Try to teach children the correct names of various parts of the body, such as penis and vulva. This will help you communicate with your child more accurately and conveniently. The correct names of body parts will also help you explain to your child what sexual assault is. Children can also tell you clearly whether there has been sexual assault.
(2) Don't wait to ask questions.
Sometimes parents feel that their children never ask questions. In fact, sometimes you don't have to wait for your child to ask questions before you start talking. Parents can use the events around them or in society to discuss with their children. Explain to your child what you think about some problems, the preventive measures you should take to avoid some problems, and the solutions you should take after the incident.
(3) admit when you don't know.
Sometimes I don't know how to answer children's questions, or I don't know at all. It doesn't matter. Admit to your child that you don't know. A good way is to check the information with your child and find the answer. Through this matter, we can also set an example for children to be honest and solve problems.
What you do is as important as what you say.
Parents should pay attention to the nonverbal information their children get from adults. For example, mutual respect, loyalty, sharing housework, respecting the old and loving the young, helping others, being polite, being serious and responsible for work, being honest and trustworthy, etc. Will be passed on to their children through their parents' behavior.
(5) Respect your children.
Let's discuss three important factors that will affect how your children deal with the sexual problems of teenagers and future adults. These three factors are: self-esteem, privacy and how to make a decision.
Help children build self-esteem.
Self-esteem is a positive self-concept and a kind of respect and love for oneself. Good self-esteem is a very important part of mental health. Praise and support can promote children's self-esteem, while blind criticism is not conducive to children's self-esteem. Parents seem to have a natural ability to help their children build self-esteem. You see, parents gave their children great encouragement when they first tried to talk or learn to walk. Children's self-confidence and self-esteem need parents' encouragement, which lasts until adolescence.
Studies abroad show that teenagers who have strong self-esteem and feel good about themselves and think they deserve respect are less likely to have sexual problems than other teenagers. Teenagers with high self-esteem start having sex later, and don't start until they are more mature. Therefore, we should pay attention to cultivating children's healthy self-esteem, which is also an important part of making him mature.
Respect children's privacy
Children should be instilled with the concept of privacy from the beginning of sex education. When a toddler is told that something belongs to someone else, he will have some initial concepts of rejection. Tell children that genitalia is a private part of people. Without our own permission, others have no right to see or touch this part. Tell children not to touch other people's genitals.
When telling children that adults need privacy, it is very important to give them privacy. This means respecting children's privacy wishes as soon as possible and fully respecting their privacy when they grow up. In other words, when children go to school, don't search their rooms, don't peek at their diaries and letters, and don't spy on them behind their backs. Allow children to have their own ideas and practices.
When discussing some problems with children, we should be careful not to comment too much, so that children can feel that their parents are willing to listen to their own ideas and can have an equal dialogue with their parents. This way, the child is willing to tell you anything. Parents can also clearly tell their children their own values and the criteria for judging right and wrong.
Help children learn how to make decisions.
Cultivating children's decision-making ability and self-judgment ability is also a very important content of sex education. Most decisions about sex made by our children are made in private, that is, they are made without our presence and guidance. As children get older, the situations they encounter and the decisions they make will become more complicated. Parents should teach their children decision-making skills, tell them information, values, self-confidence, how to get the best results, and give them the opportunity to practice decision-making skills as soon as possible. In the process of learning to make decisions, increase your sense of responsibility. It is also important to support children to make decisions and respect their choices.
Before or after puberty, most children will face sexual situations and have to make a decision. He may need to know what a safe date or social activity is and what kind of situation is potentially dangerous to sexual assault. How to make better decisions in some situations depends in part on the skills and confidence they have developed in their early childhood.