Family education is the foundation of the whole education, and parents are the first teachers of children, especially early education, which plays an important role in school and social education. If school education is not supported and coordinated by family education, even if the school tries hard, it will be difficult to play its due educational effect. In this paper, how to play the important role of family education in school education at present is discussed and passed on to peers! 1. At present, the main problem of family education is today in the 2 1 century. Most of them are only-child families. In real life, some parents can't coordinate their children's education with school moral education, so they are obedient and spoiled. The main problems are: (1) whether to raise or not, and whether to teach or not. Some parents think that children are born by themselves, and material life, food, clothing, housing and transportation are their own responsibilities. As long as you can meet all the material needs of your child, you will do your duty; As long as you pay the children and send them to school, you will fulfill all your educational obligations. Under the control of this concept, they either only pay attention to the care of children's material life, but ignore their academic ethics and push all the tasks of education to schools; Either they are not enthusiastic about their children's affairs and only care about their own affairs; Ignore children's problems, don't communicate with them, don't urge them to study, let alone help them. (2) improper family education methods: 1. Spoiled children are eager to "expect their children to succeed", do not pay attention to cultivating education, spoil their children too much, know that their children have made mistakes, and do not criticize education. What's more, many young parents pour their love into their children in order to let them devote all their energy to their studies. They do everything in their daily lives, putting their children in "safety" and living in "safety circles". As everyone knows, it is this kind of care and protection that raises children's bad qualities such as picky eaters, picky eaters and fear of suffering. Moreover, due to too much protection and blind approval at ordinary times, children have formed an unreasonable, self-centered and aggressive psychology, lacking a team spirit of mutual assistance and friendship and a sense of responsibility to society and the country. 2. Too much interference. Parents of this type don't understand their children's age and psychological characteristics, and demand their children by adult standards everywhere. In dealing with children's learning, it is not patient guidance, but frequent scolding and beating, which makes children's spirit often in a state of tension. As a result, their independence and creativity were stifled and their normal development was affected. Some honest and introverted children suffer from psychological stress, depression and fidgeting, which leads to physiological dysfunction and many diseases. What's more, some children's self-esteem is greatly hurt by their parents' cruel image and vulgar language, so they feel inferior and give up on themselves, or struggle hard, or break the jar. 3. Expectations are too high. This type of parents can't objectively analyze the differences of children's intelligence and the quality of their foundation, but simply decide the quality of their children by their exam results. Once children fail to achieve their goals or make mistakes, some parents often beat and scold, which makes children feel scared, and lying, cheating, inferiority and cowardice will follow. Under the pressure of clubs, some students usually lie about their academic performance and school performance in order to get praise and affirmation from their parents, but they are opportunistic in exams, and some alter their transcripts or simply tear up their grade books. Parents only pay attention to their grades, ignoring their children's personality development, which makes their children worry about their studies all day. The taste of failure will not arouse their desire to learn, but will make them lose confidence and will. Due to the improper way of parents educating their children, it has added some difficulties to the normal development of moral education in schools. Therefore, it is imperative to improve the level of family education and give full play to its role in school moral education. Second, change the status quo of family education, give full play to the important role of family education in school moral education (1) and strengthen the two-way coordination between school education and family education. Soviet educator Suhomlinski once said: "Two educators-school and family-should not only act in concert, but also put forward the same requirements for children. They should have the same interests, hold the same beliefs and always proceed from the same principles, and there should be no differences in the purpose, process or means of education. Therefore, in order to play an important role in school moral education, we must first strengthen the two-way coordination between home and school. As long as the school establishes information communication channels with parents in educational activities, it can avoid the phenomenon that "the two sides have the same purpose and different means, which leads to the educated being at a loss and ultimately achieving little results". Use the parents' forum to introduce the significance of implementing quality education in an all-round way to parents, so that parents can fully realize the close relationship between implementing quality education and students' health specialties. At the same time, it also makes parents clear the key points of school moral education, so that parents can really reach a consensus with the school ideologically and actively cooperate with the school to carry out their work. At the same time, it also plays the role of students themselves, and through the communication between students and parents, parents can integrate their love for their children into the moral education of the school. (2) Pay attention to and strengthen the individual guidance of family education, play an important role in school moral education, and must also pay attention to and strengthen the individual guidance of family education. It should be admitted that at present, the overall cultural level of most parents has improved, and the family education ability has also improved accordingly, but there are still uneven phenomena among parents as individuals. Some parents' educational level is still relatively low, lacking professional knowledge and theoretical literacy of education and scientific educational methods, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Therefore, schools should make clear their heavy responsibilities, spare no effort to find and make use of all feasible opportunities, such as inviting parents to the school to listen to experts and scholars' family education reports, taking advantage of the favorable opportunity of home visits to give individual guidance to parents, introduce successful practices and advanced experiences of family education, or sum up the experiences and lessons of educating children with parents to improve the scientificity of family education. At the same time, we should pay attention to the concrete analysis of specific problems, combine group guidance with individual guidance, and give full play to the leading role of school education and the supplementary role of family education. (3) Help parents to establish a correct educational concept. First of all, we should love our children rationally. Makarenko, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, once asked his parents to know the degree of love: "Like quinine, like food, love needs a certain amount." If it exceeds a certain weight, it will become doting, which requires parents to be rational in their love for their children. Children should be educated and corrected in time if they have shortcomings and mistakes. If they don't accommodate and indulge, they can't protect their shortcomings. Otherwise, it will be harmful to their children. Secondly, we should pay attention to cultivating children's good behavior habits. Confucius, a famous educator, said: "If teenagers are natural, they are used to nature." Explain that children's habits should be developed as soon as possible. In the 1940s, Mr. Ye Shengtao put forward the idea that "education is to cultivate good behavior habits", and family education should adhere to this idea. First, education should focus on the cultivation of children's good habits. Parents should seize their children's most plastic childhood to cultivate all kinds of good habits. If the habit is well cultivated, it will lay a solid foundation for children to be human and become talents, which is much more important than teaching children to read and count. Furthermore, parents should be helped to establish a correct view of talents. Influenced by traditional ideas, many parents think that only by educating their children to go to college can they achieve something, so they don't respect their children's personality and impose their wishes on them. Only by letting children go to college can they be satisfied. As the saying goes, "Three hundred and sixty ranks first", China's socialist construction needs all kinds of useful talents, and the reform and opening up has provided us with a big stage to display our talents. In this context, parents should help children choose practical learning goals according to their interests, hobbies and ambitions, so that children are willing to work hard for them and gain real talents and practical learning based on society.