It is not clear how many children Jia Jia had in her life, at least Jia She, Jia Zheng and Jia Min. The third time she cried and said to Lin Daiyu:
"My sons and daughters, only your mother is hurt. Once you leave me today, you won't even see me. How can I not be sad when I see you today! " ?
This sentence of Jia Mu also tells the problem of educating children, that is, there is indeed eccentricity, which is also the commonality of many parents. ? Many years later, Mrs. Wang recalled that her sister-in-law Jia Min was "how precious gold is", and the envy in her words was beyond words. We can see Jia Min's preferential treatment at home as a young lady. ? At that time, the old lady had reached middle age, completely controlled the mansion in Guo Rong, and all her elders had died, so she had time to raise the children carefully. It's a pity that Jia She and Jia Zheng have grown up and don't need her education. ?
On the thirty-ninth time, Granny Liu said seventy-five, and Grandmother Jia said she was several years older than herself. On Jia Mu's seventy-first birthday, people speculated that Jia Mu would never be eighty, but seventy. When I first met Grandma Liu, I was only six or eight or nine years old. ? On the 46th time, Jia She told Jia Mu that she wanted Yuanyang, and Jia Mu told Mrs. Xing that he was almost sixty years old. He also said that he married the Jia family at the age of fifteen and fifty-four years later. Prove that Jia diya was about fifty-three years old. ? By calculating the ages of Jia Mu and Jia She, we know that Jia Mu gave birth to Jia She very early, about sixteen years old. This left several problems that prevented Jia Mu from educating her son. ?
First, the mother of that age is often a child, and she is completely lacking in educational experience for her son. Jia, she was probably raised by her elders. ?
Second, Jia Mu should learn from the housekeeper. As soon as the new wife entered the door, she gradually took over the family power from her mother-in-law. There are too many problems to learn and face. There is no leisure to educate children. ?
Third, Jia started with his great-grandson and daughter-in-law, serving not only his in-laws, but also his parents and grandparents. Filial piety comes first, and educating children is forced to fall behind. ?
Fourth, the Jia family was too powerful at that time, and it was overwhelming to send it around every day. It is inevitable that Jia Mu neglects the education of her son. ?
(Back to Mammy Lai for the 45th time) Pointing at Baoyu, he said, "I'm not afraid you think I'm too much. Now the master only cares about you, and the old lady protects her head. Who hasn't seen your grandfather beaten when he was a child? When I was a child, I was never so fearless as you. And that old gentleman, though naughty, is not like you. He fights every day. ?
Mammy Lai said that the way to treat her son with her husband was to fight. Jia Zheng has a steady personality and was beaten. Because Jia she is the eldest son, she is loved by thousands. Jia Mu has no experience and no time for education. Her elders dote on him, which makes him "naughty". ? Parents can't educate their children, they can only "post" education every day, which will inevitably lead to rebellious psychology in the long run. What's more, if the grandmother is eccentric again, the son will not listen to his parents more and more. This is the case with Jia She of Guo Rongfu. The same is true of Jia Jing, Ningguo Prefecture. ?
Jia Jing rebelled against his father Jia Daihua's stick education model, that is, his father died and left his family business to his son. ? Jia diya does more. Not only did she not learn well, but she also brought great trouble to Fu. ? It was after Jia asked for Yuanyang that the old lady got angry and scolded Jia Lian, saying that she had experienced everything. In fact, this shows that Jia She's previous dandy behavior brought great trouble to Jia Jia's family. We can't rule out that Jia Daishan is angry. Now he is angry with himself. ?
It was Jia who refused to forgive and went to school before he died. He was worried about Jia's property and lost everything, and asked the emperor to agree to split the title of Rong Guogong in two. Jia she, the eldest son, attacked the nobles and was not in charge of their property. Jue property to the second son Jia Zheng, only to the eldest son dividends. ?
Jia She inherited the title of Fu, lost the title of Fu, and had to move to the old house next to Fu. Years later, I still complain that Jia Mu is "eccentric". ? Jia Mu is really eccentric. Whoever is poorly educated will love him. She likes Jia Zheng better in the second room and dotes on Jia Baoyu more inappropriately, which directly leads to Jia Baoyu having nothing in the deep house. After Jia's property was stolen, he couldn't bear the blow of becoming a monk. Jia mu is mainly responsible. ?
The reasons for Jia's failure in education are not complicated. Being a strong woman lacks education for children's growth. It's too late to manage. When his grandson arrived, he intervened at will. In short, the Jia family is a housekeeper, and the education of future generations is in a mess. ?
Some people will say that Jia Mu is very educated, and Lin Daiyu, Shi Xiangyun and Si Chunyuan are all excellent. This can only be said that boys and girls are brought up in different ways. Girls are little influenced by the outside world, and there is no such thing as Jia Baoyu being taken away from school. ?
Moreover, seriously examining these girls, except Jia Tanchun, has serious problems. Shi Xiangyun is too generous, Lin Daiyu is too sharp, Jia Yuanchun is too short-sighted, Jia Yingchun is too cowardly, and Jia Xichun is too withdrawn. Not to mention Jia Baoyu. ?
Jia's education of his children and grandchildren is improper. She likes cheerful people, and cheerful people around her are favored. However, there are disadvantages to being smooth, but she doesn't care. Like the negativity in Qingwen's character, Jia Mu completely turned a blind eye. This is true for girls and for children and grandchildren. The same mother, watching Li Wan educate Jia Lan was really successful. Jia mu lags far behind. Therefore, the Rong Guo mansion was destroyed by her two sons, and the property was looted. The Jia family has a great responsibility.