Cultivation of anti-frustration ability: 1. Parents should establish the awareness of frustration education and understand the importance of anti-frustration education. Many parents think that children have poor psychological endurance and should be protected. This concept directly affects children. In fact, it is good for a person to suffer some setbacks, especially in the early days. Parents should correctly treat the educational value of setbacks as a good way to temper their will and improve their adaptability. There is an old saying in China, "Get up when you fall". Parents should realize that if children want to grow up, they must face everything in society, life and life in the future. Therefore, it is very necessary to consciously let children suffer some hardships and setbacks, let them taste some hardships in life, let them know the ups and downs of life, learn to receive education from setbacks, cultivate the spirit of hard work and independence, as well as the courage and determination to deal with difficulties, and enhance their psychological endurance. In a small way, it is beneficial to their individual growth. From a big perspective, today's children will shoulder the heavy responsibility of tomorrow's social development, and the future social competition will be more intense. Everyone needs to survive and develop in the competition. Children are the future of the country and the pillar of the nation, which is of extraordinary significance to the future development of our nation. Fortunately, now more and more parents have realized that "the vitality of flowers in greenhouses is never comparable to that of weeds in mountains." Let children directly face setbacks, learn to deal with setbacks, and let children live a better life. We need to educate our children about setbacks to enhance their ability to bear and solve setbacks. Therefore, the cultivation of children's anti-frustration ability can not be ignored, and anti-frustration education is particularly important. Psychologists point out that when people encounter setbacks, more than 90% people will choose five kinds of reactions: attack, degeneration, depression, stubbornness and withdrawal, while the proportion of positive thinkers is less than 10%. When encountering setbacks, most people tend to fall into negative emotions. They always blame negative things for their failed ideas, are used to blaming and denying themselves blindly, and don't know how to adjust negative emotions. Maslow, a famous psychologist, said: "Frustration is not always a bad thing, but the key lies in the attitude towards it. ".A person who can laugh at everything will be better at fighting than the average person. Children who have strong resistance to setbacks are those who can still move forward happily in difficulties. Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's optimistic and cheerful personality and let them face setbacks with a smile. 2. Grasping the opportunity of frustration education and helping children correctly understand setbacks is the key to frustration education and the first step for us to carry out frustration education. Children are still young, and their understanding of things is concrete. Parents should let their children intuitively understand the development process when facing difficulties, and gradually realize the universality and objectivity of setbacks from repeated experiences, so as to truly feel that they will encounter difficulties in doing anything, and the joy of success comes from solving problems. Only by letting children feel and understand setbacks in overcoming difficulties can they cultivate their ability to face setbacks without fear. Therefore, when we educate our children about setbacks, we should let them intuitively understand the development process of things, truly feel setbacks, and realize that life has ups and downs, and there are pains and joys, so as to have a correct understanding of setbacks. Only by letting children fully feel setbacks in overcoming difficulties and correctly understand setbacks can they cultivate their ability to be fearless of setbacks, brave to overcome difficulties, take the initiative to accept new things, admit and dare to face setbacks. Parents should educate their children to adopt an evasive attitude when encountering difficulties, and encourage them to face reality and bravely challenge difficulties. "You can do it", "You are so brave", "Well done" and "Look at what you have done" ... These words help children build up confidence and inspire them to overcome difficulties. When children overcome difficulties again and again, they increase their courage and stimulate their desire to overcome difficulties. This makes parents' "you can do it" become their own "I can do it"! Children often have some personality shortcomings repeatedly in their daily lives, and many parents often make a hullabaloo about it. In fact, such a treatment is not conducive to the psychological growth of young children. In this case, we must first cultivate good psychological quality. When encountering setbacks, you should treat them calmly and don't over-amplify your frustration, which is an important factor to overcome setbacks. Hint at yourself at any time: everyone will encounter difficulties, "you will be safe when you come", and use psychological hints to alleviate frustration. For example, tell yourself "tomorrow will be better", cheer yourself up and make yourself feel hopeful. It is also necessary to create a relaxed situation so that children can freely express their repressed feelings and express their dissatisfaction, thus alleviating their unpleasant emotions; If children are angry or even furious, find some activities they like, attract them to participate, divert their attention, and let them find confidence in what they like to do, thus reducing or eliminating their frustration. 