Just two days ago, a mother and her child's teacher in Linyi, Shandong Province were still in the WeChat group, because of the child's homework: The mother thought that it was useless for the child to write some repetitive copying homework, which was a waste of life. The teacher was very worried about his parents, saying that they were "the first wonderful thing he encountered in 20 years of teaching".
This is very light. It was reported in the news before that my mother was hospitalized with heart bypass because of anger.
Excited to strike the table, hit the bench, and break the handle.
Now in China, accompanying children to do homework has become the first killer to destroy a harmonious family environment.
1, affecting the relationship between husband and wife.
Parents often tease on the Internet. It turned out that they saw the other half yelling at the child while doing their homework. They thought it was bad for their children, so they changed TA. As a result, TA soon became shouting and at a loss.
When children have problems with their homework, it is inevitable that the one who accompanies them will have emotions, and if they have emotions, they may be angry with the other half. He even thinks that it is unfair for the other half not to accompany the children to do their homework, so they quarrel with each other and affect the relationship between husband and wife.
2. Destroy the parent-child relationship
Homework problems are the most likely to destroy the parent-child relationship, because parents can't help yelling at their children, calling them stupid, hating iron and not turning into steel, and even fighting with them. How to establish a good parent-child relationship in such an environment?
Parent-child relationship is the foundation of family education. Once a good parent-child relationship is lost, children are unwilling to listen to their parents.
3, affect health
Needless to say, being angry is obviously bad for your health, not to mention those cerebral infarction and heart bypass that are angry because of accompanying children to do homework. Some parents ridicule that they are using their lives to accompany their children to do their homework.
It is precisely because of various problems in homework that some parents are angry with their teachers. Because the teacher assigned so much homework, the teacher asked them to tutor the children, and the teacher asked them to sign for accuracy, so no wonder they were angry with the teacher.
Moreover, there has always been such a remark on the Internet that "homework should be checked by teachers, otherwise everything is done by parents, so why use teachers?" They think that checking homework is the teacher's business, and now parents are allowed to check it. This is because the teacher is transferring his work to his parents, but he has made it easy for his parents.
I have always disagreed with this statement.
Educating children is not only the responsibility of teachers, but also the responsibility of parents. How can a parent who even thinks it is a problem to accompany his children to do homework be willing to spend time educating their children?
Recently, I saw "20 18 National Family Education Survey Report". This report is a family education survey conducted in 3/kloc-0 provinces and cities in China, led by China Collaborative Innovation Center for Basic Education Quality Monitoring of Beijing Normal University. Collected the data of 1.8 million students and 30,000 class teachers, which can be said to be more authoritative and detailed survey data in recent years.
A survey on homework in the report makes me feel particularly interesting, and on the other hand, it reflects how parents who attach importance to their children's homework affect their children's learning.
The survey found that the higher the parents' homework participation, the higher the students' grades and the more they agree with the value of learning.
Compared with students whose parents are less involved in homework, students who are more involved in homework in grade four and grade eight get higher scores of 30 (520 VS490) and 16 (503 VS487) respectively.
At the same time, the higher the degree of homework involvement, the higher the proportion of students who think "learning is valuable".
In the fourth and eighth grades, 80.2% and 60% of students who are highly involved in homework think that "learning is valuable", while only 58.3% and 33.7% of students who are less involved, which is still very different.
What does this mean?
It shows that the more parents pay attention to their children's homework, the more willing they are to spend time tutoring their children's homework, and the higher their recognition of learning, the better their grades.
In fact, the results of this survey are completely understandable.
When parents attach importance to their children's homework and are willing to spend time helping their children with their homework, this is the attitude of attaching importance to learning and putting learning first. Of course, this attitude makes children pay more attention to learning. On the contrary, parents who prefer to brush their mobile phones and watch TV to help their children with their homework after school are also conveying the value of "learning is useless". If learning is useful, why put children's learning behind mobile phones and televisions?
The homework problem is not just a simple homework problem, but fundamentally reflects the parents' attitude towards their children's learning and the importance they attach to their children's learning.
Parents who attach importance to their children's learning will not only help their children to do their homework, but also help them to expand and find problems and help them learn from a wider range; For parents who don't pay attention to their children's learning, it is a heavy burden for them to complete a simple tutoring assignment, not to mention spending more time helping their children learn in other aspects.
It is self-evident how the child's final academic performance is.