probiotics and prebiotics will help build an intestinal immune barrier and protect your baby's healthy stomach.
It is milk powder made of liquid fresh milk at one time. In a factory in Ireland, skim milk and various scientific nutrients are mixed in liquid state and dried into powder. If liquid milk is heated and dried for many times, it may cause nutrient loss of milk. Compared with skimmed milk powder, skimmed liquid milk retains more nutritional value in protein.
Good milk powder is also very helpful for the baby's healthy development. Recommend it to everyone ~