3. Teach children to treat failure correctly. Many times, it is often not the failure itself that brings the biggest blow to children, but his understanding of failure. For example, your son was not chosen to attend the party on behalf of the kindergarten. The reason he thought may be: "I am not as good as other children." But there are other reasons, such as "they need more little girls" or "they want to choose the best singers". This is not to teach your child to avoid responsibility-sometimes it is really the child's own reasons that lead to failure. "Anyone who does things will have difficulties at first", which must be told to children. Parents can encourage their children to stick to it without taking perfection too seriously. Don't rush to help children, let them try to meet the challenge in different ways. If children have difficulty learning to write, they can copy first. As children, their attitudes towards people and things around them are often unstable and easily influenced by emotions and other factors. When we encounter difficulties and failures, we often have negative emotions and can't treat failures and setbacks with a correct attitude. At this time, parents should tell their children in time that "failure is not terrible, as long as you are brave, you can do it well" and "learn from failure and see what to do next time". Parents should consciously take their children's failure as an opportunity for education, guide their children to regain their courage and try again boldly and confidently, and at the same time educate their children to face up to difficulties and setbacks and improve their ability to overcome difficulties and resist setbacks. 4. The expectations of children should be reasonable, and children should be trained to evaluate themselves correctly. Every child has his own strengths and weaknesses. Parents should make an objective evaluation and put forward reasonable expectations for the growth of children, so as to encourage children to work hard for suitable development goals. If parents only see the child's advantages and ignore his shortcomings, the child will be complacent because of his lack of understanding of his own shortcomings and cannot accept failure; If parents have unrealistic high expectations for their children, it will increase their psychological pressure and make them afraid to face failure; Of course, if parents always find fault with their children, belittle them and have no expectations for them, it will also hurt their self-esteem. Such children lack self-confidence and will avoid difficulties in order to avoid setbacks. In short, parents' unreasonable expectations of their children will increase their chances of encountering setbacks. On the contrary, parents' reasonable expectations can guide children to make a correct evaluation of themselves and make appropriate predictions about the difficulties and setbacks that may be encountered in achieving their goals. In this way, children will be psychologically prepared to bear setbacks and will respond objectively and calmly when facing setbacks. 5. Set an example for children and cultivate their confidence in overcoming difficulties. Psychological research shows that role models have a great influence on the formation and change of children's behavior. Setting an example for children who are not afraid of difficulties and overcome setbacks not only helps to enhance their confidence in facing setbacks bravely, but also reveals a truth to children, that is, we should not only admire anyone who is successful, but also admire and learn. There is no easy success in the world. Only those who keep making progress in setbacks can win the crown of success. When children encounter setbacks, correct and appropriate guidance is equally important. As long as adults guide and affirm correctly and successfully, it will undoubtedly give children a valuable wealth in life. Because children lack the ability to distinguish right from wrong, we should adopt the method of positive education, set a correct example for children, and enhance their ability to resist setbacks with the power of example. Because the power of example is infinite, in daily life, parents can tell their children stories of frustration education and the growth of great men. "Heroes have suffered more since ancient times", and people who have made great achievements in the world are tempered. I hope the children will follow the example of these celebrities and not be afraid of setbacks. Children's best direct role models in life are their parents. "example is better than words." Parents' attitudes and behaviors towards setbacks will exert a subtle influence on children's attitudes and behaviors. Children can also be their role models. For example, parents should instruct their children to record their experiences of overcoming setbacks. In this way, when the child faces setbacks in the future, he can be reminded to look at these records and learn from himself. Of course, the form of setting children as their role models is by no means unique. Parents and children can combine reality to create special forms suitable for their families.