This is a very loving record, and it is also the special mental journey of the eldest child in the second child family. From the initial reluctance to share my mother's love with my sister to the initiative to ask for a hug and kiss my sister, it is an unconscious blood relationship. This record is familiar to many families who have a second child, and it is also a point that makes parents feel gratified.
Why do you have a second child?
Medina gave birth to a second child by accident. She made it clear that she would not have a second child, but even so, she finally welcomed her sister with joy. If we want to give an answer to "why have a second child", the mental journey shared by her brother is a good answer.
Many people have also asked me: "Why do you want to have a second child when you are so busy at work?" Because I have seen many growth trajectories of the post-80s generation around me, I think it is very beneficial to have a second child.
Benefit 1: Two children take care of each other.
I saw "Where's Dad?" before, and I was deeply moved by the brotherly feelings of Sha Yi's Angie and Xiaoyuer, and also influenced by the safe care of Liu Ye's sisters, so I think it is a very happy thing to have two babies. Two children can take care of each other, and that kind of affection is born in their blood. Even if parents are not around in the future, "brotherhood" will urge them to take care of each other and care for each other.
Benefit 2: childhood playmates
When talking to my best friend on the phone, I can often hear her son talking to himself on the phone. When no one is interacting, children can only talk to toys or something.
This will never happen to a second-child family, and the companionship between children is irreplaceable by adults. Children can understand children and have endless topics and interesting things to do together.
Benefit 3: Know how to be a better person and know how to share.
Children's sharing is a point often mentioned in family education. In many one-child families, children are selfish and enjoy all the beautiful things. However, the second-child family is different. As far as my brother and sister are concerned, no one likes toys or delicious food, but they always leave it to another or share it directly.
Children in the second-child family are rarely self-centered, and they will know how to share with others from an early age and will not be so selfish. This will be very helpful for them to enter the society and be human in the future.
Benefit 4: Reduce the pressure of providing for the aged.
As a post-80s generation, I witnessed the pressure of my peers around me. Many families are in "42 1" or "422". There are old people in the world, small people in the world, and even various mortgages and car loans, just like a "sandwich biscuit." The post-80s pension economy is under greater pressure than other eras. One of the great advantages of having a second child is that the pressure of supporting parents can be shared equally, and one child is not needed to fight against 4-6 elderly people.
Although many children will get married separately when they grow up, their feelings are not as close as when they were children, but when they meet many things, their brothers and sisters are more reliable than outsiders. Of course, some disharmonious families are not excluded, which requires parents to actively guide their children in their childhood.
I love my boss more when I have a second child.
Before, a mother left me a message saying, "After giving birth to a second child, I don't know why I hate the boss more and more." This is a common phenomenon in many families. On the one hand, it is related to psychological suggestion. On the other hand, because the second child needs to spend more energy to take care of him, he will feel annoyed in the face of some actions of the boss. In fact, this treatment is not correct. I think the second-child family should love the boss more.
First of all, the boss helps to take care of the baby and reduce the burden on parents.
Some families with two children often have a lot of things, many of which are due to the lack of balance between the eldest and the second. Parents always think that the boss is old and should make way for the second, but for the boss, it is the appearance of the second that "occupies" his parents' love and will bear a grudge against him. If you don't guide, the boss will often sabotage.
When you have a second child and the focus is still on the boss, he will feel that his parents still love me, and then "love me, love my dog" or the feeling that blood is thicker than water, he will like the second child more and more, and help take care of his younger brother and sister, which can reduce a lot of energy for his parents.
Second, the second child will imitate the boss.
I especially like watching a group of videos to record some daily lives of my brother and younger brother from my mother's perspective. You can often see my brother's guidance to my younger brother in the video. Like an adult, I tell my younger brother what to do, and my younger brother also takes my brother as an example.
In order to better guide my brother, my brother will make himself better. This is a very successful educational method, which is worth learning by parents.
Finally, the family will be more harmonious.
"Home and prosperity" is what every family wants, especially after children grow up, the harmony of family members is the greatest blessing of a family. In order to get this, we must make achievements from the time when children are young. Only by balancing the love between two children can the second-child family be more harmonious in the future.
The children's world is very simple, and what the future will look like depends on the guidance of parents. Madina's son couldn't help kissing and hugging his sister from the beginning, which made him feel that his parents didn't love him because of his sister. Therefore, the harmony of the second-child family is very simple, and the love for Dabao is the same or even more as before.
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