In terms of academic qualifications, there are generally high education and low education.
People with higher education are generally winners in the education system. They have systematically studied the knowledge, have a set of good learning methods, can be passed on to others, can predict possible problems in the teaching process, and take certain measures to overcome difficulties.
People with low academic qualifications generally have no good experience and are not very successful in real life and study. When children's ability is constantly improving, parents can no longer guide their children, especially in areas that children have never been exposed to. There may even be a situation of "laymen educating experts", or parents themselves can only "be students".
People with a high degree of education generally have a high social status, have achieved certain value and have certain economic ability. The requirements for children will not be strict enough to get good grades. Because you don't have to rely on children to change the family's economic conditions, you also support your children's personal hobbies, such as painting, dancing and games.
People with high academic qualifications have experienced all kinds of studies and exams because they are excellent, know the importance of learning methods and understand the general rules of exams. It is often easy to get good grades, so I can say that I have a good idea about my studies and exams.
People with low academic qualifications are generally the middle and lower classes of society, and they can achieve certain value, but it is not easy. I feel the pressure of life and work, so I hope my children will study hard and change their destiny.
Because of my limited ability, I put my children's education in school and rely on school education. Because of this, parents have high hopes for their children and are stricter in their discipline. Children are only allowed to spend time learning the knowledge in books, and other hobbies of children, such as speaking and reciting, are basically forbidden because there is no exam.
Because schools and remedial classes have limited ability to give guidance to children in their studies, they have become an important dependence.
The biggest difference between parents with high knowledge and parents with low knowledge in educating their children lies in "watching you go" and "following me".
At this learning stage, exam-oriented education is the main factor, supplemented by quality education.
However, in many large companies and enterprises, the requirements for academic qualifications are relatively high, and the salaries of corresponding positions are relatively objective.
My friend, who came from an intellectual family, got good grades from childhood until he graduated from college and chose his favorite dance industry. My brother graduated from graduate school and worked as an intern in a large multinational automobile company after graduation. The internship salary has reached 1.2 million years, but it has only been two years, and the annual salary has reached 360,000.
My cousin belongs to the kind whose parents have high hopes. He has attached importance to children's education since childhood, hoping that his cousin can get ahead and change his life.
However, my uncle's education is limited, and my cousin's growth is slow, so it is more and more difficult to guide children's learning. For my cousin's future, I enrolled my cousin in a remedial class. And my cousin's favorite flute ran aground, because my uncle said it was "useless" to learn those.
My cousin's income is ok now, but compared with my friend's brother's income, it's just a heaven and an earth, and I only have my favorite flute in my heart, so I don't have time to study at ordinary times.
Friends and family have a "watch you go" attitude towards children. You can take any steps you can, and you are free to choose your favorite job or life. My uncle's family is a form of "learning from me" for children. It has a clear attitude of changing life and almost forbids other hobbies because it can't change life.
The influence of high-knowledge families and low-knowledge families on children is also very different, one is active and the other is passive. But they all want their children to grow up happily and live happily.
In contrast, people with low academic qualifications will have these problems about education.
1, the attitude of "comparison"
Families with low academic qualifications have no experience in educating their children because they have no successful educational experience, so most of them learn from other people's successful cases.
In other words, what others do, they do it themselves, hoping to catch up with others and succeed.
For example, when you see a friend giving a lecture to a child, you should make the child more confident and give a lecture to the child.
Seeing that my child's painting performance is good, I quickly signed up for an art class for my child. Unwilling to fall behind.
When you see that others write well and you can't teach your child yourself, sign up for a writing class for your child immediately.
I am very confident and want to apply other people's success to my children and achieve success.
Always educate children with other people's ideas, and change with other people's changes. In the end, they will learn a little at most, and they have no experience.
However, children will not be suitable for their own interest classes, leading to learning failure. Perhaps this will cause children's frustration, have a bad influence on children and even affect their enthusiasm.
2. Forever formal education
When a person can enter a large enterprise or company, he can often get a good position with a high degree, while a person with a low degree can only do grass-roots things. When a company lays off employees, it is often low-income people who are laid off, because it is difficult for low-income people to provide effective suggestions or measures to the company.
Because low-income people have no educational experience, no joy of success, and are easily laid off.
When they fail, parents can't find the real reason. I don't think I work hard enough and I'm not diligent enough. Therefore, in the education of children, children are required to spend more time studying and how much homework they must complete every day.
Because someone succeeded, it also caused many people to imitate. Although every industry and every major must work hard to achieve success, most of them are only "small achievements" and have no advantages in other aspects. In this fiercely competitive society, it is difficult to stand out without endorsement of other advantages.
3, the purpose is too strong, excessive and most utilitarian.
At this stage of our education, we mainly obtain academic qualifications through examinations to gain different recognition from others. Quality education, mostly preparing for extra points in exams.
People with low academic qualifications have more obvious utilitarian needs. To study any major, you must know whether you can pass the exam and get a certificate. Because such a foundation is the basis for others to recognize themselves. I usually let my children perform a program in front of relatives and friends from time to time to prove that my children are excellent.
This is mostly due to psychological compensation, because they have encountered many "bumps into the wall" in their study and work, so parents are more eager to have a sense of recognition and recognition of what their children have learned.
In addition, there is a kind of "usefulness theory", which is useful to do English and useless to learn to recite; Learning to sing is useful, but learning to draw is useless; It's useless to learn Chinese calligraphy, but it's useful to learn Olympic mathematics.
When a child wants to learn a specialty that is not recognized by parents, parents think it is useless. It is better to learn something "useful".
But Kochi families can let children learn what they like at will, and parents are also very supportive. This is in stark contrast to an ignorant family.
Whether it is a family with high knowledge or a family with low knowledge, their starting point is for the good of their children, but their own experiences and abilities have had different influences on their children, which has brought about great changes in their lives.