The key primary stage of education for children of all ages: don't deprive them of fun.
Children's primary school stage is mainly an important stage to cultivate interest in learning and good habits, right? Study? The first impression is also formed at this stage. When we grow up, we may not remember specific events, but those feelings will always be with us, affecting whether we should work calmly or avoid shrinking under the pressure of exams. Therefore, in the primary school stage, it is necessary to create an interesting and relaxed feeling for children. No matter what the result is, children are willing to try and have a look.
Junior high school: Don't deprive them of their sense of accomplishment.
When entering junior high school, children will not only be satisfied with fun, they need to really feel themselves? Sense of control? . But many parents still like to take care of their children like primary school and tell them when to do something. For example, a child reported that I had planned to do my homework at 8 o'clock in my heart, but at 7: 40, my mother began to urge me to do my homework, and I was very upset at once. I feel that my plan has been disrupted and I especially don't want to go. So the more my mother asks me to do something, the less I do it!
Parents, please don't deprive children of their sense of accomplishment when they are in junior high school. Trust your children.
High school: Don't deprive them of the opportunity to make their own decisions.
After the accumulation of learning ability in primary school and junior high school, children have more and more ideas of their own and want to practice them. If parents decide for them at this time, they will be very depressed. They may not be able to explain why, but they will find life boring and then lose their temper with their parents.
At this stage, please let the children be their own masters. Many parents think that children are not sensible and want to make decisions with them, which will be counterproductive. Especially in the face of senior three volunteers, if parents deprive their children of their rights, their children will be greatly affected. Tong Tong, a senior three student, originally planned to take the Communication University, but her parents wanted her to take the medical exam because they could help them arrange their jobs. At first, Tong Tong, who was particularly energetic, suddenly lost his direction and goal. He felt that learning was meaningless and the college entrance examination was meaningless. She told her teacher, teacher, you know, I am trying, but I don't know why I have no motivation and I can't see hope.
Parents of all ages should? Love? Some people say that parents can give their children the best love. What is the best love? It should be like this: according to the physical and mental development characteristics and needs of children at different ages, give appropriate love at the right time.
Today, let's look at what children of all ages need. Love? . How should parents of all ages go? Love? Children?
(a) 0~6 years old, love equals companionship.
◆ 1. Intelligence shaping:
0~6 years old is the fastest period of intellectual development, and 50% of intelligence is formed before 4 years old. Whether a child is smart does not depend on the number of brain cells, but on the number of connections between brain cells. Where there are many stimuli and thick brain neurons, where intelligence is developed.
◆ 2. Emotional cultivation:
Developed left brain and strong logical thinking; The right brain is developed and creative thinking is strong. Only by cultivating imagination and complete emotion can we have complete personality expression. At this time, don't restrain the child too much, but play with him, let him win and cultivate his warmth.
◆ 3. Personality cultivation:
There is a saying: if you are used to being responsive, you will be arrogant and rude; If you are used to not asking for anything in return, you will feel inferior and negative. Children's self-confidence and self-esteem are the most important, and parents should pay attention to this.
(2) 6~ 12 years old, love equals coach.
Children of this age will feel the strength of the group when they enter the group society, and praise or criticism can play the role of educational suggestion.
Words and actions convey the message of love.
The power of positive suggestion is very important. How you evaluate children will make them what they are, so you should evaluate them according to what you want them to be. Always convey positive thoughts, positive language and positive energy.
◆ 1. Self-confidence cultivation:
You must respect your child's interest and don't make him famous. We should educate with the thumb, not the index finger.
Praise must be timely, and face-to-face criticism should be relaxed and serious. Sandwich education can be quoted here: shortcomings are advantages, and criticism is hope (be sure to believe). What's the matter? What's the matter? Get rid of your mistake once and you will get better and better.
◆ 2. Habit formation:
Pay attention to details and be honest with yourself through your own efforts.
◆ 3. Reward and punishment:
Pay attention to his preferences and reward him then.
Don't reprimand in public, protect his self-esteem.
Even if your child does something wrong and makes you angry, you should separate things from love. If he makes a mistake, he should be criticized and punished, but the punishment is not to vent his dissatisfaction, but to educate and care. Every kind of education should be associated with love.
◆ 4. Responsibility cultivation:
Independence or dependence is cultivated, and you can do your own things, seriously and completely. Parents can do it instead of him, but not for a lifetime; But if you teach him to do it, he can benefit for life.
◆ 5. Learn while playing:
Interest is the best teacher. If you have fun, you can study hard.
(3) 12~ 18 years old, love equals respect.
Children of this age are becoming more and more mature physically and psychologically, so talking to children should be like talking to friends.
◆ 1. Parents and teachers:
Don't take the teacher's words as imperial edict. Let the teacher look at the children with appreciation and let the children like the teacher.
◆ 2. Academic achievements:
Children's mental health is more important than academic performance. A temporary achievement cannot represent the success or failure of a lifetime, but a continuous growth can achieve a lifetime. Never let children feel guilty and guilty because of poor grades.
◆ 3. Give an idea:
Parents should guide their children to become honest and kind people, people who contribute to the family and society, and people who are respected.
◆ 4. Give the platform: