Psychologists say that communication is the most effective way to understand children's psychology, and effective communication is the best way for parents to enhance their feelings with their children. However, when it comes to communicating with children, especially boys, many parents will frown and say, "Communication seems easy, but adults are busy working all day and children are busy studying all day. How can they have time to communicate? " Besides, what do adults communicate with children? Sometimes they can't find a topic! "

It is true that "time" and "topic" are the biggest obstacles to parent-child communication, but it is undeniable that many parents communicate well with their sons.

The father of a 7-year-old boy said:

Although I am busy at work, I arrange a date with my children at least once a week. When I "date" my son, I will go back to my son's age, play with him, and go crazy together ... After every "date", I feel that my feelings with my son have deepened.

The mother of a 10-year-old boy also revealed the secret of her communication with her son:

Children worship, I "chase" children. I know that children like Jay Chou, and I will discuss with them as soon as I have time: "What new songs have been released in Jay Chou recently? I heard that a new movie was made? " Every time I communicate with my children, I am very happy. Children often say to me, "Mom, you are a fashionable mother." Therefore, the child's heart is willing to tell me.

It is not difficult to communicate happily with my son. "No time" and "No topic" ... are just the reasons parents find for their laziness and inattention. Therefore, parents who want to have a deeper relationship with their sons, please communicate with their children!

Method 2: Accompany your son to tide over the difficulties.

When encountering difficulties, boys and girls behave quite differently. In the face of difficulties, most girls will cry and jump into their parents' arms, waiting for their parents to solve the problem; Boys are more concerned about how to overcome difficulties. Although boys and girls have different ways of thinking, one thing is the same: when children encounter difficulties, it is often their saddest moment.

Therefore, when a boy really encounters "difficulties", the companionship and encouragement of his parents will become his only spiritual motivation.

A depressed little boy said, "When the whole world gave up on me or even myself, my parents stayed with me to encourage me.". At that moment, I had an idea:' I will never give up on myself for my parents.' "

Every parent loves his children deeply. When children need it most, letting parents' love accompany them silently can not only make children regain their fighting spirit, but also be a good way to enhance the feelings between children and parents.

Method 3: Challenge a difficult thing with your son.

A small successful entrepreneur mentioned one of his most unforgettable things: "I will never forget swimming with my father." At this time, he always tells people about this past when he was a child:

There is a pond not far from our home. I learned to swim with my father when I was very young. When I was 6 years old, one day, my father said to me with a swimming ring, "Come, let's swim across this pond. I have never swam so far. How about a father-son race? " To tell the truth, I was scared at that time, but I was inexplicably excited at the thought of challenging my father, so I readily agreed.

However, when we swam to the middle of the pond, I felt weak and sank straight. I can see that my father's movements are not as easy as before. Our father and son looked at each other, and my father said to me in a relaxed tone, "Come on!" " I also nodded in response to my father. I knew we had no choice, so I swam forward a few times, looked up and took a breath, and then swam forward. Finally, I put all my strength into nursing work. Finally, with the mutual encouragement of my father and me, we all swam to the other side.

After climbing ashore, my father and I clapped our hands to celebrate our success, and then we both collapsed on the grass by the pond ... From that day on, I never betrayed my father again.

Challenges are fun for boys. Parents and boys challenge a difficult thing together. Regardless of the outcome, the interaction and mutual encouragement between parents and children will leave an indelible impression on boys in the process of challenge.

For the entrepreneur mentioned above, the unforgettable thing may not be swimming, but the feeling of lying on the grass by the pond with his father. At that time, his relationship with his father was not only father and son, but also friends ... Therefore, there was respect, understanding, trust and so on between father and son. ...