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Teach children spontaneity, starting with extra points!
Some mothers came to me with their children, and I asked you about your concerns about their children. Mothers said angrily: passive! Go home from school, three urges and four invitations. It seems that his homework is not his. Eating and bathing is like killing him. It was not until he went to bed that he found himself missing this and that. In fact, after consulting and interacting with these children for a period of time, I often find that these children who can't self-discipline in primary schools really have no self-confidence, and they are easy to give up and get frustrated when they encounter difficulties.

Some mothers came to me with their children, and I asked you about your concerns about their children. Mothers said angrily: passive! Go home from school, three urges and four invitations. It seems that his homework is not his. Eating and bathing is like killing him. It was not until he went to bed that he found himself missing this and that. In fact, after consulting and interacting with these children for a period of time, I often find that these children who can't self-discipline in primary schools really have no self-confidence, and they are easy to give up and get frustrated when they encounter difficulties. I think some reason has something to do with "chanting" all the time? "related! In parenting, most parents often inadvertently drift into the "reduced points" parenting, that is, at the beginning, they decided that their children's self-discipline score was 90 points, eating, sleeping and washing? It should be no problem to collect toys and finish your work! However, educational scenes, such as battlefields, may always be satisfactory. Once the child can't do it, parents will be anxious and want to strengthen control and lower the child's score. If the volume is loud, the face will be ugly, and the threatening language will definitely come out! A day or two doesn't matter. I'm afraid there will be a self-discipline war in your family, just like the 823 artillery battle. In the end, everyone is exhausted, the child's self-confidence is gone, and you are not a winner.

"Spontaneous, is by no means a child will be born. 」

If you want to keep good behavior, such as getting up spontaneously and eating early instead of staying in bed, you can of course use "reward" and "punishment", but if you have a strong belief in upbringing that these should have been done well, then children will get more punishment. I don't want parents to keep giving candy to their children in behavior education, but "self-discipline", which is very difficult. Once the child breaks through himself, parents should not be embarrassed, and appropriate encouragement is necessary.

"Spontaneous through the example. 」

Once, 1Y's younger brother threw toys around, and I asked my brother to help me put them away. He replied, I didn't lose it, so I don't want it. I think many families will encounter it. I replied to my brother: you couldn't finish it last time, so you asked your father for help. I didn't lose it, and I helped you! Besides, you were just like your brother when you were a child. You can't be spontaneous immediately, but you train slowly. I promise you that I will teach him, but he hasn't learned yet.

I hope these self-disciplined ideas will help you get extra points!

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