1. For wealthy families, parents themselves have such economic conditions and ability, and they also have the ability to dispatch various resources. They don't have to worry about food, clothing, housing and transportation. Of course, they hope to do better than others in education.
People once reported "Shunyi mother", that is, the mother who lives in Houshayu villa area in Shunyi, Beijing. According to the report, the rich spend 200,000 yuan a year to send their children to private schools in Houshayu, Shunyi. The fierce competition environment and the pursuit of perfectionism make them almost stingy and self-disciplined, try their best to plan, work hard in the direction they can't get, and try again.
Because they have everything, only children are fighting. Therefore, they should pursue the best and best in their children's education.
Second, for ordinary families, this should be the normal state of most families. Everyone is an ordinary family, still fighting for a better life. It is precisely because I feel the pain of eating in society that my mentality is usually: I don't have much ability and network resources, and my children can't rely on it, so I want to give my children a good education, go to college, and at least be self-reliant.
I take one of my sisters as an example. Her family is also an ordinary family. I think, among most of them, this is above average. There is no distinction between rich and poor. Because my husband is a local, there is a bonus in the village every year, so don't worry about eating and drinking. There are small property houses and red houses, which not only ensure a normal life, but also have spare money to travel (coordinates Shenzhen).
Her daughter is already in high school. Since her children's junior high school, she has been willing to spend money on expensive remedial classes for her children. She didn't force it, but the child was willing to go, and she gave money. At that time, a summer vacation, cultural classes alone spent more than 10 thousand yuan.
But to be honest, the child's grades are not very good. They missed two points in the middle school entrance examination and were not admitted to public schools. then what Scold is scold, money still needs to be spent. If children in ordinary schools don't go, they will choose a private school with good reputation and high enrollment rate. The tuition fee for one year alone is 10w+. The remedial classes are still reported separately.
At that time, she just bought a red house, and it cost money to decorate it. The children's schooling suddenly increased a lot of financial burden. But in her words: "In recent years, in high school, you have to work hard and bite your teeth. I don't have any culture and skills myself. I can't help my children. I can only give some money economically. I hope that my child can be admitted to college and will be able to support himself in the future. "
I think this mentality is shared by many parents, especially those who feel that they have never been to college. They want their children to go to college and avoid detours, so they try their best to let their children receive a good education.
Then someone asks, what if parents are college students/graduate students?
I'll take myself for example. Although I don't think my family education is high, I know my own situation best, so I'll say it for your reference.
I graduated from an ordinary university and was admitted to graduate school this year. My husband graduated from college in 985. Our family is also an ordinary family. Two college students, who are not eager to learn from the old ones, have established themselves in Xiu Yuan, but the road to struggle is long. I sometimes chat with my sister and joke that although my family's economy is not as good as yours at present, I am still calmer than you in raising children.
My view on children's education is that I won't force her to be a good person, as long as I work hard. As for whether you can eat the meal of reading, really, sometimes it is doomed. Everyone has his own talent. I think it is good to find my own bright spot and contribute my strength to this society. Then don't give your children a good education? Don't!
My father and I have reached a consensus that we should help our children choose the best culture and education (such as schools). If a child wants to enroll in an interest class, we can enroll her financially. There is really no way, and there is no way. Of course, parent-child communication and parents' words and deeds are our greatest concern.
Third, in the end, children are a gift from God. Looking at your child is like seeing an angel. You can't help loving and protecting it. You always want to give Ta the best. This mentality is understandable. After all, we all love our children.
However, parents' ability is limited, so it is good to be able to cope within their own ability. If you can't give it, don't feel guilty. I believe that your efforts and struggles are all in your eyes.