As we all know, ostriches will run away with their heads in the sand when they are in danger. The ostrich's behavior is a legitimate behavior of stealing bells, which is useless in the real danger, just giving itself a little spiritual comfort.

People's life can't be smooth sailing, especially children, because they are young and lack energy and experience. After growing up under the wings of parents, when encountering hardships or setbacks, they will escape problems like ostriches and hide behind their parents. This is the so-called ostrich mentality.

Ostrich mentality is often very common, which may happen to mature adults or ignorant children. However, in most cases, it appears more in children.

Psychologists have found through research that most children will take an evasive attitude when facing pressure, knowing that the problem is about to happen, but they are unwilling to face it. This often leads to more difficult problems and more difficult things.

Case study:

The children of girlfriends have always had a good reputation in the circle of friends. This child is not shy and introverted like other children, but cute and obedient. Every class reunion, my best friend will bring the children, and the children will often say some lovely words, which will make everyone laugh again and again.

The children of girlfriends are very dependent on her and often go to various places with girlfriends and stay behind. For girlfriends, this is both sweet and a burden. What is sweet is the child's love for her, and the burden is that the child must always watch, very tired and without freedom.

One day, my best friend sent me a message saying that she found her child very timid and would give up without even thinking about the difficulties. In the face of what is about to happen, I always don't have the courage to face it, just like an ostrich, I just run away. The ostrich buried its head in the sand, and the child buried his head in his mother's arms.

Facing the problem of children, girlfriends are always helpless and don't know what to do.

The behavior of girlfriends and children is a typical ostrich psychology, which will bring bad effects to children.

Just like the children of girlfriends, children with ostrich mentality will become timid and cowardly. In the face of things that can be solved or are about to happen, you will instinctively choose to escape. Children will be afraid to take responsibility for themselves, so that the result or development of things will gradually deteriorate.

The deterioration of things will aggravate children's fears, and they are more afraid of solving problems by themselves. If this is repeated, the cycle will deteriorate.

Children's escape often brings trouble to their interpersonal communication. When children make mistakes or encounter difficulties, they are likely to abandon their friends. Because they dare not take responsibility and face their own problems, children will let their friends clean up the mess alone.

Over time, children's friends will be dissatisfied with their children, and their interpersonal relationships will also be affected. Children who lose friends or are rejected by criticism may become inferior, sensitive, introverted and silent. Let the child's life develop and grow and have bad changes after personality stereotypes.

In this regard, parents can do this:

Parents should fully understand their children's life and study. Find and praise children before they make progress, so that children can feel the attention of their parents. When a child's grades regress or make mistakes, parents should take the initiative to find the child to understand the cause of the matter, and parents should eliminate the child's self-doubt and self-disapproval. Understand why children are afraid and why they shrink back. Then, according to the specific reasons of children, teach students in accordance with their aptitude and choose the education method suitable for children.

Parents' encouragement is very important for children. "Good words make three winters warm" is not just a simple sentence. When parents find their children timid, they can encourage their children to increase their self-confidence and give them the motivation to face upcoming or ongoing things, difficulties and setbacks.

For timid children, parents should try to avoid hitting them and not saying anything that hurts them. Pay attention to leave privacy and space for children in front of others. Don't scold or criticize children in front of others. Generally speaking, timid children are more fragile and more difficult to recover.

Parents can participate more in the things around their children and learn more about parent-child knowledge. Take more children to participate in parent-child activities. The development of parent-child activities can make children open their hearts and become bold. Courageous children will naturally increase their courage, dare to challenge and practice making friends with their children when they face difficulties again. When a child has something on his mind that he doesn't want to tell his parents, parents can politely ask his friends.

Summary:

For children with ostrich mentality, the words and opinions of people around them are extremely important. These words will usually directly affect children, and will also determine whether children can get rid of the ostrich mentality and be a brave and strong child.

The influence of affirmation and encouragement is unexpected. On the contrary, blind criticism will only consume children's goodwill towards their parents, their interest in learning and their positive attitude towards life, and make children with ostrich mentality more timid.

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